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Do y’all hear yourselves?

No one ever had to teach me that treating the people I care about with empathy, respect, and consideration is the bare minimum. No one had to sit me down and lecture me on why the people I love deserve my support and kindness. I treat them well because I love them. This isn’t some complex, ungraspable concept.

If he’s “incapable” of treating you decently, maybe it’s not because he hasn’t been “educated.” Maybe it’s because he doesn’t want to—or doesn’t care enough to try. Why he doesn’t want to (male socialization, never being called out on his self-serving and abusive behaviors, simply not liking you enough to) is irrelevant. The fact is: he doesn’t want to. Point, period, blank.

a copy of the document can still be found on the archives website. I think now is probably a good time to read it if you haven't and download it, incase it is erased from here as well.

Nana Osaki has a discomfort around the idea of traditional feminine roles and what's 'expected' from her as a woman. The main reason she feels her relationship with Ren doesn't and won't work long term is he's fixated on wanting to have children with her.

However for Nana this'd get in the way of her desired career as a singer and also her future. She deems becoming a housewife and having to provide only for a man as 'the worst fate imaginable'. This is the main reason for conflict with her relationship with Ren.

While Ren isn't abusive in the same way as Takumi he does force Nana into doing things she doesn't feel comfortable with nor want to do. It's because of this that her relationship with Ren is so toxic for the both of them.

On Hachi's side, most of her issues seem to revolve around a clear case of comphet and struggling with her feelings for the women in her life. Hachi desires what Nana least desires (becoming married, having kids etc.) however romance with men is painful and isolating for her.

Hachi's first relationship being with Asano, where she was groomed while she was still a minor ruined her perception of how relationships should be. She only started dating Shouji after he guilt trips her into a relationship (and sex).

Hachi constantly states wanting a friendship with Shouji and how much it means to her however she starts dating because everyone around her acts like she's leading him on. So she dates him, then Shouji gets mad she doesn't act how HE wants her to act.

Shouji literally cheats on Hachi with Sachiko because she wouldn't just sleep with him all the time whenever he wanted. Hachi wasn't 'submissive' enough, Sachiko was.

Then on Hachi's part her 'liking' of Takumi was only in a way of how girls idolise a celebrity. There's no genuineness behind this because there's a fictional distance between you and them. Once Hachi actually meets Takumi she notices there's something wrong.

Hachi only got with Takumi because she was feeling abandoned and left behind by Nana who started focusing more on her career. Her entire relationship with Takumi is a cycle of abuse on making her think she needs him while he's aware she doesn't actually love him.

Takumi doesn't love Hachi, he only loves the amount of control he has over her. He literally treats her like his dog and both Nana and Hachi are aware of this. However it's not easy to break out of an abusive relationship just because you're aware.

Especially since with Takumi Hachi is able to have a child, which is something she's wanted since she was young. Obviously she doesn't love Takumi but on her mind, someone who never had a clear idea or desire for the future. It's the only thing she can do.

Especially since from her pov 'Nana doesn't need me anymore'. I'm not saying everyone needs to read the characters in a sapphic pov but none of the relationships they end up in are healthy for either of them, they both have men forcing their desires onto them.

Nana and Hachi's love for one another is the focus of the series and if it ever continued they'd definitely develop their relationship further. There's a sense of freedom in their love for one another that they can't get with men.

To conclude, Hachi has clear symptoms of comphet and she is likely a lesbian but struggles with seeing her feelings as valid. Where on Nana's side she can't achieve what she wants to achieve in life if she's dating a man because they'll always have different life desires.

confusion

when your character first developed feelings for a man, they may be confused at first. something along the line of “what are these feelings? why am I feeling this way?”

self-hatred

they may see their own attraction towards other men as a “sickness”, a “weakness”, something that is “wrong and not normal” and they may turn all of these as hatred towards themself.

fear

they may have this fear of being rejected by society or their friends/family/colleagues, etc, as well as the fear of their secret, their “shame”, being exposed. also the fear of being seen as a “freak”.

are they religious?

if your character is religious and they have internalized homophobia, they will most likely see being gay as “a sin” and believe they will be judged/punished for it.

what’s the root of their homophobia?

are there any trauma involved? were they ever violated or abused by another queer person in the past? or did their parents or legal guardians hit them when they showed signs of being queer in their youth? or were they raised with the belief that being gay is wrong?

how they react?

A lot of people say they’re fully against brutality, torture and exploitation *until* they have to actually analyse their own day-to-day habits, change their mindset and maybe adapt their behaviours in order to live by their own values (of not harming others for no good reason)

Until they do so, the mere mention of animal rights can provoke the kneejerk reaction of laughter and scorn, and violence remains okay to them because it’s what they want to do and it’s what everyone else is doing

Or people hide behind ‘no ethical consumption under capitalism’ when needless animal exploitation would still be unethical under socialism or another hypothetical future. ‘No ethical consumption…’ doesn’t mean ‘Let’s make the worst and most destructive choices possible, when we don’t need to, just because we can’

People will bring up the issue of subsidies/the way supply and demand doesn’t perfectly correlate as a reason for abandoning individual action, as though animal rights was solely about food choices and not dismantling the massive complex web of how we objectify and view other species as lesser and disposable (as tools/entertainment/fashion/sport)

People will advocate for things like the BDS movement and generally promote the idea of individuals joining up to build collective power to enact change until they’re faced with boycotting animal subjugation and suddenly it’s uhh everything is fucked we have no control no ethical consumption under capitalism sorrrry

People will talk all day long about fighting injustice in the abstract but scoff when confronted with the fact that the behaviours they enjoy partaking in cause harm and uphold a belief system that says that others should be harmed for the sake of the pleasure of those who hold power

So… unnecessarily inflicting unwanted pain on others is unjust except when it inconveniences you and interrupts your daily pleasure-seeking? You believe in justice and advocating for vulnerable groups unless their suffering benefits you? What kind of political stance is that

Calling yourself a leftist whilst supporting egregious, systemic violence inflicted on those with extremely limited power, committed on a scale our brains can barely comprehend, because… it feels good? because you’re in a position of dominance over those you pay to harm and you don’t want to stop? ok

So it makes no sense to use the laws of nature and compare us to other animals in order to argue that it’s okay to treat our fellow creatures this way.

Hi friend,

I’m Esraa from Gaza. As the war resumes, my family and I are enduring unimaginable suffering. We urgently need food, safety, and basic necessities. Even the smallest act of kindness could make a world of difference.

Please, help us in any way you can 🇵🇸💔.

Who is more trustworthy around children?