your emotional rational.

Blood is thicker than water The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.

and like honestly WHAT has the queer community on this hellsite BECOME?? why have we created this weird thing of constantly wanting to be “valid” and “allowed” like kids!! you are allowed!! i promise you you’re allowed!! it’s okay!!

you are allowed to be a nonbinary lesbian you are allowed to be both bi and ace you’re allowed to use he/him pronouns and be transfem you’re allowed to be transmasc and lesbian you’re allowed to be transfem and gay you’re allowed to be both mlm and wlw at the same time you’re allowed to be nonbinary even if you’re a little bit a binary gender you are allowed!! it’s okay!! 

what is mbti?

mbti is a tool which is frequently used to help individuals understand their own psychological preferences in communication, interaction with others, perceiving the world, problem solving, managing changes, resolving conflict etc.

is mbti even a real thing?

though the mbti resembles some psychological theories, it has been criticized as pseudoscience and is not widely endorsed by academic researchers in the field.

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now that you have an idea about what mbti is - let’s get familiar with the 8 mbti functions

1. extroverted sensing (se)

extroverted sensing is using taste, touch, smell, sound, movement and sight to easily absorb information in the physical world. as strongly observant, these people pick up on details other people do not notice, and some even have a photographic memory. they love excitement, spontaneity, new experiences, and material goods.

2. introverted sensing (si)

introverted sensing is understanding the world through past precedent and experience. people who are introverted sensors thrive using routine, tradition, organization, and rules. they are often very attuned to their bodies, and have specific ways of doing things that work for them in order to get the job done. they are responsible, reliable, and cautious.

3. extroverted thinking (te)

extroverted thinking is outwardly conveying thoughts using logic, reason, and analysis. extroverted thinkers are clear and concise, direct, and unmoved by emotional appeals. they are often strong orators and writers, who have thoughtful, well-researched arguments and theories. extroverted thinkers like to convince people of their thoughts and implement new ideas.

4. introverted thinking (ti)

introverted thinking is a function that seeks to understand personal ideas using a deeply specified framework. introverted thinkers are constantly mining their own thoughts in an attempt to be rational and reasonable, slowly ruling out other ideas before coming to their own firm conclusions and they’re often guarded about how they got to these conclusions.

5. extroverted intuition (ne)

extroverted intuition often means noticing patterns, symbols, and connections in the world that others may not see. extroverted intuitives live for possibility, often expressing themselves through a tumble of ideas, or a constant external brainstorm. they may talk about many things they want to do, but not ultimately follow through. for them, it’s all part of the process to get to the best idea.

6. introverted intuition (ni)

introverted intuition is described as “knowing without knowing how,” as well as “thinking without thinking.” it’s the most mystical of all the mbti functions. people with this dominant function tend to reach conclusions without having a clear idea as to how they got there. they are wise, convicted, and always have a plan to work toward a bigger picture and seek to build and understand complex systems. Introverted intuitives are always processing in the background, and regularly have answers simply come out of nowhere.

7. extroverted feeling (fe)

extroverted feeling is concerned with harmony, bringing people together, and caring. extroverted feelers are great at reading the emotions of others; they are big empathizers, absorbing the feelings of others around them to the point that they sometimes cannot tell which feelings are their own. they easily squash and step around conflicts, and they are typically very social.

8. introverted feeling (fi)

introverted feeling is a function concerned with authenticity, individualism and values. introverted feelers know what they believe, have a strong sense of self, and can easily identify their personal experience of emotion. they are often outspoken activists, and love to help those in need. they don’t have stronger feelings than others who utilize this function, but they do have more mastery over them and can put them toward change—of self, of others, of society.

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understanding the mbti functions as the 16 types

now that we’re clear about the eight mbti functions, we can better understand how they correspond to each of the 16 personality types. each type has four functions, ordered in a stack from strongest to weakest:

dominant function

the first function in the stack is called the dominant function, the strongest one you use so often, you may not even realize you are doing it.

auxiliary function

the second function is called the auxiliary function, which assists the dominant function in conveying ideas and is also relatively strong in your personality.

tertiary function

the third function is the tertiary function, which may be slightly under-developed, but does start to manifest in your type more prominently as you age.

inferior function

the fourth function is your inferior function, which is challenging to access and often only comes out under stress.

now, let’s look at all of the types and their functions.

