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The "idgaf" mindset has become very popular in recent years. It emerged as a way to learn to stop worrying about the opinions of others and to live a detached and free life, and I myself followed this mentality However i started to really think about it and discovered many flaws in this mindset so I'm sharing them on my blog ofc ♡ according to psychology

1. the natural sensitivity of human beings

This mindset claims that whoever adopts it will instantly stop caring about the opinions of others, as if adopting this mentality directly changes everything and allows you to remain detached from everyone. This is where the brain's natural sensitivity comes into play; it's called negativity bias. The human brain is literally programmed to focus on potential danger, therefore on the negative. Unfortunately, trying to force yourself to adopt a detached mindset won't work and will only make you feel guilty. It is, of course, possible to improve this negativity bias, but not to eliminate it completely It's normal to be concerned about the opinions of others and to be a little hurt by an unpleasant remark (so don't be hard with yourself angels ♡)

2. perfectionism about your normal feelings

It's well known that our emotions aren't meant to be perfect we aren't meant to be detached from everything. Unfortunately, by adopting this mentality, many inflict this suffering upon themselves. Imagine always having to pretend that nothing affects you, Honestly it impacted me, but especially my friend who was forcing herself to remain detached from other people's opinions. She wanted all her feelings to be perfect, yet that's impossible we're made to feel negative sometimes.

3. the guilt-tripping

With perfectionism comes guilt, and what could be more destructive than starting to feel guilty about your own feelings This mindset will make you believe that worrying is a sign of weakness and that your emotions are invalid ( it’s literally stupid ) Personally, I felt a lot of guilt about it. I'm a very sensitive girl ( don't make me cry TWT) so trying to act like nothing affected me made me feel very guilty and with the machinery of social media, people pretend in front of others that they don't care about anything, and you wonder why you can't just not care about anything. And it's very likely that you start trying to perfect your emotions It usually won't work and will make you feel guilty

Of course, this doesn't apply to everyone, and this mentality suits some people ( i love saying something and then say the opposite ) But I think it's important to give my opinion so you can think about it for yourselves I hope you liked this; it takes me a lot of time to write all of this lol

So here's a blog about how to be kinder these days we see thousands of tips on how to be prettier, hotter, etc and even though appearance is important what's inside is even more so. So here are some tips that helped me a lot I was a temperamental child, and even though it was due to trauma, it really made life difficult for those around me, so yeah, I know exactly what I'm talking about.

1. the intention counts as the deed

Here, I want you to understand that even if someone does or says something clumsy, try to understand their intention rather than their action. Some people are naturally bad at expressing themselves, even when they're genuinely trying to do good. So instead of getting upset over an awkward joke or a poorly chosen gift, try to appreciate the person's intention behind it. This will allow you to be kinder and truly appreciate people

2. everyone has a different sensitivity

This point is very important and well-known. Indeed, everyone has different sensitivities and levels of empathy. You might find that someone's emotions are exaggerated in the face of a situation you consider trivial, but everyone experiences things differently. You might find some people overly sensitive, but that's their feeling, and instead of judging and dismissing it as trivial, you must understand that if a situation makes someone cry, it means they are truly affected, and you must accept this feeling and not minimize it ( DO NOT MINIMIZE SOMEONE FEELING cuz it's make people feel misunderstood and it invalid their feeling)

3 . as long as it helps you sleep better at night

I chose this title because it's the phrase I always use ( hehe ♡ ) to express that as long as someone's actions don't negatively impact anyone, you shouldn't judge them and should let them do what makes them happy. I avoid sharing my personal opinions on my blog, but I believe that as long as a religion, belief, or practice doesn't negatively impact anyone, you shouldn't judge them and should let them be and do what makes them happy I think everyone has their own way of seeing things and living their life. Even if you don't share the same opinion, why be mean to someone? This tip is the most important because it literally cultivates empathy for the differences in others

4. you know they name, but not their story

She's not mean she's unhappy" We tend to quickly label someone as bad or cruel just by looking at their attitude, and yes, I know some people really do have horrible attitudes. But instead of judging the person, judge their behavior. Instead of saying "this girl is bad," say "this girl has a bad attitude." Indeed, people can seem mean on the surface, but have you thought about what might have made them that way? Some people have lived incredibly difficult lives, more than you can imagine. So instead of being devoid of empathy for these people, try to see beyond their tough exterior. I'm not saying to accept their behavior; trauma explains a behavior but doesn't justify it. I'm just saying that a little compassion for them would be appreciated.

