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DON’T SAVE HER…

…a 2001 studio track chants into notoriety originating from Memphis, Tennessee, the hometown of Project Pat. Undoubtedly, a prototype to its distant relative, trap music, the mind thumping melody ignites into an underground hit across the nation. It sounds off from the stripper pole ordained stages at Tittie Bars over to the crowded dancefloors of nightclubs. Without contest, it is quickly adopted into pop culture as a wide applying anthem beyond the entertainment arena. It became a staple of everyday life in the hood, mimicked on college campuses, recited in high school hallways, vocalized on city blocks, bantered in job places, and flung around suburbs thought to be nestled far from the Three 6 Mafia affiliates reach. The song eventually faded into obsolescence but its tagline resided on.

Men find a way to faction themselves off from one another based upon any divide they can muster; race, religion, class, geography but no matter how great the difference they all seem to meet on even ground when it comes to suppressing womanhood. Hip-Hop does not covet misogyny nor has it ever truly produced violence. The communities subsiding under it has. This music’s lifespan has been prolific in its use to harvest the seeds of societal ill’s and give the listener firsthand experience into the challenges that minorities, poor, middle class and disenfranchised persons face. It provides a voice to the underprivileged and uncovers the ugliness of the human condition…even if done inadvertently by some misguided entertainer.

Today’s successful and independent women are mounted on the work completed by their forbearers in the 20th Century. Women’s Rights damn near bloomed parallel to the Civil Rights Movement. There are still plenty of ‘first’ milestones being achieved; “first woman elected” or “first woman to be recognized” are commonplace in our headlines. It goes to show that we are still at an early day in the human era. Internationally, women have risen to acquire chief executive seats, medical licensing, political leadership, and financial dominance in their households but still will have their sexual habits, appearance, dating status, and physiology take precedence.

Just as institutional racism remains an opponent so does institutionalized sexism. To fathom humanity reaching the level of consciousness it will take to abandon our present obstacles is the device of fiction. That is just how ingrained the underlying agenda has been woven into our lives. Since birth, our reality has been shaped to preserve double standards that contribute to female subservience and second hand citizenship by a default. The importance of this model staying intact is as critical to our civilizations order as our economy is dependent upon fossil fuel for sustainment.

In a broad context, that is what culture represents… it’s tradition, language, religion, social scripts, behavioral roles, and familial structure packaged and passed along generationally. Mankind’s imperfections accompany this proverbial capsule so by the time maturity begins to set in an Afro-American is predisposed to encounter anxieties attached to stimuli gained during his upbringing just as a female (even of free spirit) will subconsciously experience pressures that she will become socially de-valued if she samples the dating pool too liberally.

If you glance into different groups, you will discover that much of the sentiment is learned during the formative years and carried in to adulthood. What you might have miss-identified as adolescent teasing can now easily be tied to systemic oppression. Even if it is not enforced in the homestead, boys and girls are insisted to obsess and trivialize female sexuality on a societal scale. Quite impactful if you account that she is introduced to all of this bullshit at the onset of puberty and beginning of sexuality, which spawns 24 months before boys on average. I reference the Journal of Reproductive Science’s “Understanding the Development of Adolescent Sexuality:

“Early maturing girls on the other hand, are very self-conscious, insecure, and more likely to develop eating disorders. [17] They are more likely to face sexual advances from older boys, more chances of unwanted pregnancies and more likely to be exposed to alcohol and drug abuse.”

And…

“During adolescence, the physical growth, psychological as well as cognitive development reaches its peak. Adolescent sexuality development can be better explained with the bio-psycho-social model. [7] Biological factors, psychological factors, as well as social factors have equal importance in determining, the development of sexuality in adolescents.”

Lastly…

“Social factors or environmental factors also play a significant role in the development of adolescent sexuality. The attitude of the parents toward sexuality, parenting style, peer relationship, cultural influences are the important social factors which facilitates the sexual learning and decides the sexual attitude of the adolescent.

Other than the biological, psychological, and social factors, many more factors such as political, legal, philosophical, spiritual, ethical, and moral values significantly influence the sexuality development.”