INTJ: Ni > Te > Fi > Se

INFJ: Ni > Fe > Ti > Se

ENTJ: Te > Ni > Se > Fi

ENFJ: Fe > Ni > Se > Ti

ENTP: Ne > Ti > Fe > Si

INTP: Ti > Ne > Si > Fe

INFP: Fi > Ne > Si > Te

ENFP: Ne > Fi > Te > Si

ESTP: Se > Ti > Fe > Ni

ESFP: Se > Fi > Te > Ni

ISTP: Ti > Se > Ni > Fe

ISFP: Fi > Se > Ni > Te

ISFJ: Si > Fe > Ti > Ne

ESFJ: Fe > Si > Ne > Ti

ESTJ: Te > Si > Ne > Fi

ISTJ: Si > Te > Fi > Ne

to take a closer look, let’s break down what this means for just one of the types. say we’re analyzing the ISTP personality. to do this, we consider the four cognitive functions that correspond to the respective personality type in order to get a deeper understanding.

ISTP: Ti > Se > Ni > Fe

ISTPs are rational and reasonable, very analytical, logical and objective (dominant ti). they have detailed memory of events. they focus on the objective, sensory world and are eager to experience it fully (auxiliary se). may be focused inwards, on the internal world of thoughts, ideas, and concepts (tertiary ni)

Extraverted Feeling (Fe) acceptability, behavior, reciprocity, appeal, romanticism, mirroring, evocative, drama, spectacle, atmosphere, sympathy, identity, mood, reaction, expression, treatment, cooperation, consensus, gossip, ceremony, ritual, acting, performance, rapport

Extraverted Thinking (Te) efficacy, management, productivity, organization, control, benefit, method, technology, justice, policy, expediency, economics, law, mechanism, utilitarianism, regularity, enforcement, correction, optimization, substantiating, evidence, operation, contingency

Extraverted Intuition (Ne) versatility, innovation, discovery, scatterbrain, essence, chance, semblance, correlation, diversity, potential, experiment, alternatives, options, brainstorming, connections, insight, paradox, metaphor, apophenia, guess, variants, coincidence, optimism, creativity

Extraverted Sensation (Se) valor, force, power, brazen, candor, zest, appearance, struggle, competition, impact, acquisition, kinesthetic, texture, presence, mobility, appearance, exploration, impulse, tactical, responsive, politics, fulfilment, pressure, simplification

Introverted Feeling (Fi) conviction, intention, devotion, congruence, sentiment, yearning, humanism, motivation, closeness, sacrosanct, resonance, spirituality, self-absorption, relationship, character, personality, empathy, opinion, evaluation, intensity, appraisal, liberty

Introverted Thinking (Ti) theory, construct, definition, consistency, analysis, language, framework, clarity, accordance, troubleshoot, precision, hypothesis, dissection, reasoning, architecture, classification, geometry, systematization, cartography, grammar, calculation

Introverted Intuition (Ni) transformation, forecasting, philosophy, vision, development, fantasy, indication, signs, metamorphosis, prediction, consequence, archetype, esoteric, mystical, dreams, meaning, anticipation, mythology, historicity, rhythm, timing, hunch, pioneering

Introvertion it's not equal to shyness, even extroverts can have social anxiety.

It just means we're hyper sensitive (neurology speaking) to outside stimulus and need more time to recharge our exhausted brains. We will get exhausted from things that look simple and dumb from an extrovert point of view. Imagine having fireworks constantly in your head. Isolation helps calm down those fireworks.

It has, LITERALLY been proven that extroverts and introverts receive outside stimulus in a different way. That's it, that's the hole f*cking difference.

