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The abbreviation H.O.P.E. doesn’t only means Hold On, Pain Ends. It also means Have Only Positive Expectations.

We live in a world of energies and forces. Expectation is an attractive force which, though invisible, is as real a force as is electricity. Whatever we expect in life, we attract into our life. That’s why expectations are so powerful, and that’s why it is so important that we replace any and all negative expectations with utterly positive ones (Excelsias, 2017).

Positive expectations can lead to a more positive life. Research has shown that optimists with positive expectations live longer than pessimists. They have less illness, and when they get sick, they recover faster. Conversely, negative expectations can create a negative future. Whether we are aware of it or not, thinking negative thoughts can lead us to taking negative actions that can result in a negative life. Negative expectations are the starting point for living a life of negativity (DiPirro, 2011).

Remind yourself with these to avoid negative expectations and to focus on the positives:

1. Recognize negative expectations. Take a moment today and ask yourself what, deep down in your heart, you truly expect in life? Systematically replace any negative expectations with positive ones. Expect health, abundance, joy, great friendships and wonderful opportunities! Expect all the good life has to offer, knowing that the Divine seeks to express through you in ever greater ways. Expect little, receive little. Expect much, receive much! This is the law (Excelsias, 2017).

2. Practice positive expecting. Practice makes perfect, as they say. So, even when you don't have strong expectations about something, it's a good idea to practice thinking about the future positively. For example, begin an ordinary day at work or school thinking about all of the things that can go right that day. Doing this on a regular basis will help you create a habit of expecting positive things!

♪ I can't let go, broken yet holding on ♪

♪ To you, to us ♪

♪ This love is too strong for me to let go ♪

♪ Broken yet holding on ♪

I wish R.I.P. stands for Return If Possible. I really miss you. But things are different now. I must not allow our past to have meaning today because you have moved on. And you expect me that I have moved on too. But how could I without knowing the answers. What have I done to deserve these pains? I was really not 'the one' right?

Love, you have been my life. Were you drowned that's why you had an affair with my friend? Did you know how it felt? I was overdosed with 'whys' and 'what ifs'. I almost died. How was I able to move if my life has gone? Had you realized that? I did nothing but love you. I don't know what happened, what were the reasons? Please let me know. I don't know how to live anymore.

Your discontentment led you to someone - who happened to be my girl best friend, who wasn't able to value you. Still, I was there... I waited for you to come. I was there... Yet you did not come. My mind was occupied with words that have never left my lips. I never had a chance to talk to you anymore. If only I had, maybe you returned. Maybe you loved me because that's what I deserved. Maybe you learned how to be contented.

Do you remember being asked "What do you want to be when you grow up?" Usually, we'd answer this with what our parent's profession is, some even says to be a mommy/daddy, and then one of the favorites, a teacher. The answer actually doesn't matter - the issue is that we, during our formative years, look upon those people who we saw as our beacon, and we tend to want to be those people.

As we grow, we become aware of things we like: culture, fashion, religion, inspiring people - the list is endless. And many would succumb into this life, of trying to be like what they think they want to be because they tend to lean on others just so they can have a semblance of their own. From idolizing actors, following trends, believing a religious faction. This encompasses more than imitating some other person (Barcenas, 2014).

Many people tend to be dissatisfied with themselves no matter what they achieve. The human species is known to always aim for more. Therefore, their own discontentment leads to insecurity. They fear their counterpart to see the faults they see on themselves so they start telling lies, creating a better image in order not to disgrace themselves. Basically, they create the image they think the other want to see (Berg, 2016).

By not being your "authentic self", you are controlling your life and the people around you. And when facade cracks, you will see the anger and desperation behind the pretense. It's an unhealthy form of self-preservation! People who pretend to be who they're not are looking for validation from society and others (Roses, 2016).

Is it possible to be ourselves? Definitely of course! A person must realize he is his own person. Truly, one does not need any of the things a person thinks he needs just to validate himself.

And how can one achieve that? By accepting, honestly saying to yourself, you do not need any of those. If you want to do something, just do it for yourself, and not because someone is like that (Barcenas, 2014).