Just Watch Me

DID Y’ALL MISS DOMINO (2005) ????

LOOK AT THIS FRESH DISASTER. THIS ABSOLUTE DREAM OF A MESS

DID Y”ALL MISS THIS

AND THIS

AND LOOK AT THIS GAY ANNOYANCE???

oh and at the end lucy liu shows up and interrogates her and it is v intense and lesbionic

she cuts off her own hair and dresses like a boy to protect the crown prince

also she’s amazing at archery. legolas whomst?

“We should soon,” I said, “Weather permitting.”

“‘Weather permitting’?” he asked. “Can you clarify what you mean by that?”

“I mean... provided it gets cold enough,” I said.

“And why is that necessary?”

Some years back we had a viewing party for a total lunar eclipse that happened to occur in the hours before daybreak, and in the weeks before it happened the planetarium director had to field calls & social media messages left and right from guests FURIOUSLY demanding that we be more considerate of their schedules and move the event to a more reasonable hour of the day.

Fight—Responds to abuse with anger and aggressiveness because that is the only thing that appears to give control in family dynamic. Responds to anything that resembles attack with cruelty and defensiveness and attempts to manipulate with intimidation and disdain before others can manipulate them.

Fawn—Responds to abuse by attempting to become the perfect victim in the hopes of being less hated and less mistreated in exchange for cooperating. Turns off all personal desires, boundaries, traits, and emotions, tries to become exactly what the abuser wants. Continues this set of interpersonal rules even with non-abusive outsiders.

You’re allowed to just… not want to have sex with somebody. For any reason you want. You might not like their haircut, their opinions, their laugh, their facial hair, their past history, their genitals, anything.

You don’t actually need to prove that the thing you object to is BAD WRONG AWFUL, or that you would NEVER EVER IN A MILLION YEARS want to have sex with that person or anyone like them.

You can go on a date and decide not to sleep with them. You can go on a million dates and decide that. You can have sex with them and then decide, 20 minutes later, that you don’t want to have it again. You can decide that there’s a certain kind of sex you don’t want to have.

Sure, people’s feelings may get hurt when they get sexually rejected. Sure, we can talk about broader ethical issues, like “Hey maybe the pleasure of both partners should matter so maybe cis dudes who want to please their partners should have more sex that gets cis women off even if eating out doesn’t give them personally an orgasm”, or people can discuss experiences like “I’m a lesbian and normally 100% into vagina business, but I had sex with a trans woman and had enjoyable contact with her penis and don’t think that makes me less lesbian” BUT

NONE of that means you need to do ANYTHING, sexually, that you do not goddamn want to. Your body, your sexual consent, should be inviolate to any person of good conscience. Your feelings and choices may make someone else decide they don’t want to have sex with you, but that’s their right likewise.