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Adding @fatfemmefreaquency tags because they are really important. Romance is talked down because it's mainly women and queer people writing and reading it, but it's still the most sold genre out there, this is known.

I do agree with everything said here, but I have a bit more to add to "self-censorship". It mainly comes down to social media (which we all know). Because, using myself as an example, I can't fully promote what I write in pretty much any social media without getting it flagged. You can't use many, many words in many, many social media platforms. Patreon allows smut but then sometimes it gets hidden because some random criteria never fully explained. Insta and TikTok are basically hell for anything remotely sex-related. Tumblr is on thin fucking ice because I have to hide most of my stories with the "explicit sexual content" tag which removes it from a lot of people's dashboards and search. Because it's starting to influence the way we talk out of social media, which is what really concerns me. We do not need to "sanitize" sexuality, we need to talk about it more freely before they cut any more rights. Like what do you mean you use "unalive" in a fucking book? THEY KILLED THEM! Use real words, don't infantilize and puritanize the world just because of a few people might get uncomfy or angry. Might be a pet peeve of mine, too 😂

It's a whole campaing against sexuality, and as someone with a fucking PhD on History of sexuality, THIS IS FUCKING BAD!!! We need to fight against this. Sexuality might seem like something silly to many people, but it's one of the first things they try to control. It's been like that for centuries. Please, don't let the bad guys win this one. Because remember something which is fucking important when talking about media in any form: women and queer people are the ones mantaining culture. Stop selling everything to the capitalistic and patriarchal freaks to get validation.

One of the central conceits of Western culture is that allowing oneself to feel any kind of pleasure at all is somehow inherently damaging and harmful. This is an idea we need to work to uproot from our minds.

a neophallus can get erect with an implant (this will either be a bendable rod or a device that inflates with saline at the press of a button, usually in the testicles)

both can feel sexual pleasure and experience orgasm

most neovaginas will be able to tolerate larger insertions with enough dilating/training

the nerves in neophalluses take a while to regrow but it is incredibly rare to experience no sexual nerve growth

both can look and feel "normal" if that's what you want, just take good care of your scars and look at your surgeons' results portfolio (and don't be afraid to be picky! its your genitals, you get to decide!)

in fact it's possible for many people to stealth and for their sexual partners to never know. even for phallo, some people with natal penises have erectile implants too, ED is common. neocaginas are often indistinguishable from natal vaginas

many surgeons are starting to offer preservation options for patients who want a more mixed look/don't want to lose what they have

you can have nothing and retain sexual function, even! it's called nerve-preserving nullification. similarly to other bottom surgeries, they use the most sensitive tissue (glans/clit) to create a subdermal pseudoclitoris

yes you can pee like normal. urethral reroute leaves a small hole at the perineum (taint)

all the advice about scars from OP applies here too!! take care of yourself well and it can heal well

in most every society and economy, children have no rights to bodily autonomy. a child must be educated in their body and their rights to it to know that their body is being abused by a parent or family member. they must know how to speak about it to report it. they must TRUST someone to do so.

that person must then trust their report. then intervene. the family must believe the victim - and more importantly, they must care. they must care enough to remove the abuser and block contact with them.

this is difficult if they are financially or physically or otherwise reliant on the abuser

the abuse must not be normalised in the family. they must have resources to call on. education to engage with. there must be help available for them to ask for. everyone must care.

for all of the above, people have to be able to talk about it. express it. discuss it. and yes, make art about it.

all these pressure groups are always concerned with western family values, and "family values" say "protect the children", but the people who are meant to "protect" those children are typically the patriarchs and matriarchs who supposedly do so by having absolute power and control over those kids

when family matters above all, when the priority is always to "keep the family together", "protect the family unit", when protecting kids is thought of in the same breath as keeping them together with their parents or grandparents or other blood connections, what do you do when those people abuse?

and don't get me wrong, the reason that giving those kids over to the state is because the state will also allow those children to be abused. many foster parents are abusers, and children's homes and young offenders' wings and other institutes are rife with abusers. you're just not related to them.

no matter where kids go, they don't have rights. their words aren't respected. they're treated as talking points and possessions to be passed around at will - they have no agency, no autonomy, to the point that a child WANTING autonomy or agency is literally treated as a joke

god forbid any of us talk about that. the world would fucking crumble if we started talking about incest and incestuous abuse as a pillar of our society, constant and continuous, committed by parents and grandparents, siblings, loved ones, and not by some stranger danger creepy distant uncle

for any address to twitter you can replace the “x.com” with “nitter.net” and you will be able to browse as if you have an account. Lifesaver.

So in case anyone needs it: