the Escapades of a Brown Sugar

I’ve never done ppm. I’ve never done “x allowance for y meets per month”. I wouldn’t do them now. If you really want a guys financial attention long term, make them care about you. Let them take care of you. Don’t let them know they’re paying for it. It doesn’t matter if he told you he loved you, that’s lust. Once it gets too expensive or the new shiny bauble comes by, you’re history.

If you want that to last, you need to make yourself indispensable to these men. You need them to think that you’re a one and only. You also need them to forget they’re paying you. Most men will quickly grow tired of their wallets being the only way to get his attention. Yes by then you might have gotten a lot of cash out of him, but think about how much more you could have gotten.

I’m not saying be clingy, i’m not saying be lovey dovey, i’m saying be special. become an integral part of their life, so those bank transfers feel normal, like paying bills, not like paying this girl to be nice to me. Don’t do nice things because they buy you stuff or give you cash. You might think that’s counter-intuitive but consider it. (Most of) These men aren’t stupid. they can tell that you only stay over when you get offered a gift. They can tell that you only responded to them when they said they’d send you a gift card. They can tell you only care about the money. And, unless he’s a financial submissive, he’s gonna drop a girl after a while if all she values in him is his cash.

That’s why I encourage you girls to get off these sugar sites. I’m not saying you can’t make money off them, i’m just saying the payoff to how much work you have to do is low. most SRs these days are just long term escort client relationships. Don’t be afraid to break the mold and actually date these dudes. You get so much more money when you actually mean something to them and aren’t just another piece of ass they have to pay for.

This shit is NOT for shits and giggles. Don’t be blinded by the luxury pics of BMWs, Chanel bags, Louboutins, and slim girls on vacation drinking champagne.

I’ve been a sugar baby for approximately a year now, I’ll be 24 in December. The shit I’ve learned AND endured the past year are lessons I’ll one day teach my daughter. I have no problem with a young girl entering the bowl, but do it for the right reasons. Once you enter this life, it will FOREVER be apart of you. Never steer away from your morals for some money, gifts, and/or vacations; the shit isn’t worth it in the end. TRUST ME.

If you don’t have the hustler mentality, this life ain’t for you sweetheart. These men will walk all over you; and the LAST thing I want to happen is for some young girl to be taken advantage of just because she wanted some nice shit.

If you can’t do your own research, this ain’t for you. No one is going to spoon feed you info. There is no sugar baby handbook. Research first, google is there for a reason. If you have questions afterwards, then ask. None of these girls on here owe you a damn thing. The same way we learned this info, secrets, and tricks you can learn them too. So be grateful if a girl answers your questions, but don’t get an attitude if she doesn’t.

Set goals for what you want to achieve in the bowl. It’s so easy to be blindsided by the money coming in that you forget why you started doing this in the beginning. If you got loans to pay off, stick to that. If you’re saving for something, stick to that. But don’t forget that money goes into this lifestyle. This lifestyle is an expense. You need money to maintain your hair, nails (mani/pedi), makeup, transportation, spending money, feminine essentials, clothing, etc. Shit adds up so don’t be ashamed to charge that man the money you KNOW you deserve. Never forget your worth. If you’re scared to ask for an allowance raise or a PPM raise, this isn’t for you. CLOSED MOUTHS DON’T GET FED. The same way your SD isn’t afraid to ask for sex/head/companionship, don’t be afraid to ask for those funds!!

Last but not least, learn when to walk away. If you’re becoming overwhelmed with the bowl, take a break. NOTHING is more important that your mental/physical health! You might lose out on some money for a while, but there’s always men in the bowl waiting. Still do those activities that you enjoy whether it’s reading, sleeping, watching Netflix, whatever it is do it. You can’t be the best SB if you can’t properly function on a day to day basis. Take care of yourself. Go to a spa, do some retail therapy, sleep in for a few hours, spend time with friends and family; just do something outside of the bowl. You’re going to need it for those days where you don’t want to talk to old men all day and night.

Let me tell you about the DC Scene for my beauties that are tired of SA and many others… Remember, you gotta spend money to make money!

