Well i should probably make an into post finally so people who come across us actually know who's probably posting what (in case we forget to tag who's posting like we so frequently do).
You can address us collectively as LadyMoonblessed, Artemis, or Lunation (the word for a full cycle of the moon) if you dont want to address any individual members of our system. We're trans & plural. If you have issues with that, please just move on. None of us are interested in getting into any conflicts.
Since Moon's got no executive function and i'm up, I'll do the honors of introducing those of us who are likely to post here:
Moon|Jaina (She/her): primary host & the one behind basically all our fandom stuff. Author of the stuff under our pseud Artemis-Eclipsed over on AO3 (mostly traumafic) and co-author of the stuff under our main profile (Also LadyMoonblessed over on AO3) where we keep our lighter stuff. Really into deltarune at the moment; also enjoys Worm, Omori, D&D, Critical Role C4, and other things but listing them all out will take too much of this post.
Midnight|Jace (They/them/She/her): Myself! It's a pleasure to introduce myself to all of you. I'm probably less likely to post unless it's for important reasons (such as this). Chronically tired. Currently planning out a D&D setting inspired by The Navidson House, Coruscant, Duskmourn and Ravnica, amongst other things. Feel free to ask me about it.
Scarlet|Jess (She/Her): The Flirty one. If any of us are directly engaging with you outside a fandom context on here, presume it's her unless proven otherwise - most of the others are some of the biggest introverts you will ever meet, but she thrives off people.
Muse|Calliope (She/her): the other co-author of our AO3 account. Artsy. Currently planning both a sci-fi novel set at the end of a generation ship's voyage AND a graphic novel about plural magical girls who have powers based around storytelling. Somehow has even less confidence in her skills than Moon. Please don't be mean to her if she shares anything she draws/writes. Thinking about learning how to write music.
Ruby(She/Her): our main protector & former monster hunter (Though she insists she still is one). Fictive of a certain Scythe-wielder. Do not mention Jaune Arc around her unless you want to hear an angry rant.
All of us listed above are free and willing to post on here & willing to take asks addressed to any of us, but that isnt all of us in here. Also included in our system but either not wanting to use tumblr or not allowed are:
Melinoe (she/her) & Fae(fae/faer) (have no desire to post)
Neuro & Glinda (both she/her & fictives) (do not know this blog exists)
B (still figuring shit out & becoming a better person. Maybe later will be allowed posting privlidges)
Ashe, Lily, and Chloe(all she/her) (the kiddos who are too young to post on here)
And lastly our newest member Amy (she/her) (might earn the right to a sideblog if she stops bickering with Moon, but is not allowed to post to the main bc it would probably be a Victoria Dallon/Glory Girl/Antares fanblog by the end of the day. Thank the goddess her memories end at Leviathan).
DNI's feel a bit useless so i'll just say Terfs are blocked on sight otherwise just dont give me a reason to block you and i probably won't.
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All it means when people say “you’re speaking from a place of privilege” is that you’re likely to underestimate how bad the problem is by default because you are never personally exposed to that problem. It’s not a moral judgement of how difficult your life is.
i have that post about how the presence of men ruins kinks and i occasionally think about adding a joke about how someone should invent a version of dykebreaking that doesnt invlove men, but that already exists and it involves putting trans women in the role that men normally take. which uh sucks bad. it actually makes dykebreaking worse, which is impressive because its already very bad to begin with. and somehow it can still get worse because sometimes it will be with an abstraction of a trans women that will not be named as such. theres dykebreaking with fucking "femboys". ill fucking kill you
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Between that male doms post, the post about exhibitionism being hot so long as men are not involved, and even one of my yuri forcefem instant loss posts I think it’s just a universal true that a lot of potentially hot or arousing things are kind of ruined by the presence or existence of men. The combination of already being societally pushed into being a sex object for men and not being attracted to men really kills so many examples of something that you might otherwise enjoy.
this extends to art about fetish worlds. the problem is that too often art about Fetish World where its your fetish is made by a man being very heterosexual about it and it ruins it.
honestly tho if joanne eats it in the next five to ten years the cultural reaction is going to be insufferable. everyone who has barely been able to hide their rabid obsession with the racist dogshit books is going to go “oh cool i can openly be into h*rry p*tter again” and any criticism of this stance will become grounds for mass harassment.
so i’m gonna put it out there ahead of time.
hp should be eradicated from cultural significance forever. everything that woman has done completely tarnishes whatever legacy may exist for them and the tangible damage she has done to trans people both legally and in cultural discussions enormously outweighs whatever joy the books might have personally given someone. we are not waiting for her to no longer profit from the ip or for her direct ability to cause harm to cease. that shit is done forever. if you go back to openly celebrating those works, you have less moral backbone than pudding.
My roommate is transmasc. We were just talking about their reluctance to use the men's bathroom even as they "pass" more and more as a man, which is starting to cause people to give them concerning looks when they use the women's. They said they still use the women's because they feel more comfortable there. Which is fine, we shouldn't have gendered bathrooms anyway. But I told them "you might not feel as safe when you eventually get 'accused' of being a trans woman in the women's bathroom." To which they replied "oh, I'll lust lift my shirt and show them my mastectomy scars. That'll prove I belong in there."
Oh but "everyone is subjected to transmisogyny" (according to tMRA chuds, not my roommate), right?
