Whimsigoth Agere Moodboard

self indulgent;

with Star B. Twinkle from The Good Night Show (TV show)

Sometimes it's grounding yourself during/after a PTSD episode, panic/anxiety attack, or scary situation. Finally slowing down and processing

Sometimes agere is letting yourself cry when you otherwise wouldn't

Sometimes it's using your toys/stuffies to act out appointments and things, so you feel more prepared for them

Sometimes agere is learning to love/care for yourself despite the way you've been treated

Agere is messy, sad/angry, happy/fun, good, bad, and all in-between. You aren't wrong for struggling, and you aren't a bad kid for having health issues or needing more than the average care. There's nothing wrong with wanting to cope (as long as you do it safely)

🪰 cryptid regressor things 🪰

🪰 loves hearing stories

🪰 collects little toys/trinkets

🪰 being more active at night

🪰 swinging their feet

🪰 warm clothes

🪰 befriending bugs or small forest creatures

🪰 playing in the forest

🪰 keeping a diary or journal

🪰 glow in the dark themed rooms

👻 Spooky kitty! 🐈‍⬛

🍬 It's spooky season!! 🍭

Do not edit or claim as your own, please! <3

breaks down over trying to start tasks until he deadline is stupidly close

unable to do basic chores unless it's like 4am and then the whole damn house gets cleaned

speaks too fast

tangent and tangent and tangent. makes social situations hard

literally unable to stop themselves from interrupting people mid sentence (and the constant "*interrupts*- sorry, please continue")

knows what they want to say, cannot find the words, even if it's something basic

auditory processing disorder (pretty common with adhd), like how do you explain that you can hear but your brain has minecraft server lag and the chat will appear soon

hyperfixations, and people thinking they are special interests when they are not (they are short term, literally stops you from basic care like eating and drinking when in) edit: it was brought to my attention this comes across like special interests are easier to live with which is not the case, please do not take that away from this post!!!

impulse purchases making bank accounts cry

all or nothing. not hungry to pain. don't need to pee until pain. you get the picture

cannot sit still, like actually can't, constant moving and shuffling which people think would be cute but actually just pisses people off

doesn't have a fidget toy, not bc they are popular but bc they would have to put it away bc dylan over there got a fidget spinner and has been loudly playing with it (dylan is neurotypical)

cannot do anything if there is something else to do that day, must wait

-uncontrollable bruxism (teeth grinding)

-chronic cuticle biting and picking

- nail biting

-skin/scab picking

-heightened paranoia and startle response

-insomnia

-recurring dreams

-memory gaps

-extreme clingyness to my partner

-constany anxiety

-sneaking around in my home to avoid my ab*ser

-restless leg syndrome

-unable to regulate emotions and hyper sensitvity

-alice in wonderland syndrome

-agoraphobia

-fawning and masking

ᯓ★ tips for caregiving for littles with bpd . ݁₊ ⊹ . 🪐

note: I am not a professional by any means, just someone who wants to offer tips and support, I have undiagnosed bpd myself, and I know that can make me difficult to care for. These tips are to help new and old caregivers properly address behaviors and de-escalate situations. This was made with positive intent. And if you demonize "scary" disorders, DNI.

╰┈➤ the biggest and yet most unpracticed step of caregiving for people who have BPD is that you should educate yourself about the disorder, its symptoms, and behaviors. It isn't their job to teach you. By doing this, you will be able to understand where your little is coming from when experiencing triggers.

╰┈➤ bpd can be trigger based. Understanding that certain situations, words, and people can trigger emotional outbursts is important. Using that knowledge, you can then limit your littles exposure to such triggers as much as possible.

╰┈➤ it is absolutely nessecary to understand "splitting." Splitting is a medical term defined as: *a mental defense mechanism that involves viewing people, situations, or oneself as either all good or all bad.* It's important to know that these shifts of emotional change are not always personal and can be involuntary.

╰┈➤ communication like anything is very important. Remember to listen to your littles feelings without trying to "correct" their thought process and focus on how they're feeling, not just what they're saying.

╰┈➤ even if you don't agree with their behavior in moments of vulnerability, acknowledge that you understand and respect their feelings. Make sure to let them know you recognize they're hurting and are there for them.

╰┈➤ it's always nessecary to set boundaries for them, aswell as yourself. When you have a regressor who isn't entirely themselves in the moment. You should be clear and consistent to keep yourselves both safe and healthy.

╰┈➤ know that you aren't less of a caregiver for feeling emotionally drained while caregiving for someone with BPD. Don't be afraid to reach out for support or therapy to manage your own well-being.

╰┈➤ if your little is upset, do not try and make them regress or become big, from personal experience, not only is it very stressful, it is hurtful to think someone is trying to get you into a headspace. Instead, offer smaller things like to color or watch their favorite TV show. If they don't want to, then don't press.

╰┈➤ never judge or criticize, bpd is a disorder developed from an inability to heal in an unstable relationship, environment, etc. Their behavior is a symptom of this condition and does not reflect who they are as a character.

╰┈➤ make sure to consider how harm can have a role in bpd. If your little threatens to harm themselves or others, treat that situation delicately. Never be afraid to seek professional help.

╰┈➤ as you move through your journey of caregiver and little, celebrate positive changes in behavior, and any progress they make in their recovery.

╰┈➤ offer reassurance often if possible, many people with bpd have attatchement issues, and this reassurance can be extremely helpful and important.

Resources ;

National Institute of Mental Health

BPD Resource Center

Families for Borderline Personality Disorder Research

Crisis Line

Kids Help Phone