Trust is an interesting thing. I think weāre all born trusting. Itās quite shocking to our systems when we learn that not everyone is trustworthy. So, fast forward to middle age. At this point, many people have hurt you, lied to you, and broken your trust. Youāre not so trusting anymore. If you find yourself in the dating world at 58, this could be an issue. You should trust this new person until they give you reason to not trust them, right? Not so easy. Iām really struggling to give my new man the benefit of the doubt. Heās been nothing but wonderful, but I sent him a text that required a response yesterday afternoon and he never responded. Then he sent me a text today that didnāt acknowledge yesterdayās text and he tells me that he canāt do the thing we had been planning for the weekend. I responded and he didnāt respond back. I want to trust someone again. But, will I ever really, truly be able to trust after all Iāve been through. The trauma of my last LTR might have a lasting impact on my life. I was devastated by the way me ex treated me. Yet, I would like a healthy, loving relationship. I know they exist. I know they can happen. Why has it been so elusive for me? Iām a caring, loving, kind, compassionate, smart, fun person. I know my worth. Iām a catch. Is it that men just suck? I donāt want to believe that. Nonetheless, Iām finding it hard to trust this guy, even though when weāre together, itās great. Itās just not so great when weāre not together. I just hope I can calm the bells going off in my head and stop seeing a red flag that might not exist. My problem in the past was ignoring the red flags. Am I now hypersensitive and my trust issues are making it impossible to really believe I deserve to be loved by a great guy? In my head, I know I deserve someone loving, kind, smart, and accomplished. But, the conditioning from being treated like garbage by the men who said they loved me over the last 30 years could be getting in my way. Deep breath. Itās going to be okay either way because Iām all I need. And, of course, my fabulous girl friends!