An introvert around friends can be very talkative, like a lot, I mean it. Specially if the topic it's interesting.

Also even if someone is a stranger they still will talk, a bit more reserved, if again it's a really good topic or there's good chemistry (not necessarily romantic one). For example: I was at a friend's birthday party and I spent almost three hours debating, the possibility of having human like AI in the near future, with one of his friends that I had just met. Of course when I returned home I felt like a truck had drove over me and slept like if I had taken 20 pills of xanax.

We don't die if we have small talk, it's boring yes, but it's part of the process of living in a society and having good manners.

SO PLEASE, COULD CHILL THE F*CK OUT WITH EMO INTROVERT DESCRIPTION OF "I'M NOT LIKE THE OTHERS"?!

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MBTI CHEAT SHEET #3

note: in the bullet list i’ll be talking about the HIGH users of the mentioned function.

and i’ll talk bout heathy and unhealthy traits in the same bullet list randomly without order so don’t be offended if there’s a trait bout your dominant function that ain’t as nice, it’ll probably be just an unhealthy trait of the function.

EXTROVERTED FUNCTIONS —

each extroverted function proceeds information faster than its introverted contra-part.

for example: Fe proceeds feelings faster than Fi. Fe might feel more emotions but Fi will feel more deeply.

Fe— extroverted feeling

Fe is an extroverted judging function.

dom-Fe —> ExFJ (high user)

aux-Fe —> IxFJ (high user)

tert-Fe —> ExTP (low user)

inf-Fe —> IxTP (low user)

Fe is concerned with other people’s feelings (contrary to Fi)

Fe can be dependent on other people cuz it does a lot for others and expects em to do the same.

Fe high users are usually rly socially aware

they are emphatic and can put themselves well in other peoples shoes (that can be used for good AND bad intentions; remember just bc someone might be emphatic does not mean they’re good people)

they tend to get jealous rly easily (bc Fe compares itself to others a lot

they tend towards passive aggressive behaviour instead of expressing their anger in an open manner

Fe-high users are aware of other people’s emotions but not their own

they often want you to feel a certain way (like if you’re upset they’ll try their best to make you happy again; or they can guilt trip you)

slight inference that you better agree

CAN be fake

Fe is warm, caring and rly helpful if heathy. dependant, manipulative and passive aggressive if unhealthy

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Te— extroverted thinking

Te is an extroverted judging function.

dom-Te —> ExTJ (high user)

aux-Te —> IxTJ (high user)

tert-Te —> ExFP (low user)

inf-Te —> IxFP (low user)

Te is concerned with structure and getting things done

values external evidence over pure logic

independent and often work alcoholics

socially aware but not of other peoples feelings

suppresses emotions cuz what would you gain from expressing it?

often intimating

if you have a problem they wouldn’t try to make you feel better but to fix your problem instead

very straightforward, direct, blunt even

Te-high-users are the least type to be manipulative

they hate being manipulated

highly objective

Te detests subjectivity

Te is objective, practical and structured if heathy. mean, angry and concerned with cutting thru if unhealthy.

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Se— extroverted sensing

Se is an extroverted perceiving function.

dom-Se —> ESxP (high user)

aux-Se —> ISxP (high user)

tert-Se —> ENxJ (low user)

inf-Se —> INxJ (low user)

lives in the moment

wants to experience everything life has to offer

cant plan further into the future

physical approach

impulsive and spontaneous

relaxed and laid pack

hand-on learning

often like sports and material arts

reckless

get bored of pure theories

doing instead of thinking

Se is spontaneous, chill and fun if heathy. reckless, future-neglecting and impulsive if unhealthy.

