Gay stoof + System stoof

Boundaries:

We have not specific DNI, but we expect you to follow your own and we will block freely. We are also (bodily) and adult, so would prefer minors not to DM us. Asks, comments, and reblogs are all fine.

Here are some of our strongly held (and potentially controversial) opinions that if you disagree with, this may not be the page for you:

Endogenic, wilogenic, and any other non-traumagenic and/or non-disordered plurals and systems are valid.

We are pro any and all consensual relations between adults. Kink is not the same or "basically the same" as any form of non-consensual relationship.

Death threats are never justified.

Atypical dysphoria is a real thing that deserves to be taken seriously. Non-harmful non-traditional transitioning is valid.

Fake-claiming and fear of "fakers" only does harm. I fundamentally don't care if someone is faking a certain condition irl and would rather there be more fakers if it meant more people could have access to the support they need.

We are critical and sceptical or psychiatry. Disorders should be understood as fundamentally being diagnostic criteria and actual experience should always be respected regardless of how well it fits into that.

let's talk about the thought "this person's condition is worse than mine and they don't use /disability aid/, so I can't use it either." this mindset is wrong. let's chat about why one person may not use a certain aid, but that doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't.

(for the purpose of this post, we are going to assume this hypothetical other person's condition IS worse than your own. it's also important to remember that disabilities vary massively in how well they fit into a simple spectrum of "less bad" to "more bad," and you can never understand exactly what someone is experiencing.) (also this post will be purposefully vague because it's referring to a wide variety of things. some explanations may lean towards a certain type of thing (such as mobility aids or something), but everything here is applicable broadly.)

first and most important point: accessibility and accommodation are not the extremely limited commodities that ableist society wants you to believe they are. there are specific situations where resources are limited, but using various aids rarely falls into that category (especially if they are something you are purchasing for yourself.)

let's get into some more specific reasons:

the hypothetical other person's condition is overall worse/more severe, but the specific symptoms relating to the aid aren't. most disabilities and conditions consist of a bunch of different symptoms, traits, and attributes, each of which can exist on its own spectrum of severity. disability aids help with specific areas, any someone may not need that same support with those specific things. if you need or just would benefit from support with those specific things, you would likely benefit from that disability aid.

the hypothetical other person has comorbid conditions or specific symptoms that can be worsened by, cause issues with, or make it hard to use that aid. it's important to understand that all disability aids are inherently inconvenient and each come with their own challenges, cons, and costs (not just financial costs, which can certainly be significant.) you always have to weigh the pros and cons of any aid, and those won't look the same for everybody. for you the pros may outweigh the cons, but that may not be the case for somebody else.

the hypothetical other person doesn't want to use that aid, feels uncomfortable with that aid, or otherwise chooses not to use it. that's their choice, and their choice does not change what you can or should do. everybody is on their own journey. maybe this person would benefit from the aid, but for whatever reason won't let themself. you are in no way required to wait for them to do it first.

free to use, made for my own AAC.

Flags: fingender (feminine in nature) | mingender (masculine in nature) | ningender (neutral in nature) lingender (androgynous in nature) | finingender (FIN + NIN) | miningender (MIN + NIN) nofingender (non-FIN) | nomingender (non-MIN) | noningender (non-NIN) agingender (genderless in nature) | xingender (xenine in nature) | oingender (all genders in nature) keingender (kenochoric in nature) | aingender (aporine in nature) | spingender (soporine in nature) ouingender (other in nature) | dingender (defined in nature) | uingender (undefined in nature)

(no spoons for IDs. somebody else providing those would be greatly appreciated)

made a whole bunch of pixel art gender flags, primarily for flags we couldn't find on AACIL (to add to our AAC). Flags are as follows:

transneutral | transfem | transmasc demigender | demigirl | demiboy genderfluid | genderflux | fluidflux multigender | polygender | pangender bigender | trigender | genderfrith genderfae | genderfaun | genderflor genderspirit | genderfruct | gendersylph

thon / thons / thonself

ID: Three drawings of a minimalist, yellowish-tan figure decorated with darked brownish text. The text is a cursive-like script and there are no clear words to be made out. In the second image thon is looking down at a red box. In the third image thon has a hand on thons chest, with an arrow coming from and pointing to thon. End ID.

