And of course, a blank if anyone out there wants to use it.

And of course, a blank if anyone out there wants to use it.

We struggle a lot with the fact that some of us aren't very elaborate, by design. One of our worse spirals involved asking a self-care headmate if he has any other personality traits beyond liking us and let me tell ya, that did not go well.

though firstly: try not to get caught in the cycle of "other people have it worse" theres ALWAYS gonna be someone who has it worse and it doesnt even matter cuz its not like you having it better or worse affects them in any way at all. just look at yourself/yourselves from where you are and try to make things better no matter what.

and also BIG DISCLAIMER every system is different and this is just stuff we learned/experienced ourselves as one system. take what serves you leave what doesnt. its totally fine to have different experiences or things work differently insys.

first off: nothing wrong with being median (between singlet and full multiplicity). if it works it works and nobody has any right to tell you what you can and can't be. being median isnt "bad at being" anything, its just another way of being. you also dont need to know who is fronting at all times just for the sake of knowing. if its helpful to you& then sure, but dont think you *have* to, yknow? youre still plural even if youre blurry all the time.

but also: its OKAY to want to be more separate too! there are guides to help people with that. when we first had our syscovery back in 2021, we wouldve related SO much to this comic (and honestly probably before the syscovery too). but we found resources and were able to make ourselves more separate, and with support of our friends and partners, were able to cultivate our identities to be the way WE want them to be. dropping all the unhelpful labels and strict boxes we put ourselves in before even realizing we were plural, and becoming the people we actively choose to be, every day. plus we even built our innerworld, we didnt have one most of our life. of course this wont help everyone, but its been immensely freeing and satisfying for us, and we didnt know it was a possibility at first. so im just sharing this for anyone who doesnt know this is a possibility too.

"all i want is to have real, meaningful connections with everyone i share a brain with" - like said in the comic, it is already real. but wanting more ways to connect with people insys is an understandable thing to want, and something you can strive towards! we used to be closer to scattered thoughts and voices, now we have an innerworld and insys bodies we created for ourselves that align with our identities. and it makes it a LOT easier to interact with each other when youre more separate and have an innerworld and insys bodies. again, not that its necessary or wanted for everyone - but developing these things so we can interact better was a HUGE step for our healing, and our life is so much better and easier to navigate this way, even in outerworld.

maybe some people would label us as egotistical and self-serving for approaching our plurality this way, but it has done nothing but good for us personally. not saying that OP is saying this, just that, even though we are mixed origin and have mostly traumagenic sysmates, its a very... "Endogenic" way of viewing plurality (for lack of better word), and a lot of people have biases against that. the resources mentioned earlier, we dont have links to them anymore, but they were all from the endogenic community. psychiatry and just... general sysphobia wants people to believe that striving to be more singular is the only way to heal. but being more separate is also a way to heal, it definitely was for us. and i feel like a lot of plurals dont really realize that their identities are as fluid as anyone else's, and the way you& are can change, sometimes more drastically than you& could ever dream of. that happened to us, if you told us around our syscovery that our system would be anything like today, we wouldnt think it was possible, lmao.

but anyway. all of that is just to say: you& can design and define your system however you want. be more separate, be more singular, whatever you& choose, its your& choice. if youre& struggling with this, there are resources to help. if anyone is curious feel free to DM us, we havent looked in a while, but could prolly find some resources for it again.