J. Sevick

KPOP DEMON HUNTERS (2025) + TUMBLR REACTIONS

Your hobbies are here to help you decompress and have fun. They do not have to be disciplines you toil over for expertise, unless that is something you genuinely enjoy doing.

“I reserve the right to be wrong and for it to not be a failure.”

“I will allow myself the satisfaction of trying.”

to be wrong and for it to

not be a failure.”

You don't have to feel shame in order to improve.

It's okay to identify flaws and weaknesses.

However, I've felt that I thrive best in the "Goldilocks Zone" where I'm aware of my shortcomings yet confident enough to keep exploring.

I'm trying to "change my life" for a lot of different personal reasons, and it's involved going to therapy and reading a ton of books and trying to absorb the many helpful posts from others going through similar things. But one thing I realized is that a lot of my anxiety is coming from deep insecurity. So beating myself up about all the ways I needed to change was only making it worse.

Until I realized that I didn't need to change. I just needed to change how I was interacting with the world and how much (or in my case, how little) I was sharing myself with it.

As cheesy as it is, I started telling myself (paraphrased from a story in Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach):

Don't change. I forgive you [for all the ways anxiety has fucked up my life]. I love you just the way you are.

And it's still early but... it's starting to work? I signed up to volunteer and take an in-person class and I'm planning to go to a book club at a library with strangers and for me that's... a lot. I am so far from perfect but giving myself that love and acceptance to stay myself but also make changes to my life has been really helpful.