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Not everyone in your life deserves permanent access to you. And this isn’t about judging people, it’s about being honest with yourself. Pay attention to how your body feels around the people you spend time with

Ask yourself:

Do I feel calm or tense around them?

Do I feel at peace after being with them?

Do I feel confident around them?

Do I feel supported without having to explain myself?

Do I feel emotionally safe with them?

Do they respect my boundaries?

Do they really listen to me?

Do they respect me even when we disagree?

Do they celebrate my growth?

Do I feel like myself around them?

Do I hide parts of myself to keep the connection?

Do we share the same core values?

Do they want me to grow, or stay the same?

Do I feel energized or drained after spending time with them?

Do I feel grounded or overwhelmed after talking to them?

Do I trust them with my feelings?

Do I constantly make excuses for them?

Do they bring clarity or confusion into my life?

Do they approach me with curiosity, not judgment?

Do they take responsibility for their actions?

Do they respect my time and priorities?

❦ how much self-control do i have with things that i know are bad for me, but tend to indulge in?

❦ how do i respond to someone who is different from me or whose ideals and beliefs i don't agree with or understand?

❦ how do i deal with being misperceived or misunderstood?

❦ how do i respond when someone judges me, makes fun of me, or calls me names?

❦ how do i deal with other people's mistakes and unpleasant behavior?

❦ how do i deal with people who have hurt me in the past?

❦ how do i spend my free time?

❦ how do i deal with negative people?

❦ how do i deal with stressful situations? do i tend to worry a lot? what else do i do?

❦ how do i deal with inconvenient life situations?

❦ how do i respond to situations that i have no control over?

❦ how do i deal with negativity in my environment?

❦ how do i deal with challenges in my life?

❦ how do i respond to situations that force me to get out of my comfort zone?

❦ how motivated am i to change my life for the better?

❦ how much do i follow through on what i preach and talk about?

❦ how do i deal with uncertainty, the unknown or a future event that i have no control over?

❦ how do i respond to obstacles, hardships, and "bad" things that happen in my life?

❦ how do i respond when i don't get what i want?

❦ how fulfilling is my everyday life?

❦ how do i respond to new ideas and new ways of thinking?

❦ how do i respond to bad or inconvenient news?

❦ how do i deal with the violence, hate, and suffering in the world?

❦ how do i recharge, rejuvenate, and replenish my energy?

❦ how much do i prioritize spending time and energy on myself and on my passions?

❦ how do i deal with change? new job, new house, new lifestyle, new people, new rules, new technology...do i tend to avoid it, welcome it, fear it, like it, complain about it, stress out about it, worry about it?

❦ how do i deal with emotional pain?

❦ how do i respond when plans change or plans get cancelled without my say so?

❦ how do i respond when i make a mistake or when i fail at something?