Mari ★ she/he

⋆ My name is Maricara but I prefer you call me Mari ⋆

⋆ Currently living in Romania again until further notice, but I'd rather speak in English as I don't plan on staying here ⋆

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【Some topics within this blog may include sensitive, offensive, or triggering themes】

【I may get very confrontational or aggressive while making posts when talking about things that I care about or have strong opinions on】

【This blog is mostly dedicated to expressing my experiences with DID】

【I have DID, professionally diagnosed when I was 26 years old】

【Do not refer to me as a "system", do not refer to me as they/them, or any kind of collective. I am a single person with alters that are parts of who I am, still only 1 person.】

【Don't ask to meet or talk to any of my alters, no one wants to talk to you nor even knows you exist】

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× Non-Traumagenic, Endogenic "Systems" × Believe in the majority of or have a majority of introjects of fictional characters, animal, demon, evil, supernatural, or nonhuman alters × If your "littles" post to social media × If you claim to have DID through self-diagnosis (not a real diagnosis) × You were "diagnosed" as a child or early adult × You have a "system name", especially if it's some corny shit like "the galaxy collective", "the sunflower system", "hell's angels system", etc. × TransID supporters × Proshippers and comshippers × Racists, homophobes, transphobes × Xenogender and neopronoun users × Lesboys and turigirls, mspec lesbians and gays, contradictory labels, etc. × RadQueers × Typing quirk users

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✽ #mari spurges : random postings or thoughts (positive) ✽ #mari rants : random postings or thoughts (negative) ✽ #mari dissociates : anything specifically referring to DID or mental illness in any form ✽ #mari arts : original drawings ✽ #mari writes : original writings ✽ #mari answers : responding to anons

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Obviously if you CAN seek a diagnosis DO SO, use the resources at your disposal and all that! But to ignore that a majority of people cannot seek diagnosis for various reasons is incredibly privileged. And before you lobby accusations of me being Pro-endo, i am not. I am Anti-endo, you cannot have a CDD without trauma, full stop.

I live in and grew up in a very poor country, I had little to nothing to my name throughout my childhood and early adulthood. You have absolutely no idea who I am, what I went through, and what things I have access to. To immediately call me privileged because I do not believe in self diagnosis is beyond confusing. Again, you should not be diagnosing yourself with anything because you are not a trained professional--you can absolutely suspect you have something but do not give yourself that label cause you very well could be wrong.

Question: What is the issue with xenogenders and neopronouns? Can't say you're against transphobes while being transphobic against nonbinary people who don't identify the way you like (this seems to be a running theme on your account...). Are they too queer to be Queer for you? Pickme behavior tbh.

Question: What's the issue with "system names"? Just a weird thing to care about tbh.

Question: What's with you assuming every DID system would not form a "large" (which is subjective obv) amount of fictives? Where the hell do you think the identities for alters form? Is it simply that your system is mainly based off of real people in your life? Do you think your alters are in any way similar, or are essentially OCs of how you perceived those people to be? (This is what I mean by this being a pattern, why is your whole thing invalidating other people/systems because they not like you. Makes you feel more valid? Please work on your self confidence. Makes you feel like you're "fighting against misinformation"? Educate yourself on information that isn't from the 70's or whatever)

The amount of your DNI that is just "thing i find annoying" probably is a little pathetic. Use the block button like an adult. Don't worry, I plan on blocking you after this, it'd be better if neither of us have to see each other past this.

Figured I'd call out your shit. I figure if you can dish it out then you can take it?

Also, not a radqueer or (pro-)endo, so don't even sell that shit. Officially diagnosed and actually working towards being a better person. Hope that's your goal too, and you realize that harassing, invalidating, and fakeclaiming systems isn't doing shit, especially when you could never know who is and isn't one. Doesn't help anyone, especially not actual systems, and is actively harmful to survivors of abuse that probably have enough losers in their life telling them DID isn't real (Hell, my own therapist said it to me. Ableism is everywhere, don't add to it.)

Hope you have the day you deserve 🩶

I've never harassed anyone so I have little faith in you actually taking the time and reading through what I've said in the past. Which is also noticeable since you're asking questions I've already answered and are easily available, being linked in my pinned post.

Yes I am absolutely against self diagnosis because you are not a professional, you are not a doctor, you are not a psychologist. You can absolutely suspect you have something but to label and diagnose yourself without confirmation is just plain stupid. There's a reason we have trained professionals who know what they are doing and know what to look for and diagnose.

Here's the answer to your second question since you're either lazy or chose specifically to ignore it

Another question I've already answered

Again.... Another question I've answered both here and more in depth here.

I very much have things I find annoying in my DNI because people annoy me. And you think I don't block people? I often do! I haven't once commented on anyone's post saying anything or starting any argument, everything I've said in return to someone is something that THEY have commented first on my posts.

DID doesn't present exactly the same in every case, I've been vocal and very aware of that obviously. But people fail to understand that there is criteria to have it and must still fall in line with it in some capacity.

The overdramatization of DID on the internet has lead to so much misunderstanding and mischaracterization of the disorder. People have made it "fantastical" and "cool" and I find great problem with that.

Did you even read what she said? It's fragments elaborating and getting an identity. If it needs to be quick and in a way they can front easily, it will be. There's no point in fragments elaborating like that unless it was for a purpose and that purpose may be needed quickly, hence why people can just go "oh yeah uh this dude showed up"

What you're doing isn't cool and goes against some medical studies. IO is literally a psychology student who is studying CDDs as the thing she is most interested in. She knows what she is talking about.

I have also studied Psychology and SUD research, as well as have been working with professionals for over a decade and a half for treatment and understanding of my own disorders and the causes and affects of it.

I never said you cannot form an alter quickly, obviously it can happen at any speed, it is the fact that your knowledge, it's knowledge of itself, and it's roles, personality, and basic sense of self is not a quick process. "This dude just showed up" is unrealistic and a gross overexaggeration and mischaracterization of a dissociative, amnesiac disorder.

My two best friends are a butch lesbian woman and a straight trans woman.

Insinuating that lesbians can like men is extremely harmful to the lesbian community and my friend. If you like men (trans men or cis men), you are not a lesbian. Furthermore, my friend is constantly being labeled as not being a woman because she is masculine, which is absolutely disrespectful and very misogynistic. The amount of times people have told her that she is transmasc or a trans man is absurd.

Not to mention my trans friend still having been told that she can still be a gay man because she was "born as such" is homophobic and transphobic. This wasn't said by an anti-lgbt person by the way, this was said by a "radqueer contradictory label supporter" after she had told the person that women cannot be gay for men.

Fuck you and fuck anyone who supports TransIDs and this disgusting bullshit.