Beating BPD

How many bad OKC opening messages are you allowed to send before you're forced to die alone?

People are always like, "you'll regret not spending time with [insert old relative's name here] once they're gone. Literally no. Fuck that. I called my 83-year-old grandmother the other day and she defended reconnecting with the cousins (her other grandchildren) who abused my sisters and me by telling me that they "aren't very bright" and that she needs car rides from them. That was after she insisted that my childhood was perfect and that she was basically a martyr. I'm sorry, but I can't love this person or most of my other extended "family." I tried.

Do you want the honest truth about looking and feeling so different in the workplace? Yes, it is difficult to have multiple marginalized identities AND also dress differently/have visible tattoos. There will always be people who will hate me before they get to know me. There will always be whispers. There will always be stares. But you know what? Being open about who I am has literally saved my life, again and again. I have seen too much and have fought too hard to let ignorance and fear stop me from being a full, participating person in this society. I am aware that I was also born into groups with privilege, and I will continue to use those privileges to fight for others. My mission is to help in some small way to tear down this broken system and create a better world - for you, for me, for all of us.

If someone is screaming at you to "show respect," there is a 95.6% chance that person is an abuser.

I'm not a crazy flake, I just play one in real life.

For someone who claims to be able to handle conflict, I sure am great at avoiding it.