Another Anti River post. Warming up for the next really big one but I needed to get this one off my chest. Scroll or block me if you’re offended.
No, Husbands of River Song does not prove that The Doctor loves River Song. Let’s break down the infamous scene.
“Go on, scan the whole parsec! He's not here. God knows where he is right now, but I promise you, he's doing whatever the hell he wants and not giving a damn about me! And I'm just fine with that. When you love the Doctor, it's like loving the stars themselves. You don't expect a sunset to admire you back. And if I happen to find myself in danger, let me tell you, the Doctor is not stupid enough, or sentimental enough, and he is certainly not in love enough to find himself standing in it with me!”
Here, River is setting up a false dichotomy. If he’s absent he doesn’t love her, so if she’s wrong and he’s present, he does. She believes that the Doctor doesn’t love her because he won’t show up for her in this specific moment. The issue is, this is improper logic from the get go. Whether or not the Doctor is willing to put himself in danger alongside someone is not a good thermometer for whether he loves someone. He will stand in dangerous situations for complete strangers. So “if the Doctor loved me he’d be here right now. I don’t think he’s here because I don’t think he loves me,” is already a logical fallacy. He doesn’t have to “love someone enough” to stand in danger with them. It’s just what he does.
The Doctor shows up. He is there. And because River and the audience all have that false dichotomy of “absence in this moment means no love and presence means love,” we are set up to view this as “oh. He must love her because he’s here when she didn’t think he’d be and he called her sweetie”.
When in reality, the simple fact that the Doctor is there in that moment has nothing to do with whether he loves her or not. This scene neither confirms nor denies that the Doctor loves River.
If anything, the scene leans on denying he loves River. Because he doesn’t actually correct River’s statement that he doesn’t love her. We know the Doctor is capable of saying the words “I love you” because he said them to Rose Tyler. She just didn’t hear them because of the connection being severed while he said it. And I think having a love confession cut off like that would make any individual do everything possible get the words out next time if they ever felt romantic love of that depth ever again. (Let’s also not forget that even this encounter between the Doctor and River only happened because the Doctor no longer had Clara around)
That said, my interpretations aside, the entire scene objectively neither confirms or denies that the Doctor loves River Song because the basis on which it’s trying to claim he loves her isn’t logically sound.
It would be like me getting on a horse who regularly breaks into a gallop and saying to my trainer “this horse won’t gallop for me because he doesn’t love me.” Then deciding the horse loves me after all because he listened to my cue to gallop. The horse’s willingness to gallop has nothing to do with love. It’s the same train of logic.
The other events in the episode also don’t confirm or deny that that the Doctor loves River either. Him taking her to Darillium and giving her a sonic screwdriver doesn’t indicate anything because he’s fulfilling what he knows has to happen. And he’s finally accepted that it has to happen, possibly because River is the last remnant he has of Amy.
Yes. This was another negative post. But it’s the kind of post I think I would’ve liked to have read when I was very young and new to the fandom and confused as to why I didn’t believe in the Doctor/River love story. And I want fans like that to have something to validate them.