Whatever I Goddamn Well Please

what is happening in sudan?

the hunger crisis in sudan

how can i stay updated on the situation in sudan? sudan war monitor, radio dabanga, ayin weekly news bulletin, msf sudan

how to help individual sudanis

donate towards a community kitchen

help sudani women receive menstrual products

yemen:

what is happening in yemen?

the malaria crisis in yemen | the cholera outbreak in yemen

the flooding crisis in yemen

how can i stay updated on the situation in yemen? yemen online, live event coverage, yemen news agency

how to help individual yemenis

donate towards food, healthcare and education in yemen

dr congo:

what is happening in dr congo?

the congolese rape crisis

coltan mining in the drc / ethically sourcing electronics

the 2025 ebola outbreak in dr congo

how can i stay updated on the situation in drc? all africa, al jazeera, team congo

donate towards humanitarian aid in the drc

donate to support women in the drc

donate to build a school in doma, drc

tigray:

what is happening in tigray?

the displacement crisis in tigray

the ongoing tigray famine

how can i stay updated on the situation in tigray? omna tigray, tghat media, weghata facts

donate towards displaced people in tigray

haiti:

what is happening in haiti?

the displacement crisis in haiti

how can i stay updated on the situation in haiti? the haiti times, haiti libre, le facteur haiti, ayibopost

donate towards individual haitians

donate towards education for haitian children

gaza:

what is happening in gaza?

1948 nakba-now

the famine crisis in gaza

how can i stay updated on the situation in gaza? eye on palestine, quds news network, al jazeera

donate to help individual gazans

donate towards soup kitchens in gaza city

donate towards menstrual kits for gazan women

general resources:

decolonizemyself

so informed

guttmacher institute

middle east matters

code pink

bds movement

this is a non exhaustive resource. violence, oppression and genocide towards minority groups is widespread and ongoing, and not limited to these groups or resources. remaining uneducated is a choice, and an inexcusable one to make. the same systems used to oppress and kill ethnic groups across the world can be used on you, too.

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My aunt is over sixty, never married, and never, so far as I am aware, ever even had a great romance.  She dated a lot, but never clicked and now seems to have given up.  My mentor is over seventy, divorced her asshole husband more than half her life ago and has never found anyone since.

We all know women (and men) like these.  And because we know them, we know that “one day you will find someone,” is just … hogwash.  Because sometimes you just … don’t.  Or sometimes you do, but he turns out to be a cad.  Or you do and the universe rips you apart in the most unfair way possible.  And because society has us so fixated on finding “our other half” or whatever, we view these women as cautionary tales.

But … 

My aunt trains dogs.  Her schipperke is the national champion for his breed.  She spent so much of her life as a librarian, nurturing the love of books in kids, myself among them.  I ride horses because of her, and it’s one of the very few things I do that makes my soul feel at peace.

My mentor is one of the best criminal defense attorneys in her state.  She has devoted her life to fighting to ensure that everyone gets a vigorous defense.  Because of her countless people have had the opportunity to turn their lives around.  Because of her, they’ve had a life to turn around.  Because of her, the prosecution and the police in her jurisdiction are forced to behave ethically and adhere to the rule of law.  She’s still, even now fighting to abolish the death penalty.  It’s because of her that I am pursuing the life I am.

These women’s lives are not nothing.  In fact they are a whole lot of something, and it makes my heart hurt that I ever, in my dark 3 am’s, thought of their lives as something to be avoided at all costs.

So love your family, your friends, your pets, your gardens.  Love your job or your hobby or your raison d’ etre, whatever it is.  Love sunsets and the smell of rain and yourself, and don’t love these as something to do as a placeholder until the buzzing, romantic love comes, but love these as things worth loving all in themselves.