This is the point of TME/TMA. This is why non-transfeminine people aren't subjected to transmisogyny.
I can't fall back on my AGAB to "prove I belong" in women's spaces.
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One of the ways transmisogyny manifests is in default-uncharitable interpretations of ambiguous meaning.
Last week I was at a meetup where I was the only transfem. I checked the groupchat when I arrived and there was a message from the organiser: "We have a newcomer called X, can you look out for him if you get there first?" I located X, introduced myself, sent a message to the chat say, "I have located X," and continued to talk to him until the organiser arrived. When the organiser arrived, she was not happy with me. It turned out my phone had autocorrected, "I have located X," to, "I had located X," which the organiser interpreted as me passive aggressively telling her that I had already done the thing she was asking about. Her conclusion: I was unreasonable and aggressive in responding to her reasonable request. My explaining what had happened didn't convince her otherwise.
A different occasion last week: in a local trans groupchat, a trans man sent a link to a drag event happening in our town. A few people said they were already going, some said they might go. Then a trans woman replied saying, "Thanks, but I don't really like drag." Her tone was immediately called into question. Her words were assumed to communicate: "I think you are a terrible person if you like drag," even though she never said that. Several non-transfems who had never even heard that drag might not be universally-beloved by everyone were upset to discover that fact. A trans woman simply saying she didn't like this thing became A Big Deal.
Meanwhile, at a different event again, a trans man told a group that he was straight and attracted to women, but he wouldn't feel comfortable bringing home an "AMAB woman" (yes he actually said that). It was quickly brushed over, and after he had left even trans women tried to defend him by saying "he probably didnt realise people would be offended" etc etc. In contrast to the examples above, he is not even aware that anyone was upset by what he said, never mind worrying about what consequences he might face.
Whenever I go to an event, I often spend the next 24-48 hours ruminating over every single thing I said to check if I did anything at any time that could even vaguely be construed as annoying to anyone. I have often put this behaviour down to severe anxiety, but I think I am realising that it is actually a rational response to a world where even the slightest social misstep could be blown way out of proportion and result in my later social exclusion. It's one of those things that existed long before I was aware of my own transness but while I was nonetheless transmisogynised by society, a crippling fear of the slightest imperfection that I assumed everyone else felt too but apparently they don't. I guess when other people go out of their way to smoothe over the damage your words or actions might cause, you don't need to stress about that damage because there are no consequences to it! It sounds very nice to be able to live like that.
A perfect example of this happened a few hours after posting it.
Someone reblogged my week-old critique of Devon Price. They said I was wrong to describe Price's transition as [something I never even said]. They said I was ignoring Price's non-binary identity, all while they used the wrong pronouns for Price throughout. They implied I thought non-binary people were not trans, and then they came up with a nonsensincal analogy which positioned me as a biphobic lesbian and then they reprimanded me for being biphobic (a crime committed only by their own fictional version of me that they made up).
But their username was green, so I thought (stupidly) I should give them the benefit of the doubt and not instantly block like I usually would someone like that. I went to their blog to see what kind of person this was.
I found a vaguepost about me where they called me "binary trans". OK, great, the person who misgendered Devon Price while defending it is also misgendering me based on something they made up in their own head. I've been non-binary for over a decade, I've talked about being non-binary on here before, I have "they" in my bio. It's not surprising that people refuse to allow transfems to be genuinely non-binary while vigorously defending a non-transfem's right to be so (in fact, that is exactly what my post about Price was talking about), but it is annoying that someone with a green username is doing it.
Then, in a later post, they describe my committment to not misgendering Price as "passive-aggressive". They say it's worse for me to be scrupulous about recognising non-binary identity if i "misrepresent nonbinary existence to this degree".
So, to summarise, they:
Pretended a trans woman said things she didn't.
Misgendered both her and the person they were defending.
Made up a story about a trans woman and got mad at her.
Called a trans woman "aggressive" for the crime of...using someone's correct pronouns.
When I am not misgendering someone, I am not doing that passive-aggressively. I am literally just saying what I mean. There is no secret implied sinister meaning beneath a trans woman's words that you can discern and criticise while ignoring the actual substance. Please just read what I say and respond to that, not what you reckon I meant based on your mental image of an aggressive irrational trans woman.
hey. I will never, ever, believe or engage with callout posts. don't send them to me, I will not read them. if you put them in my ask box I will delete them. if you reply them to my posts I will block you. I refuse to be weaponized just cause you have a hateboner for somebody, I don't care how justified you think it is. I wouldn't care even if you had evidence of a murder, because I am not a cop. I will *not* help you ostracize anyone or hurt anyone's rep. so don't try to make me, and don't get upset at me for not letting you. end of story.
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i hateeee the framing of any type of media engagement that relies on juxtaposing fun, enjoyable, 'low' art (usually [m/m] fanfiction, romance novels, genre fiction, &c.) with difficult, fufilling 'high' art (usually classics, arthouse films, &c) as like. 'fast food vs. vegetables', 'entertainment' vs 'personal (moral?) development' not the least because these aren't remotely discrete categories but also because its annoyingggg
people used to love to do this in fandom with femslash specifically and i hated it then also. do you have any idea how demeaning it is to have to hear people framing the act of reading stories about people like you as eating vegetables. as atonement for the sin of wanting to read about men fucking. come on now
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