Kymaeraa

Give me less "being kind requires zero effort" and more "being kind is worth the effort it takes."

lesson 2: yes, even the ones you don't want to fuck

lesson 3: also you have to respect the ones you do want to fuck. even if you don't get to fuck them at the end.

lesson 4: sometimes (not always but often enough) respecting women means shutting the fuck up. whether you like this or not is immaterial. you will likely find that this is something of a cheat code for respecting women because so few people do it. this is because we live in hell.

lesson 5: the fact that you say you respect women does not automatically mean that you do. there is no incantation that makes the cultural effects of misogyny disappear.

lesson 6: your position relative to misogyny is a political concept and not a moral one. whether you are a "good person" is irrelevant. if you do not actively seek to understand and account for your position of relative privilege then you will exploit it without even noticing. this is harmful to women.

lesson 7: whatever objections you currently have to the previous 6 lessons are definitely not new and there are entire academic libraries going over them. this is part of lesson 4.

lesson 8: in some ways privilege, be it gendered or racialised or otherwise, is like walking through life with a hammer duct-taped to your hand. you didn't ask for the hammer, there are few (if any) personal consequences for using it and when you're pissed off, it can be really really tempting to swing it. you must never do this, even if you have one million ways to justify it to yourself. even if you hate a particular woman, you must resist the urge to weaponise misogyny against her. there are no exceptions to this.

Lesson 9: respecting women includes trans and intersex women

Emotions aren’t masculine or feminine. they’re human. normalize them.

Fun family story: when my aunt was marrying her wife everyone was really excited but also dreading it because my aunt is known for her insanely long speeches so everyone knew her vows would be like 9 hours long so when it came time for her to say her vows she had a shit ton of cue cards in her hands and even her wife started groaning and my aunt took a deep inhale and then unravelled all the cue cards which were taped together and they all just read ‘HOT DAMN’ in giant letters and those were my aunts vows.

Woe! Joy and whimsy be upon ye!

@joy-and-whimsy-official

Joy and whimsy detected! This Tumblr classic is joyful and whimsical!

Everyone would die to protect their kids, would KILL to protect their kids. But they'd never try to make a world in which noone needs to die, noone needs to kill, and everyone's kids are protected.

accidentally following someone and hurriedly unfollowing them invokes the same feeling to me as being a kid and accidentally talking to a complete stranger because you mistook them for your mom

There’s a non insignificant number of adults who don’t know you’re allowed to learn stuff outside of school.