What are some signs you are in a Healthy Relationship?
Obviously you can have many “green flags” and still be a bad choice, but here are some things that certainly make it look good early in a relationship that apply to both women and men - the more the better:
Kindness to Everyone & Everything. You, the waitress, random clerk at the store, dog outside waiting on its owner. They’re the person who would pick up an injured cat and bring it to the vet without a second thought.
Respect of your Boundaries. Whether it’s sleeping together or just going out when you feel like staying in. You’re never pressured to comply with anything.
Put your Needs above their Own Wants. You just sprained your ankle? They don’t even suggest going for a walk, and plan the evening to watch Netflix and make popcorn. Have a big meeting at work tomorrow? They make sure you’re in early even if they have the day off.
They Share You. They’re not jealous, and are happy that you have friends and family - encouraging good relationships with all of them.
Kind Humor. They can laugh at themselves, and have a good sense of humor overall…but not at another’s expense.
Future Focus. They don’t live for the now, but think of the impact of actions in the future, what they want for their lives, etc..
They’re Natural Helpers. They see opportunities and jump in. A elderly woman struggling with groceries? They’re there. Someone who helps others is more likely to pitch in when you need it too.
Maturity. They’re not still hanging out with their “buddies/friends” every night, “ghosting” people on text, playing video games until 2am, etc. they’re beyond those things.
Fiscally Responsible. They may have a luxury item or two, but they don’t blow their paycheck on “stuff.”
Always Respectful to You. Not cursing at you, raising their voice, texting others while you’re speaking to them, etc..
Patience. If something doesn’t go their way, they can roll with it.
Emotionally Open & Communicative. They talk about their feelings when happy and when struggling, they can have a dialogue about your relationship, and can communicate well.
They have Good Self-Care & Encourage Yours. This includes good habits, but also addresses taking care of any mental or physical problems that come up..
An Always Growing Mindset. They are always seeking to be better than they were yesterday, and are open to learning and even getting feedback.
Empathy and Interest. They take an interest in your interests, and are empathetic to your dreams, hopes, issues, pains, and concerns.
Supportive. They are genuinely your biggest cheerleader, and always wanting for your success.
Hard worker. Someone who, by nature, is always striving to be better in their job, life, and wants the best for their future family or spouse as well.
Anticipating your Needs. Whether emotional needs (you’re a romantic), physical needs (affection) or needs because of a preference or problem, they are always looking for the best way to meet them before you ever have to say a word.
I’m sure there are others, but these are some of the bigger green flags I see early in a relationship that often bodes well…and they apply across the board.
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