lan

Maturity is not seeking revenge. It's healing and moving on, so you don’t become like the people who traumatized you.

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but please don’t break promises you make to yourself just because it’s you the promise is being made to. You told yourself you’d go on a walk tomorrow morning? Do it. You said you’d get more consistent with your skincare routine? Make it happen. You promised yourself you would work on establishing boundaries regardless of who’s on the other side of them? Follow through with that. Don’t wake up the next day and go “well I don’t HAVE to do this” “it wouldn’t hurt to postpone this” “this isn’t a big deal” because it literally is. Every promise broken is another nail in the coffin of your self-actualization. It’s another major roadblock to developing healthy self-love and self-respect. Weigh promises you’ve made to yourself the same way you would weigh promises you’ve made to others.

unforch :)

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Saw someone say “gonna walk into the desert and let the scarabs take me” and that’s helped a bit

i don't know who needs to hear this, but guilt, self-hatred and shame are not sustainable sources of growth and healing. you can't hate yourself into feeling better, or being better. you can't repeatedly punish yourself for your flawed humanity and expect wholesome results.

It's okay to be messy, to be lousy, to be confused and try different things all at once. At the right time, you'll find your way out of this confusion, realize what's really important and grow your abilities. Just be patient and let things flow without trying to constantly control them or fear running out of time (it will only stress you and increase your confusion)