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Good morning, afternoon, evening, or night, everybody. I hope everyone is having, will have, or has had a good day.

A question, for anyone who wishes to answer — what is something (or some things) that makes you feel euphoric? Feel free to share if you want.

I think nobody in this community acknowledges some ARE groomed into this community, and thats because this community does not post about safety, risk awareness, what consent REALLY is (being fully aware of what is happening, being able to say no after saying yes, having safe words, ect), nor educational pieces on safety half enough - making it very easy for manipulators to thrive in this community

Which does not make this community nor its ideals inherently evil like antis say, nor does it inherently mean every aspect should be thrown out the window, thats the exact same as anti-kink anti-bdsm mentality honestly

It's simply that its very easy to lead an uneducated person, or even an educated person who feels trapped into this community, giving them a hundred labels that makes them feel tied to their abuser, and then labelling the relationship as con-abuse

cause nobody seriously dives into the risks of con-abuse, how such a relationship should have breaks and aftercare, outside of anti-rhetoric

I'm talking from experience, It happened to my system, and we are, on a labels and identities level, entangled with our abuser, and still spiral into "well originally i consented, even if I said no later and tried to set up boundaries, maybe he just thought it was all part of the game"

And I am not the only one!!! I've talked to other!!! People in the radqueer space who admit they wouldn't be here without their abusers!!! When people say they were groomed into it, it is NOT just anti rhetoric, theres more substance in these claims

We need awareness, pdfs filled with safety tips, when to take breaks, how to abuse someone safely, how you can hurt someone safely, I want a world where the first thing you see after looking up conabuse is "here's a article on how to do such safely" "heres a class on how to do such safely" "heres a book on the ethics and how to do such safely"

I want a world where we acknowledge the grooming, how identities can be manipulated, twisted, this isn't just a radqueer issue, my otherkin identities were twisted too, so intertwined with theirs it felt like even if I escaped they'd still be who I am.

I just want more safety highkey

Tips on Disconnecting from NatuRace

im going more in a nullrace direction since there isn’t a specific end goal mentioned

- Keep in mind physical features may be more common in a certain race, but what you look like is not indicative of race

- However it could be kinda fun to try to mix and match your features to feature common features from multiple different races

- Learn multiple languages for funsies

- In a respectful way, you could mix and match practices from different cultures

- Orrrr only practice things that many cultures share and cannot be traced back to any specific culture/place

- Dyed hair/contacts if you want to mask features

- Alllll different kinds of music

- If anyone asks where your from/your race you should just make hilarious and vague comments

- eg. say your race is 100m dash, you’re from the woods

- Also your race can literally be anything dont forget that

- we have an alter who is NitrogenRace so like be free

- just fyi

- Bread is in every culture they all love bread

- eat bread

not just roleplay grooming, not just kink stuff. real, actual grooming. when you are a chronominor being groomed by a chronoadult, the behavior they are perpetuating towards you is normalized. when you’re being groomed, you don’t realize you’re being groomed. you don’t know it’s wrong or harmful because the offender’s behavior is normalized. they will do anything in their power to make it seem like a normal, consensual relationship. they will make the chronominor feel like they have a sense of agency they don’t actually have.

i was groomed at the age of 14. i was with my abuser for 6 years. i didn’t realize i was groomed until nearly a decade later. 10 fucking years i didn’t know i was groomed, 10 years that i didn’t have an issue with what happened to me because my abuser told me it was normal. and now i want to tear my fucking skin off. i feel sick thinking about the fact that i trusted them and that they knew what they were doing was illegal, they KNEW what other people would think. but it was always “you’re really mature for your age” and “honestly, i’m at about the same maturity level as you are. I’m immature for my age” and “we could have met in high school, so it’s not a big deal” and “you have to keep our relationship a secret because people wouldn’t understand”. literal textbook grooming and abuse stuff that flew over my head because they made it feel normal to me.

so when chronominors get annoyed with chronoadults saying they can’t consent, when ANYONE is advocating for chronoadult/chronominor relationships or sex to be legal, when people want to legalize CSAM? it’s terrifying to me. because i thought i was consenting in my chronoadult/chronominor relationship. i thought i knew what was best for me. but i didn’t. i don’t think chronominors are stupid, but they are far more vulnerable than chronoadults, and the potential for exploitation is already so high even without chronoadult/chronominor contact being legalized.

and you know, even if you’re a chronominor and think “but i can consent, i know what I’m doing!!”, you know what? other minors might not. and you might not even realize that you’ve been in a nonconsensual abusive grooming relationship until it’s too late.

and do NOT get victim-blamey on this post. i sincerely feel that “oh i would have known better” or “minors aren’t stupid, they don’t need to be babied” are statements that contribute to the victim-blaming of chronominors. i was not stupid. i didn’t need to be babied, i needed someone to tell me i was being abused. i couldn’t have known better because my abuse was normalized to me.

i sincerely sincerely urge this community to think long and hard about what grooming actually looks like, because it is not always something you can immediately identify. think about the fact that allowing chronominors to interact romantically or sexually with chronoadults would allow abuse like this to flourish. if you are against noncon harm, you have to take steps to protect vulnerable populations. no one’s paraphilia is worth endangering a whole world of chronominors for. you can handle not having contact with a chronominor/chronoadult if it means that countless others will have some way to fight back against their abusers.

i’m not trying to be hateful or judgmental, but please. just think about this.

— x.n.

Radfleur / Floral-RQ

Some ideas for a term for those who are somewhat between being F.L.E.U.R. and Radqueer for being supportive of things Fleur doesn't really have a stance on, or against some things some folks in the RQ community like to say makes you "not actually a RQ"

Can also be used as a general term for those who participate in both tags, for visibility.

Stances are the same as Fleur's stances, outside of the not associating with RQs part, and accepts RQs as long as they have the same stances as Fleur, with reasonable flexibility such as critical stances. Also generally against hateful labels relating to regressive political ideologies.

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Very much a self-indulgent coining for myself as I post in both tags for visibility, but I completely align myself with Fleur over the general Radqueer community due to the amount of individuals that support non-consensual harm.

The tag for Radfleur is mostly intended for coiners, and Radfleur Community would be better for non-coining posts. :)

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