The last paragraph of this post is the most important. And this post would never have gone up because i had every intention of messaging you privately but never got the chance to do so.
Iโd like to start out by addressing the title of this post because I really would like to know what your definition of stealing a character is. Cause the only thing thatโs happened here is the use of the same FCs for premade character slots.ย
This is a next generation appless rp, with premade character slots. Players leave and new people take up those slots all the time. I am not someone who thinks using reusing faceclaims automatically means the new character being played will be identical to the character the previous player played. I am also someone who plays the same rotation of fcs myself constantly, and in turn I have a list of favorite fcs I like to play against. Max Irons, and Chris Woods happen to be on that list, and I recommend them every chance I get especially in a one on one conversation where someone wants suggestions.
Liv who picked up my characters sibling slot, came to me and said sheโs intending to pick up that slot and trying to decide a fc. I very nonchalantly suggested Chris because I think heโs a great fc choice for my characters brother. When the player who played her brother beforehand had been discussing fcs with me I had suggested Chris then as well. Liv has yet to post an intro, or start any interactions for this character sheโs picked up. You have no idea how she plans on playing this character so unless we allow people to stake claims on fcs now that is NOT STEALING A CHARACTER.
The character traits mentioned in both apps are trivial in my opinion, these are characters in a disney rp, and character traits rarely define what a character will be like. One positive trait and one negative trait possibly being similar to the previous character is not a lot of evidence for STEALING.
Now on the matter of the Max Irons FC.
if you look at the screenshot you can see the timestamp for the draft being started is 12/4/19. That is the day or day after the rp opened. That week the dash was incredibly active and i never got around to finishing my wc, because being active on my characters was more important to me at the time but that doesnโt matter. When on 12/7/19 Marie picked up Ursulaโs son whom i specifically was planning on sending in a wc for as my character is ariels daughter I shared a screenshot of my draft with her cause like it felt like fate. I never even finished putting a FC up there so I have no way to prove that Max wouldโve been on that list but he absolutely would have cause heโs one of my favorite fcs to play against Iโve put in countless wc with his face in the suggestions. If I wanted to I could probably hunt down at multiple instances of this if those rp mains still exist. But because I have easier access to my own character blogs here is ONE example of many, open it and maxโs fc is the first thing youโll see for a ship i had in that group. Also uing Camila who i have here as well because as Iโve stated I have my favorite fcs that i always use and suggest because i HATE looking for new fcs.
Had i decided not to bring my idea to Marie at all we likely wouldnโt have had that plot at all. But she like the idea and we built upon it as you do with WCs. And what else do you do with WCs you usually donโt abandon them completely when a player leaves a group. In this case I donโt think it really matters that I never officially sent in the WC to the main or not, I would have eventually regardless if Marie had taken up the slot or not. Marie left the group an entire month ago, and I didnโt pursue the WC right away because that perhaps wouldโve been disrespectful, but itโs been a month so when my co-admin said she wanted to play a villain character I brought up the wc to her, with a brief run down, and sticking with Max Irons cause itโs a fc i like. We did NOT have a discussion at any point during this about the characters personalities and me having any expectations of him being exactly like the previous players character.
Here is how the conversation went
that was literally the entire initial conversation after that we just gushed about disney merch!
when the app was i and the blog was made thatโs when I came back around on the topic of the character to plot.
No where here do i mention ANYTHING about the characterization of the previous character. Just relevant information that effected MY character. And seeing as we canโt reset time and all the characters in this group have technically been stuck in this castle since the start of the rp of course we needed to figure out a work around for previous events, how she felt about the character during the earthquake the groups biggest plot drop is a hundred percent relevant to where we take things here on. But no where here was there an expectation of demand that they character be the same!
Given the basis of the characters family historyโs and premise of the connection there are only so many directions things can go but no where in our discussion did the characterization the previous player had established come up. Chelsea came to her own conclusion of how she imagines her character would have felt. Chelsea was NOT in the group when Marie played this character so she knows nothing about what he was like, nor did she care to find out as the intention was never to STEAL a character.ย
What iโm guilty of here is having favorite fcs and suggesting them over and over.
NOW on the matter of not even bothering to reply to your message Jean, first and foremost I was thrown off as fuck seeing your message when weโve had not interaction for a month, and obviously given how accusatory and harsh it was when doing the things you accuse me of was not even on my mind yeah i needed a WHILE to process. Especially given that I suffer from extreme social anxiety Iโm sorry I needed some time. And guess what when my confusion turned to anger for how you spoke to me I decided since you played neither of the characters you accused me of stealing I owed you NOTHING when just opening your DM made me feel panicked for the way you attack me without even ASKING for clarification or wanting to have a conversation about it confirm whether or not I actually had the intent to do what you accuse me of.ย
What I did do however was message the third person involved in this with the Chris Wood FC because they actually left the group just a few days ago and not a MONTH ago. That was my priority, and thatโs who i felt comfortable enough to talk to because I feel safe having an actual CONVERSATION with them. So no I didnโt ignore the matter entirely I was speaking to my co-admins and going over the situation and trying to collect my thoughts. But before I could say anything to Marie she messaged me herself, and because she IS directly involved in this i would have replied to her absolutely, but only about 20 minutes later you posted this call out.ย
I would have never been this defensive if this post wasnโt made because I think itโs absolutely egregious that you would post this without even a single exchange of constructive dialogue! I never wished you any ill intent and never will, but please realize that the person youโre bashing on has feelings and they deserve at least the benefit of the doubt.ย
You guys have said you considered me a friend, and i absolutely felt the same way even if we havenโt talked in a month. But if you considered me a friend donโt you think a conversation rather than a message out right accusing me of something wouldโve been considerate of our friendship. Marie and Meera especially know about my anxiety. Meera can tell you how i spent hours obsessing over replies to a tense ooc situation telling her exactly what I was planning to send to make sure if it it ok, if itโs to harsh and so on. Because I donโt deal well with confrontation. Iโve felt panicked, cornered, and iโve spent most of this time you guys are accusing me of ignoring you crying. Me going on my character and writing a reply was about me trying to find ESCAPE from what I was feeling because that is what writing is for me and has been for more than half my life. Iโm sick right now, my panic has been making me cough a lot, Iโve had to step away, four hours is not a lot of time when youโre in the headspace I have been in all night, and that on top of where my mental health has been already. Seeing as I know weโve talked about this I would think you would understand this better than anyone. Have you ever known me to be a malicious or conniving person? Because that is what youโve made me out to be in this situation, and thatโs whatโs hurt me the most, the question on my character is what has caused as much panic as Iโve felt because itโs so deeply personal and beyond just a roleplay issue.
