not a bot just uncomfortable being asked for personal info

and don't get me wrong, the former attitude is one which i consider extremely misguided and counter-productive- but someone who holds that view can be persuaded to adopt a more effective strategy for pursuing their interests through unity between working class people of all races.

From I Am A Transwoman. I Am In The Closet. I Am Not Coming Out. by Jennifer Coates

I hate that the only effective response I can give to “boys are shit” is “well I’m not a boy.” I feel like I am selling out the boy in baseball pajamas that sat with me on the bed while I tried to figure out which one I was supposed to be, and the boys who I have met and loved from inside my boy suit—who believed they were talking to a boy. I feel like I am burning the history of the naked body that sits on the floor of my shower. The body that went to prom in a boxy tuxedo and coveted the dresses.

Because I am not a boy, but I had a boyhood. I was, and am, made to live as a boy and I cannot suspend the perspective that gave me and join in when it’s time to fluster one of those clueless fuckers into anger by calling him a fuckboi and then tell him his anger proves he’s a fuckboi, or to humiliate one with an OKCupid screenshot because we’ve willfully conflated the clumsy ones with the threatening ones so we can grab those solidarity faves. It’s fucked up. It has metastasized.

More than a few out transwomen have told me, privately, they they are uncomfortable with these things, but are afraid that speaking up about it would cause ciswomen to like and trust them less. “I play along,” one of them told me, “because in the queer community the only people who defend cisboys are cisboys. I don’t want to give up finally being read as a girl.”

Another says “I do the misandry stuff because it’s an easy way to earn queer cred points, but when I think about it it makes me uncomfortable.”

Another: “It’s a coping habit I’m not proud of. If I agree ‘girls rule boys drool’ it makes me feel more like a girl.”

Have you noticed, when a product is marketed in an unnecessarily gendered way, that the blame shifts depending on the gender? That a pink pen made “for women” is (and this is, of course, true) the work of idiotic cynical marketing people trying insultingly to pander to what they imagine women want? But when they make yogurt “for men” it is suddenly about how hilarious and fragile masculinity is — how men can’t eat yogurt unless their poor widdle bwains can be sure it doesn’t make them gay? #MasculinitySoFragile is aimed, with smug malice, at men—not marketers.

This conclusion—widely shared—is a product of insulated discourse. What I am NOT saying is: “open the floodgates, let in the shitty male trolls!” I know the trolls—they have tried to be my friends, they have tried to sneak into feminist spaces with no desire to learn or listen. I understand not trusting men who loudly and constantly hold forth on women’s issues and refuse to accept when they are mistaken. I’m not encouraging anyone to trust blindly. I am pleading to the discoursers: consider that this insulation has effects and try to mitigate them, if your priority really is finding truth amid a muck of concealed patriarchal lies. Check to see if maybe you are saying things and reproducing things mostly because it sounds good and feels good and nobody is challenging them.

These are not discursive problems that only apply to an “undercover” transwoman, these are discursive problems that are seemingly only visible to an “undercover” transwoman forced to carry multiple perspectives like bactrian humps.

Plus they're always going to receive more public attention when they are exposed because they have so many connections

Power fucks the brain.

typically when pointed out, the response is either agreement or someone saying "well that's how they're rich! see, these dumb poor people just need to stop being generous". okay they don't say exactly that, but that's what they mean.

HOWEVER. if you hang out with rich people in real life they are not frugal at all. they will spend tons of money on random shit in the blink of an eye. if a rich person is being stingy with you, it's because they don't see the benefit in making your life easier. when they spend money themselves it's often for hobbies and entertainment. so not frugal, just self-centered. this also applies to charity.

i'm also selfish with money for the most part so I suppose I can't judge too much, but what I can judge is the false narrative that your rich friend is stingy because they're "frugal" or "good with money".

Yeah I said something similar yesterday but we can NOT let what happened to Renee Good cloud what happened to everyone else at the hands of these SS Demons!!!

I WISH I WAS A WALTER

In reality I'd say that the biggest difference between the two, rather than that LotR has defined good and evil, is that LotR shows it as mattering when you choose to be good. It also shows forgiveness and atonement as being possible when you make the wrong decision. GoT meanwhile shows a world where every attempt to be good will only cause more evil and suffering either eventually or immediately, and your every mistake or slip causes horrible irrevocable consequences.