I did not "decide to become a girl" I was actively suppressing the "girly" desires and things to talk about before realizing I'm a girl due to the expectations that society placed on me

I was always a girl but I kept destroying myself in favor of appealing to the majority

live. you have to live. you have to live like you want and you have to make it other peoples problem. theres a whole world out there and the people who are trying to deny it to you are so weak. they are paper tigers. they are truly paper tigers.

live. you have to live. you have to live like you want and you have to make it other peoples problem. theres a whole world out there and the people who are trying to deny it to you are so weak. they are paper tigers. they are truly paper tigers.

Getting to my late 20s and watching my peers repeat the exact same mistake every single prior generation has- sharing intense nostalgia for a past that never existed and scoffing at the future because kids today are 'too stupid' to generate one; most existentially harrowing part of being alive so far

As a transsexual woman 👩 who has had multiple experiences ‼️ I have found 🔎 that the biggest block of cheese 🧀 is usually the one ☝️ that has the largest size 📈

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Over twenty years ago my big brother got me a job at a Taco Bell in the St. Louis suburbs-West County. He warned me that it was the “gay Taco Bell”, but since I was coming from the “gay Howard Johnson’s” I wasn’t shocked. It turns out it was the black trans women Taco Bell complete with black trans women in management. And they’d worked out an arrangement with the local teen Narcotics Anonymous group so that twice a week we would shut down the drive thru and the dining room and exclusively serve 60+ teens in various stages of recovery. And many of the women I worked with were in various stages of being out or transitioning and they were from all generations from teens to over 50. One woman I worked with had a regular corporate job presenting as a man 9-5 Mon-Fri and then came to Taco Bell and worked 6pm -2am Friday and Saturday night so she could be herself surrounded by other black transwomen in those stolen weekends. And we had customers come from all over the metro area because they knew they could be themselves in the dining room. I only worked there from 1999-2001 but for young me, this was a vital, formative experience. Some of the girls came from north city all the way out to the “gay Taco Bell” on Manchester in west county because they heard it was safe to work there. Like- I know times have changed but they haven’t changed much in 20 years. I’m still convinced that for lgbt youth, finding a job at your city’s version of the “gay Taco Bell” is key to survival.

Thank u for sharing this with us

in general i think it's kind of worse than useless to always fall back on this assumption that people are being "tricked" into being mras or twerfs or white supremacists or usamerican jingoists etc. etc. when you can ask the question "how do they stand to materially benefit from this hate movement" and 9/10 times find a very easy answer

one time I told my therapist "I tend to have issues with people who think of themselves as authority figures" and she burst out laughing and then said "I think we need to pause and reflect on how you phrased that"

I mean, what, was I supposed to refer to them as if they actually are authority figures? those don't exist

personally I think if your first response to "have you considered transitioning" is to list the ways women are expected to perform in society that you don't want to be expected to comply with, what you need is estrogen plus feminism, not more experience with makeup

people hate it when i say "black people getting cancer is racist" but im literally fucking right because systemic racism has led to chemical dumping being acceptable in black/brown neighborhoods and black people have higher rates of cancer as a result

the "cancer belt" is also just a metric for black/brown population density and that is a function of a racist society