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One of the key things I feel is missing from a lot of discourse and political theory is that underage boys have historically been sexually objectified alongside women and girls. You can see throughout history that many cultures have considered sexual and romantic activity with underage boys to be socially acceptable and even "heterosexual" or in line with normative social structures for powerful men. So much thought fails to take into account the historical and modern reality that underage boys are sexualized in heterosexual society. This kind of thinking where an underage boy is equivalent to a woman or otherwise doesn't taint someone's heterosexuality is wrapped up in stuff like the Catholic church scandals where otherwise heterosexual priests regularly abused young men out of convenience. This stuff affects a ton of minority groups today. Basically, any minority boy is at risk of sexualization. Sexualizing underage Asian boys comes to mind as prominent online. (Check out Edinburgh by Alexandar Chee for a perspective on CSA as an Asian boy.) The Adultlification of black boys also plays into similar experiences. (Check out Heavy by Kiese Laymon, which focuses on intracommunity abuse.) In my experience as a trans man, I was viewed as a sexually available, feminine young boy by abusive people even before I was out to them or myself. That experience has left me cynical towards any cis girl's power fantasy about "shotas" as a supposed reversal of patterns of abuse. There's a surprisingly common idea that women dating underage boys represents a role reversal. I remember certified weirdo Shallon Lester saying "women have such a lesser ability to traumatize young men. It's not really the same thing" while being someone who sexualized and harassed underage boys multiple times. That's where this historical reality of the systemic abuse of young boys becomes particularly relevant. Without it, you might view the sexual abuse of young boys as anomalous, maybe only perpetrated by weird freaky evil gay men. To me, this is like a really important thing to understand... because it kind of reflects that "child" is a coherent social class at risk of abuse, and pedophilia is an extremely common social norm that reflects power and culture way more than any particular pathology. A lot of the time, it's not some kind of diagnosable condition. It's opportunism and an assertion of power. It doesn't correlate to sexuality or gender or race or etc etc, it correlates to power. It's a cultural norm.

I really love this song and your comments, I was looking back at them. Ty for sharing it

We need to erase the light in a character's eyes more often. It's enriching for them to look completely hopeless and lost

too much monogamy in fandom in general

as we all know, everyone falls in love once and only once with their one true love the first time, and if they had relationships before that they weren’t real and didn’t love each other, and you can’t love more than one person at once, and your friends and family need to be pushed out of the picture to focus more on your romance, and no one has sex with people they don’t love, and if they did, they’re dirty and they have to have hated it and the sex they have with their one true love after they’re officially together has to be better sex than they ever had before, and no one ever breaks up for any reason other than death, and everyone wants to get married and have kids. aren’t you fucking tired.

I SAID AREN’T YOU FUCKING TIRED

my thing is that. if you want a lesbian version of heated rivalry. women’s sports (pwhl, wnba, etc)—where players have public relationships with each other irl—wouldn’t actually make good settings. imo a gay sports romance frequently works bc the main relationship is under pressure from the typically masculine & often homophobic environment. but, women’s sports tend to be less traditionalist in this regard (bc women engaging in traditionally masculine activities is already comparatively subversive). so i guess what i’m saying is that, if you wanted a show about lesbians competing in a high pressure, physically demanding, traditionally north american activity. and you wanted to keep this spirit of subversion alive. it would have to be about competitive cheerleading

Nothing more cringe-worthy than a story where the writer clearly thinks they're making some broad statement about the human condition in the modern day but actually it's just been too long since they left their specifically dysfunctional community, which is ultimately irrelevant to most of society. And 95% of the time that community is Hollywood.

[writer who got his big break and moved to LA about 10 years ago] wow has anyone noticed how everyone has become an inauthentic, self-obsessed social climber in the past decade?

I like it when characters are really close friends but theyre like. Bad at friendship. like theyre not great people . theyre not necessarily always good to each other. But they are friends!! Incredibly close friends at that!!!! They're Just Not GOOD At It