This is the end of this blog. I honestly loved writing it. I also want to point out that nobody's perfect; things aren't always black and white. Life is made up of different shades of gray, so even if you're not always nice to others, that's normal because we're human. The important thing is to improve, not to achieve perfection. Having huge problems with being overwhelmed myself, I'm not always pleasant to those around me, but I try, and that's what counts.

● psychology and neurology

Most people are unaware of how much the subconscious can literally change us, if you want to glow up and become the best version of yourself it all starts here I will explain the impact of the subconscious in everyday life and how you can use it to literally become better I will do a series of blogs on how to get better but let's start

1.the use of the subconscious

The subconscious mind mainly has 2 things

● passive memory : It's the actions you do unconsciously without really thinking about it, walking, talking, chewing food etc.

● neural diagram : and that's where it's important the subconscious controls your actions according to the way you think and act the more you think and think in a way then your subconscious will convince itself that it's true so think good of yourself ♡

2.limiting belief

A limiting belief is an idea that your subconscious believes to be true and that blocks you in your daily life. For example, if you constantly repeat that you are bad at math, the next math exam will have a greater chance of failing because your brain will act accordingly to your limiting belief by telling you that you are bad, you will not make an effort unconsciously.

3. Confirmation bias

your brain looks for proof of what it already believes so if you want to reinforce an affirmation give confirmation to your brain to reinforce ♡

4.Tips 𐙚

● daily affirmations

Practicing daily affirmations can be a good way to reprogram your subconscious, especially when you wake up and before going to bed, it is even more effective

● Make vision boards, it's another way to stimulate the subconscious and it's very effective.

● prove the opposite of your limiting beliefs

If your limiting belief is "I can't get a good grade," you have to prove yourself wrong by getting a good grade. It's silly 🥲 but it works

● surround yourself with positivity

If you are surrounded by negativity it will eventually get to you. Surround yourself with positivity and protect your peace ♡

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🐇 Friend tips 🐇

Here are 10 tips to make friends easily. These are tips that mainly play on psychology but are in no way manipulation because it is just horrible and cruel to manipulate people. These tips will allow you to make friends more easily. I was like this girl who was always alone and always came home alone and I had like one friend but now I have several friends who are dear to me and these tips allowed me to do it but I also approached the right people who seemed to correspond to me. I also invested myself and took the time to understand and know these people because although these are very good tips, true friendship is created over time ♡

౨ৎ Transforming an interaction into a shared experience

often use "we" this will unconsciously make the person believe that you have spent a lot of experience together and will strengthen your bond

in social psychology the use of "we" reduces the psychological distance between individuals and facilitates connection ♡

𝒢𑄺 call the person by their first name

This may sound a bit silly, but when you call someone by their first name, it immediately triggers a positive reaction in his brain because it is associated with his identity and from my personal experience it has always worked because generally I feel closer to those who call me by my first name

೨౿ Use the mirror technique

The mirror technique consists of subtly imitating the way a person speaks or acts, for example, if they start to speak more quickly, start to speak a little more quickly, if they lower their voice, lower yours a little. I often use this and it creates a connection with the other person

in reality it creates an unconscious connection and a unconscious feelings of similarity

۶ৎLeave the conversation with a good impression

ends the conversation before it gets boring because people usually remember of the last impression you left

𝒢𑄺 Make the person believe that they are nice to you

ask the person for a small favor, like asking for a pen, etc., and when the person does your favor, remind them how kind they are to do that because subconsciously the person will feel helpful. No one likes to feel useless This works even more on boy who have a greater need to feel useful

୨ৎ Share a little secret or a slightly embarrassing anecdote about yourself

tell something just a little embracing not a big secret or something that others should not know just a small anecdote to instill trust between you because the person will believe that you feel comfortable with her by sharing this she will then feel more comfortable and confident with you and if she also shares a little secret about herself with you then it has worked very well

I remember that I often used this trick to make friends more easily with people I had just met ♡

𐙚 Use the red thread technique

This is my favorite technique because it works very often, it's just about creating an inside joke/reference that you and only that person can understand

