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The studies done by the trained psychologists in this joke show that little kids don’t associate being hit with the thing they’ve done wrong. Very small children only understand consequences that are directly caused by the thing they did. Steal a biscuit, biscuit tastes good. Then for no reason mummy hit me. Very different to stole a biscuit, now no biscuit after dinner because I stole a biscuit.

And they also show that when a child is old enough to understand why they are being hit that non-physical punishment is equally as effective and less mentally harmful in the long run.

Do you know who benefits the most from hitting as a punishment? The parent. It gives a satisfaction rush. Parents do it because it makes them feel good.

Basically kids have two stages: too young to understand why they are being hit so physical punishment is useless for anything other than teaching a child that bigger stronger people can hit you whenever they like (Which sounds like the same lesson you would learn from abuse)

And the second stage is old enough to be reasoned with so many punishment options are available and you chose physical violence because it makes *you* feel better, which is an abusive action.

if you think that it is ever ever ever ever okay to ever ever ever ever lay hands on a goddamn child, i never ever ever ever want you anywhere near a child ever

as an abuse victim, just. don’t.

even hitting your kid once is too much, especially in a way that is directly stated as a “you did something bad so here is the mild punishment” such as non-sexual spanking. “a smack upside the head”?? you’re really going to fucking SMACK your child for dropping a plate huh??? for stealing a cookie????? for interrupting you while you’re on the phone????? you’ll fucking HIT this very young human that YOU decided to raise and be around???????? uh yeah i don’t fucking think so, don’t ever be around any children ever until you get that extremely harmful and violent idea out of your head

They are literally born into this world the only this they fear is falling and loud sounds. The only thing they “know” is that they need to be nourished! Oh and if you believe it or not... a baby, a child and really everyone NEEDS LOVE!!!!

A child doesn’t know sh*t, ok!

So if they don’t know that they shouldn’t eat the cookie (they also probably don’t know that they are “stealing” it. Maybe they don’t even know what stealing is!) then how in your right mind do you think they understand what it means if hit them?!?!?!

Huh?!?!

Please explain what’s going on inside your head if you really thinking a small child will understand what’s going on in your grownup head. Or you know what? I don’t want to know!

A child WILL NOT UNDERSTAND what it means if you hurt them. They will only get scared. They get scared of the person who should protect them and take care of them no matter what!

Do you really think it will make them a better person? Do you really think your “behaviour modifiers” (or however you may call it) will actually help them later in their life?

The answer is NO!

And it really should take science, a doctor or a study to understand this.

So if you ever find yourself in a situation where you actually want to hit your child (or do something similar) try to remember the first time you’ve been hit by your parents. Maybe you will remember the situation and what you have done. And try to remember how you felt and how would the past-you have wished for the situation to have played out instead?

You have to explain the world to your child! (Or they literally won’t know what hit them!!!)