Journey Of a Mumma’Bear

First time mum here 🙋‍♀️

And I’m gonna say it, but my child is not even going to know what a deep fried bloody mars bar is until she’s way older.

Little toddlers don’t need deep fried chocolates, or fizzy drinks, or any of that bullshit. And that’s going to come down on me. I’m the one feeding the child, so fruit and wholesome foods is what she’s going to get until she’s big enough to make it herself - or it’s a special occasion.

I’m sorry that I’d rather take the time to take my child outside to go nuts on a plum while I hang some washing, then to go feeding them absolute bullshit.

Teach them to appreciate natural sugars and flavours from early on, they have the rest of their lives for all the rest of that artificial stuff. If I do this now, then at five years old maybe she’ll actually appreciate her fruit and veggies, they won’t be flavourless garbage in her mind.

Especially in today’s age, with today’s information - why would you want to set your kid up for failure?

It’s not that hard people!

This is written in a way that is very open to criticism, but the core of what it’s saying is a wonderful way to teach sharing and the importance of patience.

So at the moment Miss Summer is bed sharing with my partner and I. The midnight snuggles are beyond amazing, but I feel that we need to get babes into a better bed time routine. So here comes the side car!

My thinking is that it establishes Summer’s own safe sleep space, so I can (hopefully) free myself up during nap time; (as much as I love getting a nap in there is sooo much to do!!) She’ll know I’m right there next to her, and if not, that it’s okay to go back to sleep. And eventually it’ll be a way better transition for when she is bigger and we look at moving her into her own space properly, (which I don’t think will be for a while (I’m loving this whole bed-sharing thing so much, I mean who doesn’t love baby cuddles).

So I’m hoping we can get this little project started (and finished, gotta love easy projects!) tonight. I’ll try and get pictures and a run down of how the whole thing comes together.

I’ve got Summer’s convertible cot on standby, some cable ties (because really, they are the best for securing stuff), and I’m planning on running down to Kmart this arvo to get a pool noodle (to fill the gap between the two mattresses).

These days everyone has social media. Your mum, your grandma, even your cousins dog has an Instagram, or a facebook or something! And everyone is more than eager to share their opinions, and nothing is more frustrating than an untactful *Susan coming along like a steam train running you down and making you feel that you're doing it all wrong.


There's sanctimommies, hippie mummies, young mummies and old. It doesn't matter who you are, or what it is you believe in; at the end of the day, everything you know, you learnt somewhere.


So WHY is every one being so nasty and judgemental?!


As someone that loves to learn, I find it absurd that people are being attacked because they don't know something! And worse than the judgemental, in your face mums, are the mums that aren't open to learning!


Let's rewind for a second...


Didn't we bring these little bundles of joy (or terror, depending on the moment) into the world with every intention to do right by them? To keep them safe, happy and healthy?


So I understand that people will always have another opinion, but shouldn't it be about boosting one another to be the best mumma bears we can be! And helping one another to learn and grow?


The best advice I can give is do your own research! Learn more! Then if nana, or some *Susan tries telling you that you're doing things wrong you can come from a place of knowledge.


Because Knowledge is power!


Once you've learnt something as important as safety for children, there's no turning back. If you see someone doing something that may be detrimental to babes', you feel that you have to say something, anything at all. But it doesn't mean you should be a *Susan and be all up in someone's face about it. And there's absolutely no need to be a *Tabitha and act as though your pride is above your child's safety.


At the end of it all, however it may come across - supportively, accusingly, whatever - in that someone's giving you the information to know better.


No one's pride is more important than a child.


So please, be kind, be tactful and spread the love - in a man-eat-man world, us women need to have one another's back.


And remember ladies, you attract more flies with honey than you do with vinegar!