i just don’t think “is dude gender neutral” is that productive of a conversation because a word can be gendered and still used regardless of gender. i call my male friends girlypop and my female friends man but i don’t think anybody would agree that those are somehow not gendered terms.
the real question is just “would you be willing to apologize and stop using a word if somebody told you it made them uncomfortable?” the answer to which in a surprising number of cases is no mostly because it seems like overall ppl r more upset abt getting accused of transphobia than they are abt being transphobic
#my friend asked me not to do this and it was so simple and easy to stop doing i do NOT understand people who cannot comprehend this#its just like the pronouns and the name thing like ‘haha ok’ *removes it from my lexicon*#if your homie asks you to stop doing some shit that makes them uncomfortable i PRAY they listen ong#its the bare minimum and some people still are tripping over the bar in hell