glit / glitter / glitters / glitterself

ID: Four drawings of a bright purple figure patterned with a bunch of paler four-pointed stars in varying colours. The first is just the figure. The second is the figure with glitters hand on glitters chest. The third is the figure with glitters hand on a red box. The fourth is the figure pointing to glitterself, with an arrow coming from and pointing to glitters head.

ze / zir / zirs / zirself

doll / dolls / dollself

ID: Three drawings of a minimalist figure with a pale skin-toned face and pink body. Doll has pink cheeks and two pale yellow triangular pigtails. In the second image doll is looking down at a red box. In the third image doll has a hand on dolls chest, with an arrow coming from and pointing to doll. End ID.

doll / dolls / dollself (alternate)

ID: Three drawings of a minimalist figure with a medium brown face and pink body. Doll has pink cheeks and two dark brown triangular pigtails. In the second image doll is looking down at a red box. In the third image doll has a hand on dolls chest, with an arrow coming from and pointing to doll. End ID.

button / buttons / buttonself

CW: the last set is intended to depict mold and may be off putting or distressing

fang / fangs / fangs

ID: Three drawings of a minimalist, light grey figure with small white fangs. In the second image fang is looking down at a red box. In the third image fang has a hand on fangs chest, with an arrow coming from and pointing to fang. End ID.

zom / zoms / zomself

ID: Three drawings of a minimalist, green figure. One side of zoms head has a pink blobby shape representing brains, and zoms body has two red triangles, one on each side. In the second image zom is looking down at a red box. In the third image zom has a hand on zoms chest, with an arrow coming from and pointing to zom. End ID.

Warning: mold depiction for the next and final one:

bo / bot / bots / botself

ID: Four drawings of a grey figure with two thin antenna on each side of bots head, ending with small red balls. The first is just the figure. The second is the figure with bots hand on bots chest. The third is the figure with bots hand on a red box. The fourth is the figure pointing to botself, with an arrow coming from and pointing to bots head. The figures with arms have additional lines down said arm.

moon / moons / moonself

ID: Three drawings of a minimalist, pale blue-grey figure with a covering of dots in varying sizes shades of grey. In the second image moon is looking down at a red box. In the third image moon has a hand on moons chest, with an arrow coming from and pointing to moon. End ID.

UFO / UFOs / UFOself

howl / howls /howlself

ID: Three drawings of a minimalist, brown figure with dog ears, a dog nose, and a fluffy tail. Howls eyes are closed and the first and third images feature a small round mouth. In the second image howl is looking down at a red box. In the third image howl has a hand on howls chest, with an arrow coming from and pointing to howl. End ID.

lycan / lycans / lycanself

ID: Three drawings of a minimalist, grey-brown figure with dog ears, a dog nose, and bright yellow eyes. The figure does not have a tail. In the second image lycan is looking down at a red box. In the third image lycan has a hand on lycans chest, with an arrow coming from and pointing to lycan. End ID.

paw / paws / pawself

ID: Three drawings of a minimalist, white figure patterned with pale blue and pink paw prints and a small animal nose. In the second image paw is looking down at a red box. In the third image paw has a hand on paws chest, with an arrow coming from and pointing to paw. End ID.

neigh / neighs / neighself

purr / purr / purrself

(based on this flag)

ID: Three drawings of a minimalist, white and black figure with dark blue eyes, cat ears, a cat nose, whiskers, a thin tail, and a pale blue collar with a light yellow bell. In the second image purr is looking down at a red box. In the third image purr has a hand on purrs chest, with an arrow coming from and pointing to purr. End ID.

kat / katz / katzelf

(based on this flag)

ID: Three drawings of a minimalist, pink and periwinkle figure patterned with pale blue paw prints with cat ears, a cat nose, white whiskers, and a thin tail. In the second image kat is looking down at a red box. In the third image kat has a hand on katz chest, with an arrow coming from and pointing to kat. End ID.

fel / feli / felis / feliself

(based on this flag)