If something special or significant happens to you with this person, take advantage of it to create an inside joke that you can use later because it greatly strengthens the bond and creates a good closeness for example one day I was with this girl that I had met and we both wore the same color clothes so I said that we were tomatoes and the next time we saw each other she told the other that we were tomatoes but it was only me and her who understood this joke and you can use it on almost everything ♡

my angels don't forget that to create a true friendship you need time and patience These tips can make it easier for you but will not give you friends instantly each person is different and you can get along more or less with different people but above all stay yourself I think that is the most important advice because if you are yourself you will necessarily be different and what is different is irreplaceable I have a friend who is literally so crazy and stupid sometimes but that's what makes her so special that's what makes her so indispensable because when she is not there we get bored enormously despite the fact that she can seem embarrassing to some So don't change for anyone because no matter what you are like, there will definitely be people who suit you , that's all ♡

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🥛 7 DAY PILATE CHALLENGE 🥛

Here is a perfect Pilates routine for a flat stomach and with a corset effect if you have trouble getting results you will surely get results with this the exercises are short but very effective because it targets special areas I spent a lot of time studying the different parts of the abdomen and seeing the exercises that work best so this routine is perfect ♡ Sorry if some expressions I use sound weird, I speak French and English is a secondary language ♡

୨ৎ Monday

https://youtu.be/7HF92d0X3Jc?si=ujf1M8S_sMw6EGOj

This one works the whole stomach, it will promote the flat effect, if you can't do certain exercises, there's no point in forcing yourself, your body will get used to it little by little

https://youtu.be/BbhVokFdq6M?si=uwVau8ji_fMYh_GB

So I love this one because it will work especially the obliques, the obliques are the abdominal muscles that will give you this corset effect ♡

𝒢𑄺 Tuesday

https://youtu.be/fsBMDHcc_xo?si=EdLRwVZyOiVOZQGy

This one is for the whole body but focus more on the stomach. Don't forget to hydrating , it's super important

https://youtu.be/7HF92d0X3Jc?si=ujf1M8S_sMw6EGOj

It's the same as for the first day because the most important thing is repetition. It's important to do the same exercises again

۶ৎ Wednesday :

https://youtu.be/BbhVokFdq6M?si=uwVau8ji_fMYh_GBj

you will rework the oblique area ♡

https://youtu.be/DJqXVhI3ykk?si=4YOB1Q4-ketsjdJ6

This exercise is great, it works the abs.

𐙚 Thursday

https://youtu.be/BbhVokFdq6M?si=uwVau8ji_fMYh_GB

https://youtu.be/MnlZBWPVF8o?si=OoPybmfASoqIeJCP

೨౿ Friday

https://youtu.be/7HF92d0X3Jc?si=ujf1M8S_sMw6EGOj

https://youtu.be/DJqXVhI3ykk?si=4YOB1Q4-ketsjdJ6

⠀ ୨ৎ Saturday

https://youtu.be/fsBMDHcc_xo?si=EdLRwVZyOiVOZQGy

https://youtu.be/7HF92d0X3Jc?si=ujf1M8S_sMw6EGOj

𝒢𑄺 Sunday

https://youtu.be/MnlZBWPVF8o?si=OoPybmfASoqIeJCP

https://youtu.be/BbhVokFdq6M?si=uwVau8ji_fMYh_GB

don't forget to eat more protein and drink plenty of water

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🌸 Princess pilate 🌸

I do Pilates 5 times a week. I try to do short sessions. I adapted this routine to my body and my morphology, but I wanted to share it with you to give you ideas and motivation. I learned a lot about Pilates, so you can ask me any questions you want about it ♡

https://youtu.be/BbhVokFdq6M?si=E_gGIktQJ_tym6ra

This exercise is very important in my routine because it specifically works the oblique area. These are the muscles that will give you a slim waist with a corset effect. Plus, it only lasts 5 minutes. If you have an inverted triangle or rectangle body shape, it's perfect for you ♡

https://youtu.be/7HF92d0X3Jc?si=EiiUkMuamZvxYWqO

I just do it to get a flat stomach because I get bloated easily and I really want that flat stomach

https://youtu.be/VPC9Q9VXnjQ?si=ZlnIjwqTm0u6mZ7E

The exercises for the hip dips cannot completely make them disappear but as I also use subliminals with them I hope to have these very round hips. Btw, go see my post on subliminals, it is very detailed and I give very good subliminals 100% to listen to.

https://youtu.be/FenSBprd1EI?si=aEGVIj_xx2Um2e5I

It's an exercise for the thigh gap and I also use a subliminal that will also help me. I want to clarify that I do Pilates to improve my health and glow up so it's like therapy. I don't do it for an obsessive purpose. Please my angels, take care of your body and listen to it ♡

