𖹭 𝚖𝚊𝚝𝚝 𖹭

Well maybe I don’t WANT to work double as hard as abled people!! Maybe I deserve a BREAK!! Maybe I’ve been working MORE THAN double as hard for MY WHOLE LIFE and it’s led me to immense burnout & caused me to develop several MORE disabilities!! Maybe I should be ACCOMMODATED so I don’t have to KILL MY BODY AND BRAIN over trying to do what abled people can do!! Maybe I DON’T have to work double as hard!! Maybe if there’s the option to let me NOT work double as hard, I should have it, because I’m already working double as hard JUST TO SURVIVE!!

Oded Fehr as Ardeth Bay and Brendan Fraser as Rick O'Connell

Oh to be the openly gay teacher that helps queer teens come to terms with who they are

Oh to be the teacher that doesn’t make fun of a kid for crying in class

Oh to be the teacher that makes you actually want to go to school

Oh to be the teacher who doesn’t let kids sit alone at lunch

church, extracurriculars, summer camps, school classes, their biological family's houses. notably, these are the places that child abuse is enabled by the child's inability to just fucking leave if they need to. they can't walk out of church if their youth pastor touches them inappropriately; they'll get punished for leaving. if they walk out of their house because their dad hits them, the cops pick them up and give them right back to their dad.

children need the legal autonomy to leave abusive situations in order to even begin to usefully materially address child abuse.

The reason you don't see it reflected in the statistics as much is because it's underreported, not because it doesn't happen. If you look into survivor groups, or ask professionals who treat C/SA survivors, you will find thousands upon thousands of people who were assaulted by women and girls.

This is idea does so much harm to survivors of female-perpetrated C/SA. It prevents them from even realizing they were assaulted in the first place, when it would be seen as "obvious" had the abuser been male. It prevents the police and legal systems from even considering to investigate because they don't even see it as a hypothetical possibility. It prevents people from getting the mental healthcare they need because of how under researched it is.

People are not being "over-dramatic" for calling you out for erasing this issue.

People are not "derailing the conversation" by asking you to at the very least remember the tons of survivors who were abused by women, during discussions of C/SA.

like - humans especially traumatised ones are resistant to change. it takes a lot for people who were abused and shit to get out of the mentality that they deserved it. it takes a lot for someone who believed they were unlovable to change that mindset. it takes a lot for someone who grew up in an unsafe environment to feel safe again.

but being AUTISTIC on TOP of that?? it’s horrid. your mind hates change and so those lessons that were beat into you are the only reality your mind accepts. it’s so much harder to heal when change is that fucking scary - even if it’s positive change.