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Ne— extroverted intuition

Ne is an extroverted perceiving function.

dom-Ne —> ENxP (high user)

aux-Ne —> INxP (high user)

tert-Ne —> ESxJ (low user)

inf-Ne —> ISxJ (low user)

possibilities possibilities possibilities

broad ideas and abstract concepts (contrary to Ni’s deep ones)

what if thinking

expanding (contrary to Ni)

Ne-doms are often excited

inclined to rapid changes in mind

a lot of perspectives at once

Ne reads between the lines and too much into things

seek proof to back up their instinct (contrary to Ni)

thinks outside the box

loves new thinks

hates being/feeling trapped

strongly values freedom

open-minded!!

commitment-issues and burning bridges

scattered

likes to keep things open (contrary to Ni)

Ne is open-minded, creative, and full of new possibilities if heathy. scattered, commitment-phobic and tends towards burning bridges if unhealthy.

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INTROVERTED FUNCTIONS—

these are often not clearly visible cuz they do their work internal.

Si— introverted sensing

Si is an introverted perceiving function.

dom-Si —> ISxJ (high user)

aux-Si —> ESxJ (high user)

tert-Si —> INxP (low user)

inf-Si —> ENxP (low user)

comfortable with routine

doesn’t like change

hand-on learning

get bored of pure theories

detail-oriented

how did it always work?

understands things when they are done

down to earth

can be picky/ control freaks (istj more than isfj)

can be close-minded

Si is down to earth, detail oriented and in tune with reality if heathy. close-minded and picky control freaks if unhealthy.

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Ti— introverted thinking

Ti is an introverted judging function.

dom-Ti —> IxTP (high user)

aux-Ti —> ExTP (high user)

tert-Ti —> IxFJ (low user)

inf-Ti —> ExFJ (low user)

detached, highly logical and analytical

values logic (and personal freedom) over everything

cant enjoy anything unless it makes sense to them (for example if a relationship is nice but it doesn’t make sense to them why the other person likes them they’ll break up)

quite and laid back (only IxTP)

have a hard time controlling their anger

not aware of their emotions nor other peoples emotions

if they feel emotions it’s often expressed thru anger

barley ever cry (they just can’t, it’s awful)

tend to run away from their pain thru fun

IxTPs aren’t rly socially aware due to inferior Fe, where ExTP are charming due to tertiary Fe.

it often seems as if they don’t care bout you (even if they do)

nihilistic

might not give a fuck cuz everthing is so meaningless

Ti can be analytical, logical and an affective ‘search machine’ for plot holes of any kind if healthy. detached, emotionally dead, isolated and nihilistic if unhealthy.

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Fi- introverted feeling

Fi is an introverted judging function.

dom-Fi —> IxFP (high user)

aux-Fi —> ExFP (high user)

tert-Fi —> IxTJ (low user)

inf-Fi —> ExTJ (low user)

sensitive but private in their feelings

makes decisions based on personal values

how does this affects me?

cant verbalize emotions

needs time to proceeds feelings

not judgmental of others

very protective of identity

“i” talking

to focused on self (it’s my fault, i fuqed this up, i ruined everything)

CAN be selfish

extreme self loathing if unhealthy

feels rly deeply

Fi is sensitive, private, and almost immune to peer pressure if heathy. isolated, self-loathing and selfish if unhealthy.

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Ni— introverted intuition

Ni is an introverted perceiving function.

dom-Ni —> INxJ (high user)

aux-Ni —> ENxJ (high user)

tert-Ni —> ISxP (low user)

inf-Ni —> ESxP (low user)

closest function to the subconscious

therefore does most of its work subconsciously

interested in abstract theories, ideas and concepts

always reads between the lines

always searches for a deeper meaning

detached from sensory reality

poor at interacting with the sensory environment

they just ‘know’ things and they can’t explain it

freakin accurate hunches and epiphanies (aha moments)

they NEED (not want to, they fuqin need to, or they’ll feel sick) to narrow things down to reach ONE CERTAIN outcome (contrary to Ne)

therefore predict things in an accurate way

can be extremely paranoid

imaginary monsters

often wrapped view of reality (for the infj more)

plans EVERYTHING

big picture

can be control freaks

Ni is highly abstract, creative and can predict future outcomes and great at making plans if heathy. extreme paranoia, wrapped version of realty and pointing at imaginary monsters if unhealthy.

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