There is clear reasoning why stigmas are associated to a woman’s past as to disarm her present and forewarn pupils of the damages that can be inflicted upon their future social status if they don’t fall in line. Alluding to that fact here is research published by Dr. Trisha Tulloch and Dr. Miriam Kaufman, Department of Pediatrics, University of Toronto:

“Homosexual and heterosexual experimentation is common in early adolescence. If an adolescent has had sex with someone of the same sex, this experience does not mean that the teen is gay. It is important to note that many gay teens have never had a sexual experience with someone of the same sex, and that teens who will eventually identify as gay, lesbian or bisexual do not always do so during adolescence.”

This analysis as stated applies to sexuality in a nutshell. Experimentation with multiple partners is the effects of hormonal and psychological changes that can be accelerated in certain youth and the host environment can indicate the probability of them following their urges. Furthermore, early sexual behavior does not predict what that person will continue, stop, or become. Nor should a person’s sexuality be used to hinder what they can productively contribute to society.

More studies are now being published that reverse the thinking which surrounds the physio-psychological mating habits of men and women in their natural state. We now have evidence that supports why women are actually the ones more prone to participate in infidelity and that it is not emotional triggers that lead to it as once thought. The reality is that they have been taught that the only acceptable justification for cheating should be emotionally related and not just simple carnal lust to fuck other people such as is expected of their male counterpart. Matter of factly, her sexuality is always equated to her feelings. A method that can be (and is) used to discredit the presence of logic and reason.

May I remind you that higher testosterone in women manifests physically in curvier figures aggressive sexual appetites. Using the model of evolutionary science we can arrive at the conclusion this physical trait takes place to secure the attraction of partners. Combine this with the fact that studies show that women will tire of their mate years before their partner will feel an urge to stray. In correlation this is reflected in statistics showing women filing for divorce at a higher rate than men.

Another supporting fact is that women are physically designed to enjoy sexual relations with multiple partners citing their lack of a refractory period post orgasm. Basically, a woman can keep going…a man cannot. If you go into our paleolithic record you can see how this gives advantage for gene survival, and men in return complimented this evolutionary demand by producing a variation of sperm which only serves one purpose; to kill the genetic matter that may be left behind in the cervix from another male. Ignorantly, people are unaware of this natural encoding and the resulting evolutionary adaptation that we are raised to oppose due to cultural assimilation. People should understand that our behaviors and social structures are not the product of natural development but instead are enforcements received from our environment that keeps it all in place…

…until recently

There is no question as to why men lost so much control over women’s lives in the western world. Once birth control provided women the advantage of enjoying sexual recreation with no circumstance the inevitable happened…empowerment. The utilization of that invention allowed women to be as nonchalant with whom they slept with as men; freed from circumstances of being burdened with an inadequate or absentee co-parent. Pregnancy was now only a choice left up to her choosing. With education in place, men’s control and authority over women was eradicated. Men could no longer influence a woman’s behavior by holding financial resources as ransom.

Gender battles have persisted ever since. The pretty face chick with nice tits and the alluring ass is more unobtainable than ever. She’s gorgeous and decorated with her doctorate. Now she only requires a man for sexual gratification. If you are a man that lacks education, economic performance, and social power, she may never let you get a taste at all. Others that do match up won’t have much more success in gaining partnership…she may fuck you but she is not interested in settling down, she never wants kids, and she is unapologetic about her sexual indiscretions with other men.

Personally, I admire these ladies that are able to exploit life at the top for all of its leisure and fringe incentives. It’s a shame that they still have to protest for sole rights to the reproductive functionality of their own body. It’s a sin that they have to collectively unify and advocate to practice freedom and that their sex lives should be held to the same standard as a man. However, with their high income and asset portfolio in tow they show up to fight every time.

My suggestion to women whom are on the lower rungs of education and financial prosperity: don’t steer away from sexual promiscuity or (as a sex positive spin) sexual plentitude for fear of demonization by men. Instead start avoiding men who sexually demonize women. I can promise you 9 times out of 10 these dudes shallow egos and insecurities are at the center of their strife. So, as J. Cole cried out once more to “not save her” in the chorus of his 2014 hit, “No Role Modelz,” it gave today’s woman a perfect opportunity to respond with their account ledger and phone book full of thirsty ass dudes that clearly read, “We don’t want NOR NEED to be SAVED.”