softening in service

Traditional Husbands also have a huge part to play in a traditional marriage, although it’s not acknowledged by many of traditional individuals. So here’s a small list of the traditional husbands duties :

Make your wife feel protected, whether she’s with you or not.

Do the heavy lifting and fixing jobs around the house for your wife.

Always greet your wife with a kiss

Set an example to your daughter/s what a boyfriend should be like, and your sons how they should treat women.

Always bring gifts back from long work trips to show your loyalty and appreciation.

Make sure to remind your wife that you love her by taking her on dates, saying “i love you” frequently and holding her when she needs it.

Cater to her emotional and physical needs, like she does for you.

Give her days or time off, especially during pregnancy, birthdays and holidays in general.

This relationship is a balance, she looks good for you so make sure you’re hygienic and groomed for her.

Assure her consistently that she and her kids are completely provided for and protected as long as you live.

Support her in everything she does.

Women are a lot more emotional then their male counterparts so approach arguments and conflicts with caution and care.

Make sure you understand her boundaries and what she considers wrong etc, otherwise you’ll run into many arguments ( and obviously abide by these boundaries ).

Never talk badly to others about your wife. Even to your own parents and children.

‘meek’: mild of temper; soft; gentle; not easily provoked or irritated, yielding; humble; submissive to the divine will; not proud or apt to complain of divine dispensations.

What does it mean to actually be these things? Let’s break it down!

Mild of temper: what does it mean to be mild of temper? This means that this person does not throw around their emotional weight so to speak. They are not throwing tantrums or fits to get their way, they aren’t easily troubled by circumstances where things don’t go their way, and value people more than their reactions

Soft: in the context of women, softness can be attributed to femininity and gentleness. She isn’t loud, quarrelsome, or forceful, but rather speaks with a softness or tongue and acts with a softness of heart.

Gentle: gentleness to me is kindness and compassion. Someone who is gentle is kind and considerate. They take care to build up, rather than tear down. Proverbs 14:1 “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.

Not easily provoked or irritated: it is very easy in our modern world to find ourselves lashing out in irritation at the smallest things, the woman who cultivates a meek spirit also has a spirit of patience that is intertwined with her meekness. She is not quick to lash out, but holds her tongue in wisdom and patience. This is especially important for mothers seeking to raise disciples. We cannot react in anger or irritation but first must seek prayer before disciplining. You never want to discipline in anger, this often does not teach any lessons but only instills fear and distrust.

Yielding: a meek woman surrenders her will to her husbands, just as the church does to Christ and the husband does to the church. This does not make her a doormat, on the contrary it elevates her to a position of reverence and respect when she makes the joyful decision to give up authority. We should feel comfortable giving out opinions, and they should be listened to and taken into consideration, but the final decision should be left up to our spouses.

Humble: to be humble is to avoid arrogance, superiority, pride, and haughtiness. She takes her worthiness and her pride in knowing that she is a loved creation of Christ and her identity rests in him.

Submissive to the divine will: she follows the word of the lord, and does not try to stray from the path he has set before her. Rather than trying to go her own way and guide her family away from the lord, she strives to always point her family to the lord.

This is clearly not a good faith take but I will answer it anyway.

Most SAHM's do a lot more than just cook and clean all day. Also for what it's worth, I do work. I just don't work a steady job so I'm able to be there for my children. I do seamstressing, I take care of people's pets when they travel, I do occasional house cleaning, I put together furniture, I repair furniture, I babysit, I sell our old items online, I sell food grown in our garden and baked goods I make, and anything else I can do on my own schedule.

My primary role is taking care of our 3, soon to be 5 children who are too young to be enrolled in school. We do not homeschool. I was not raised religiously, but I've always had a penchant for cooking and cleaning. I especially like developing recipes for my cookbook.

I also am in a Church choir, I am in a tutoring program for children through my parish, am part of the bereavement ministry group, go to Bible study, have a book club, am part of a food train, and have a close knit group of friends, and a good relationship with most of my parish, my neighbors, and my children's friends parents. Among other things.

I'm currently 39 weeks pregnant with twins so my life hasn't been much more than sitting around and occasionally cooking and cleaning. If you look at my last post you'll see my husband and other's close to me have picked up on some of those duties. My husband has also been helping me a lot with cleaning, even though he works 60+ hours with only one day fully off each week.

I do not spend all day cooking and cleaning for males, I spend a lot of my time cooking and cleaning for our family. Before we had kids, I worked outside of the home. I started working at 13 years old, and I've never fully stopped working at any point.

I do what I do because I enjoy this and chose this life. I do not think everyone needs to live the way I do. I do not think that my life is superior to others. I think we should strive to be Christlike in our actions, but that will look different in each person. We all have our own strengths and weaknesses that make us uniquely helpful that no one else can replicate. We all bear our own crosses. I have no authority to condemn the actions of others, I just try to be kind to all and understand how they've ended up where they are.

I don't do this because I believe this is the role prescribed for all women by God, I do this because I felt that it was my calling, and I'm honored to be the one to take it up. I'm blessed beyond words with all that I have, and it's all thanks to God.

Feminine women add to the world by building up a sense of community and fostering safe and comfortable homes in those communities.