"You girls keep me young."

This is designed to disorent you, force you into a defensive position and leave you apologising and unlikely to raise an issue again. Survivors come away from these interactions confused and dazed.

Get comfortable with these phrases

"My recollection of events is not up for debate."

"That may be true, but we are discussing your behaviour right now."

"Let's focus on what actually happened."

"You are holding me accountable for your actions"

Don’t ever hug a lobster when you see one on the street,

For decorum is essential when a lobster you must greet.

You may comment on the weather, compliment his choice of hat,

But crustaceans like their space if one should stop them for a chat.

Don’t ever hug a lobster when you’re strolling down the coast,

Simply nod and give a greeting, or a handshake at the most,

For a lobster’s first priority is formal social graces,

And one seemes over-familiar if a lobster one embraces.

Don’t ever hug a lobster when you meet one in the sea,

For a lobster’s spines and chitin make it difficult, you see,

And he might become self-conscious if you bring that fact to light,