#higherself advice

This is a list of recent fiction books I've checked out that romanticize money, marrying wealthy, and strategic relationships. Every one really kept me in an aspirational headspace :･ﾟ✧:･ﾟ

Stone Cold Fox by Rachel Koller Croft. My current read, about a glamorous, social climbing conwoman. I love books like this that really explore the psychological side of old money and hypergamy. The main character is a borderline sociopathic manipulator bent on achieving wealth and success and is constantly put into social situations where she has to scheme to maintain control. Weirdly reminds me of thewizardliz due to her self-sufficiency and preference for money's stability versus actual romantic love.

White Ivy by Susan Yang. My absolute favorite book, about a young woman obsessed with wealth and status. Encapsulates the vibe of "marrying up will save me from my current life." This book was incredibly personable too, where the protagonist is ambitious but incredibly unhinged in a way that feels realistic and practical. I loved the physical prose used in this book to describe luxury and materialistic items.

The Social Climber by Amanda Pellegrino. I'm going to be very transparent, I did NOT like the ending of this book whatsoever. Felt incredibly choppy. But I absolutely loved the original world-building, especially the depiction of elite social circles and the intricate power dynamics of old-money families.

Saying it's not is low-key just another way of saying afro features aren't feminine. That's just not true. What's not feminine about black hair. Everything about black hair is feminine from the care to the maintenance of it screams fem. Not going to rant about it, I'm saying this to say there are so many feminine looks that can be done with natural hair.

Always trust your instinct because that’s your true angel guiding you.

Never forgive a cheating partner because they will never stop cheating.

Don’t reveal your full potential to whoever you are dating, it gives them the opportunity to easily use and dumb you real quick.

Don’t over show someone when you truly love them, they will surely abuse it. Remember the weakest person in a relationship is someone that is in love more, while the strongest is someone that is in love less.

Let your NO be NO. It’s one of those method of giving boundaries.

It is easy to say “ I love you” but takes time to prove, anybody that start using the I love you slogan after just a single date is a joker.

A failed relationship is far less cheaper and better than a failed marriage. So don’t be sad.

If they are not what you want in the beginning, then move on and don’t fall in love with them.

Never procrastinate on your plan or goals because of a relationship.

Learn to love yourself to the extent that you don’t need to look for a love from others. Avoid being too emotional dependent.