Kronleuchter

"what are we" moment but it's just about siezen/duzen in a work environment

i want to shake many young women and say you can grow in private. and what i mean by that is that you don’t have to publicly self-flagellate when you don’t know something or when you say something a little insensitive or whatever else. you don’t have to report your Bad Thoughts and Ignorance to the crowd who waits to judge you. you do not have to pay penance. you do not have to issue public statements. nothing more is gained from burying yourself in shame than you could gain by thinking “oh i don’t know about this” and looking it up real quick, or thinking “hm, that wasn’t how i want to behave, i’ll do different next time” and then moving on with your life. no need to choke yourself with it.

i think there’s actually nothing better than being randomly told “I love you” after doing something characteristically stupid. Like what do you mean I’m a lovable person and I just did something silly and you thought “of course you would do that. I love you.”. No better feeling

May I also recommend the feeling of being told "I love you" after doing something off putting and strange. It comes in two flavors, sarcastic and sincere and while the first engenders a sense of mischievous camaraderie the second one is a fuckin doozy because the feeling of someone matching your freak is incomparable.

hello everyone let’s stop looking back and wondering if things could have been different, it’s never gonna happen! love you