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🗒 ~ Study girl ~📖

Today I had exams in history geography and I got the results of my previous test in mathematics for the previous test I got 3/10 it's a horrible mark because the minimum is 5/10 and I was so disappointed and my friend got a 6/10 and she kept complaining about her mark in front of me while I got worse

and for my history geography exam I think I did pretty well I'm quite proud of myself ♡

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💌 Angel diary 💌

hiii everyone today I'm going to show you all the subliminals that I use for glow up I want to clarify that I only use subliminals that do not contain affirmations about god or the universe because as a religious person I do not believe in the universe but everyone is a belief and for me subliminals are just affirmations that enter the subconscious and not a spiritual practice linked to astrology if you are religious be very careful with the subliminal you listen to

also I do not believe in the law of attraction or anything else because it is a contradiction to my religion and therefore a contradiction to the religion of monotheism ( islam ♡ Christianity ♡ Judaism ♡) I am absolutely not criticizing the beliefs of others, I am just providing prevention for religious people who intend to listen to subliminal audio.

۶ৎ It's like a booster that I use to be detached because subliminals work better if you are detached

https://youtu.be/v4VjlAqVAQc?si=PnFNwKxEfx5x-F6v

𝒢𑄺 It's to have the face that I want and if I have results I will share with you obviously it does not contain frequency or morphic field you can use all the subliminal that I put in this post it is 100% safe for you my angels

https://youtu.be/-0HT1sQdiHU?si=hlscAEVk8puQY6i5

೨౿ It's the same thing but for the body because I dream of that hourglass body wow ♡

https://youtu.be/wsQEDTaYaZg?si=Gmkymi1i4cYSzOm1

𐙚 To have wonyoung and thewizard liz self confidence I love it ♡https://youtu.be/QDjLOYK5egc?si=bBJxmvyQ12VP1DgU

౨ৎ I use this to increase my IQ because literally every girl wants to be a Victoria's Secret Angel and also Isaac Newton and obviously there is no subliminal to attract love money or anything because for me it is God who gives that and not subliminals and I insist a lot on religion

https://youtu.be/7K0UNzx6a1M?si=4qn_epyDARSbIMc6.

𝜗⍴ that's all I listen to I will show you my results if I have any and you can use everything there is here I don't want to give you a safe creator because sometimes it uses morphic fields but I can advise you on 100% safe subliminals for religious people

I give you all the advice to improve your French. French is my language, my mother tongue, so I have been speaking it since I was about 1 year old, so I can give you advice ♡

೨౿ Learn false friends: These words that look similar in French and your native language but have different meanings can be confusing. For example, "actuellement" (in French = "currently" in English, not "actually," which means "in reality")

𝜗⍴ Focus on prepositions: In French, prepositions are crucial and often difficult for non-natives (for example, we say "attendre le bus," but "attendre à la gare"). Work on the most common ones

۶•ৎ. Use immersive resources: Watch series or movies in French without subtitles or with French subtitles. This will help you get used to everyday language usage

𝜗⍴ ⠀Learn idiomatic expressions: They will make you sound more natural in French. For example, "avoir la tête dans les nuages" (to be distracted) or "tirer son épingle du jeu" (to manage in a difficult situation)

𝒢𑄺 Practice irregular verbs: Many verbs in French change unexpectedly. Knowing the most common conjugations (like être, avoir, faire, aller, etc.) is essential

೨౿ Use spaced repetition: Use apps like Anki to revise vocabulary and conjugations through flashcards, spacing out reviews to better memorize them

𝜗⍴ Record yourself speaking: Listen to yourself afterwards to spot pronunciation errors and improve your accent

𝒢𑄺 Ask questions in French: When you learn something, try to ask questions in French about the topic to reinforce your understanding

۶•ৎ Focus on logical connectors: Mastering words like "en revanche," "de plus," and "cependant" will help you structure your sentences more effectively

𝜗⍴ Don’t be too shy: Don’t be afraid to make mistakes while speaking. The more you speak, the better you will get

I still have hundreds of tips to give you to improve your French. I hope this will help you ♡

Post suggestions? 𝜗⍴ ⠀

1 : i don't care what you think about me. i don't think about you at all

2 : keep your heels, head & standards high

3 : doll face honey voice peaceful mind angel heart

4 : shine with all your might, light up the world

5 : If someone says you can’t do it, do it twice

6 : Make amends in private, be happy in public

7 : Kill them successfully, then bury them with your smile

8 : Every day is a fashion show, and the world is the runway

9 : Be like a starbeautiful to look at but impossible to catch

10 : Remove from your life those who suppress your smile.

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