INFJ-ish Things

You can’t do something until you completely understand why you have to do it. 

You know your problems well, maybe too well.

The idea that you might not be able to fix your flaws genuinely scares you.

I just read my diary that I wrote when I was about 16. I just want to tell all young INFJs that it does get better. You’ll learn how to not get hurt by people. You’ll learn how to shut down negative thoughts. You’ll still be the perfectionist you’ve always been and probably still really hard on yourself, but you’ll also realize that’s what pushed you to get where you are now. You’ll also learn how to distance yourself from other people’s emotion, and finally understand not everything is your fault. You probably don’t believe when someone says you this kind of hopeful things. It's hard to imagine yourself being that strong and determined, I know. But you have always been like that. You just need to let more things happen to you and shape you. Don't be afraid of emotion, don't be afraid of new things. Remember, the best quality of you is the ability of reflecting past experiences to become a better version of you.

I got that reaction when people know that I like hiphop. But I guess introverted people spend more time listening to music than extroverted people as it's a way of isolating yourself from the outer world (at least for me). I do spend way too much time on Spotify sorting playlists just for my own enjoyment haha. I like Chvrches and FATM as well! You might enjoy Jamie Woon (unless you already know).

What kind of music do you guys listen to? I’m curious :) 

I am wasting my life worrying about not being productive enough.

For instance, INFJs sometimes crack jokes or talk to everyone when they are in a new social situation, just to make things less awkward for them and other people. They can even be loud in that case. When everyone actually starts to talk to each other, INFJs feel they’ve done their share of work and stay quite.

I draw sometimes

This is a great book for INFJs who are struggling between one’s perpetuating loneliness and fear of rejection. I don’t agree with some parts but the book does a great job explaining the nature of loneliness and its physiological effects. It will motivate you to break out of (or at least acknowledge) the vicious circle of loneliness.