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At the same time, we also see that Satan attacks marriage. That is why it is so important for each person to faithfully fulfill the role God has given them within it. The husband is to lead the family, and the wife is to humbly accept and support that leadership. Many marriages fail because these roles have become blurred. Both spouses want to lead, but a family cannot function well with two leaders. According to the biblical pattern, the wife's role is not to lead but to willingly submit and be obedient.

Her calling is not to build a career or fulfill other people's ambitions, but to help her husband in his work and calling, because that ultimately benefits their family. She is called to build a warm and welcoming home from her husband's provision and to manage those resources with wisdom. Her purpose is not to seek the approval of others, but to be her husband's glory and crown through her gentleness, modesty, and well-kept appearance. She should strive to be beautiful in her husband's eyes, not according to the standards or desires of other men.

She also has the responsibility of raising their children in accordance with her husband's expectations and passing on the values he has established for the family.

The example children see in their parents is extremely important. We can only expect from them what we ourselves are willing to model. The husband and father is the head of the household, and the children should understand and respect that. Above his authority stands only God's authority, and as a Christian man he is called to seek God's will first. Because of this, his family can trust his decisions and confidently follow his leadership.

Many family crises begin when a wife's rebellion becomes so open and obvious that the children feel free to behave the same way. This should not be allowed. Children must be taught obedience, and if necessary, a wife should also learn this principle from the very beginning of marriage. This is the key to a healthy family: an obedient and humble wife who is her husband's beauty and crown. Such a marriage bears beautiful fruit, and those fruits reveal the character of the tree.

"Each tree is recognized by its own fruit. People do not pick figs from thornbushes, or grapes from briers." — Luke 6:44

It begins with the modern belief that every woman needs a college degree. My great-grandparents would not even have understood that idea. What does a woman need a degree for? Is it required to cook? To raise children? To keep a home? Does a diploma help you serve your husband? Does it make daily prayer possible? Is it necessary for pregnancy or motherhood? None of these call for a degree. What higher education does require, however, is time—and once that time is gone, nothing can give it back.

Then there is work outside the home. It is a tragic world in which women are compelled to work away from their homes, separated from the one place where they are truly irreplaceable. I believe that if we desired a little less, were content with a more modest standard of living, and humbly accepted what our husbands provide, in most cases this would not even be necessary. But if the desires that are stirred up in young girls are not curbed early, if they are not taught their proper place, if they are allowed to win every struggle within the family instead of learning to respect the authority of the head of the household, then their hearts will begin to long for what lies outside the home. Even as teenagers they will become restless and difficult, always wanting something bigger, better, or more beautiful instead of gratefully receiving what the head of the family provides.

A mother's example plays a tremendous role in this. Does she receive what she has with humility and gratitude, or is she constantly demanding more, acting defiantly and disrespectfully toward her husband? And, of course, the head of the household must truly lead his family with Christ-like, firm love, giving each member both appropriate rewards and appropriate discipline when necessary. Only the proper balance of love and discipline can preserve peace within the family.

The men in our family do not encourage the women to become involved in politics, because they believe it is not a woman's calling. We are emotional by nature, and they believe that emotional decision-making is harmful in politics. Before marriage, shared values and faith are considered the two most important matters, but these are discussed not with the young woman herself, but with her father. That is why it is essential for a daughter to receive firm values and a strong faith within her family. Then she will know her place, understand her responsibilities, and know that when she does wrong there will be correction, together with the opportunity to learn from it.

So do not spare the rod from your daughter or your wife, for in doing so you show them where their place of safety is—the place where they are protected and cared for. If you send them out into the world, you may lose them, and they will encounter many satanic influences. Undoing those influences in a girl or a woman is extremely difficult and often comes only through many tears.

Stricter love at home brings greater peace and fewer tears. A wife's place is in the home, and that is where her calling lies.

Being a godly, biblical wife isn't something we practice only when it's easy or convenient. Submission to our husband isn't something we can pick up and put down depending on how we feel. It is a continual posture of the heart and part of the role God has given us within marriage.

It's easy to embrace the idea of being a submissive wife during the good seasons of life. It's easy to agree with our husband when he's making the decision we would have chosen ourselves. In those moments, submission feels natural, and we may feel proud of how willingly we follow his leadership.

But what about when his decision isn't the one we would have made? What about when our husband chooses the harder road or a path that feels less comfortable to us because he sincerely believes it is best for the family? Can we resist the urge to argue, and instead humbly accept his leadership as the head of our household?

God created men and women differently because He designed them for different responsibilities. A wife was never meant to carry every burden placed upon a man's shoulders. She was not called to bear the primary responsibility of leading, providing, or carrying the weight of every major family decision. God entrusted those responsibilities to husbands, and He did so with purpose and wisdom.

That does not mean a wife's role is small. Far from it. We have been entrusted with the precious calling of nurturing life, raising children, and building a home. We carry the challenges of motherhood, the sacrifices of caring for a family, and the daily work of creating a place of peace, comfort, and stability. Day by day, we are called to cultivate a home where our family can flourish.

When we spend our energy constantly resisting, arguing, and competing for authority, we not only create tension within our marriage, but we also step outside the order God established for the family. God appointed the husband to lovingly lead, and He gave the wife unique gifts through which the family is strengthened and blessed. Through her care, wisdom, encouragement, and faithfulness, she helps turn a house into a home and becomes a blessing to her husband and children.

As long as you live in your parents' home, you owe them obedience. In their house, you live according to their rules. Even if you have reached the age of 18, you are not considered a fully grown adult if you do not have a husband and a family of your own. When your father transfers his authority over you to another man, your husband, then you become an adult. Until then, you owe respect and unconditional obedience to both your father and your mother.

This also includes accepting punishment if they deem it necessary. In the same way, you should later accept punishment from your husband if he decides to discipline you. From early childhood, girls should be prepared by their families to accept the role and responsibilities of womanhood. The loving strictness of parents and grandparents will be very beneficial in later life.A husband will be grateful for this, since a good wife requires less correction than an unruly and unproductive one who must constantly be put back in her place, even with the help of a belt if necessary. According to this view, a girl raised according to biblical principles, who has not been spared the discipline of the rod, especially after reaching an age suitable for marriage, will become a good wife.

You must make something from what you receive from your husband. You are given the house so that, as a wife, you may create a home. You are given the fish and the meat so that you may prepare nourishing meals from them. You are given the seed so that you may conceive and bear him children.

A child is a gift from God and, together with you, belongs to the husband. You must raise the children in such a way that they become a source of pride rather than shame to your husband. If a child grows up useless or dishonorable, it is your fault, and you deserve punishment along with the child.