1. Hang out at private clubs. 

Chevy Chase Club 

Metropolitan Club

Trump National Golf Club

Potomac Boat Club

University Club

Cosmos Club 

Sulgrave Club

2. Go to Five Star, Michelin Rated, & Authentic Restaurants

Tail-Up Goat

Plume

Kinship 

Minibar

The Dabney

Ocean Prime

Mastros

Blue Duck Tavern

Cafe Milano

3. Hang out at Five Star Hotels but look busy & like you belong 

Mandarin Oriental 

Four Seasons

Ritz Carlton (Georgetown, 22nd, & Tysons) 

Sofitel

Trump

Willard

Park Hyatt

4. Go to the Rooftop & Cigar Bars - Freestyle 

The Graham 

POV

The Watergate

Shely’s Back Room

Civil

5. Participate in events

Washington Theatre

The Kennedy Center

Verizon Center

The Washingtonian Events

6. Hang out in wealthy areas

City Center

Tyson’s Corner Galleria 

Georgetown 

Downtown 

22nd Street

Annapolis

Leesburg

Potomac

Chevy Chase

8. Look Cute but not overtly sexy

Form fitting dresses that are not too revealing

Skirts

Anything flowy

Nice fitting jeans

Sexy top

Heels or wedges

9. Speak! (I’m a little more flirty) I’ll have a book or notepad in hand while looking busy

“The tie looks great on you.”

“Did you pick out that color?”

“Why haven’t we met yet?”

“Are you texting me, because I haven’t received it yet.”

“Drinking without me?”

“Somethings missing ____ (insert catchy line).”

“How long have you been waiting on me?”

“You don’t have to look anymore, I’m right here…”

See I’m quite direct, humorous, and flirty. Tap into your sensuality. He’ll appreciate your courage!

A couple places are just towns. Look up cafes, museums, shows, even a higher end grocery store, or CASUAL events in these areas (You don’t want to pick something like a movie theater, where it’s not appropriate to have a conversation, use your phone, and the lights are off)

And lastly, research appropriate times! The DMV is unique. So its rare, but not impossible, to find potential sugar daddies around 9-5 on the weekdays UNLESS they’re out at a company lunch or taking a client for day drinks between (12-2PM).

Let me tell you about the DC Scene for my beauties that are tired of SA and many others… Remember, you gotta spend money to make money!

1. Hang out at private clubs. 

Chevy Chase Club 

Metropolitan Club

Trump National Golf Club

Potomac Boat Club

University Club

Cosmos Club 

Sulgrave Club

2. Go to Five Star, Michelin Rated, & Authentic Restaurants

Tail-Up Goat

Plume

Kinship 

Minibar

The Dabney

Ocean Prime

Mastros

Blue Duck Tavern

Cafe Milano

3. Hang out at Five Star Hotels but look busy & like you belong 

Mandarin Oriental 

Four Seasons

Ritz Carlton (Georgetown, 22nd, & Tysons) 

Sofitel

Trump

Willard

Park Hyatt

4. Go to the Rooftop & Cigar Bars - Freestyle 

The Graham 

POV

The Watergate

Shely’s Back Room

Civil

5. Participate in events

Washington Theatre

The Kennedy Center

Verizon Center

The Washingtonian Events

6. Hang out in wealthy areas

City Center

Tyson’s Corner Galleria 

Georgetown 

Downtown 

22nd Street

Annapolis

Leesburg

Potomac

Chevy Chase

8. Look Cute but not overtly sexy

Form fitting dresses that are not too revealing

Skirts

Anything flowy

Nice fitting jeans

Sexy top

Heels or wedges

9. Speak! (I’m a little more flirty) I’ll have a book or notepad in hand while looking busy

“The tie looks great on you.”

“Did you pick out that color?”

“Why haven’t we met yet?”

“Are you texting me, because I haven’t received it yet.”

“Drinking without me?”

“Somethings missing ____ (insert catchy line).”

“How long have you been waiting on me?”

“You don’t have to look anymore, I’m right here…”

See I’m quite direct, humorous, and flirty. Tap into your sensuality. He’ll appreciate your courage!

I would do a bit more research. Don’t exchange sexual favors for money.

This is still incriminating and can be seen as solicitation if you ever find yourself with law enforcement, whether you’re a “sugar baby” or not, whether that is the nature of your relationship or not. Especially if you are receiving a monthly allowance, or doing things like PPMs.

Also, to the law, none of this matters- sugar baby, escort, same difference. To the law, a whore is a whore, is a whore… Just like how it doesn’t matter if you call them “donations”, “considerations”, or anything of the like. If you have sex, and are getting money under this guise, it is illegal.

LE knows what all of this means, and they will use it against you. 

Now I remember, that was the mindset I had when I began sugaring in the first place, but the amount of horny, desperate men skewed that at some point down the line. I used to write about it.