Forever let your Sun Shine the Brightest

when all your homies are talking about homoerotic sword fights where both parties are covered in shallow cuts and bruises and sweaty and panting and so on and so forth but your combat style revolves around sneak attacks and instant kill poison

a lot of fetishes are by nature taboo and not really talked about in polite company but since most have very specific names (usually something-philia) and are subject to psychological studies occasionally, you can find books and articles about them online. aside from that, it can be worthwhile to just look at something you enjoy and question your personal desire for it, and branch off from there, which can lead to more nuanced discussion when you're among peers. sometimes it can end up being a whole ass anthropological history lesson and you might be surprised just how much documentation there is and how far back people were entertaining certain fantasies and desires