★Ravyn D.★

No. 1

By using the wisdom you've acquired on your personal journey this far to get real and honest with yourself about what it is you truly want in life, love, friendships, career, and so on. You can nourish yourself by actually taking a while to understand what your experiences have taught you about your true desires and what you will and will not tolerate.

For example, you may have been friends with somebody for x amount of years but things just aren't the same anymore, and maybe it's not exactly the most compatible connection anymore and perhaps it's gotten quite unsavory. You keep trying and trying to make it work but nothing us working... Are you just gonna keep going on doing that for another year or are you gonna cut your losses and move on? Because if you enjoy wasting time then by all means but baby you gotta live for you. I'm not saying abandon a friend or lover or something in need, don't go putting words in my mouth now... But I speak from experience that sometimes staying can drive you actually mad, so much so you don't even recognize yourself anymore, all in the name of what? Love? At that point it's not love it's something else I haven't been able to name yet, maybe obligation.

Whether it's a job, a person, a habit, a part of yourself even, you've already played this song and dance before. The same relationship dynamic over and over again with different people, the same treatment in different places, but you've grown and expanded far beyond those old spaces. You no longer have the capacity to keep going on with a show you don't fit into anymore. It's time to think about what it is YOU want. What kind of friendships do you desire? What opportunities are you willing to take the leap towards? You've obtained the wisdom from those painful experiences, you can go forward now with the skills and knowledge to ensure they do not repeat.

So measure what's of value to you, and give it life. Give yourself the validation nobody else had the balls to give you and go forward with your life, because it is YOUR LIFE! And nobody gets to take that away from you.

No. 2

You need to let your inner child, whimsical girl/boy, sensitive side of you shine. Not in the "oh go play with legos because you liked legos as a child" but in a way where you're still you, as an adult, having "youthful" fun. For me that's picking flowers and giving them to my ancestors as offerings, or playing music whilst doing something creative. Maybe for you it is something a bit more childish, I collect dolls for example. Or maybe it's just about having fun in whatever it is you do. Like I'm being drawn to bag charms, it's cute, it's fun, it's something small but it just gives 🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾 you know? Maybe crafting a charm of sorts, bag, camera, phone, even a magical charm... A magical bag charm sounds fun, ima write that down for myself...

But yeah you need to have fun again, get a little whimsical, do something that makes you feel at home in yourself. Idk why but there's a message here that some of you may be women or really feminine but you don't express that side of you. Like I'm being drawn to a woman who wears boyish clothes and doesn't like pink because it "equals weakness" or some dumb shit, but highkey she actually likes girly stuff but is cutting herself off from that. Or now I'm seeing someone being painfully restrictive with what they enjoy, from a sweet treat to media.

...some of y'all need to let loose jesus christ dude.

How you can nourish yourself right now is by having fun. That's it. "Oh but that's not productive and I have-" you're literally gonna die someday. Plus, you're wasting more time stressing yourself out than just giving yourself what you need. Having fun IS productive, just like sleep is, just like eating or writing or producing or making money or whatever is! Having fun, enjoying the life you currently have, is very important. You don't get extra points for torturing yourself, because at the end of the day those that do are very miserable, it's not hard to see.

So go, shoo! Go have fun! And do it boldly!

No. 3

I think for some, you need to recognize the shitty hand you were dealt especially as a child or in your previous years. Sure, we are never perfect victims and we all have our shadows. But that doesn't mean you should deny what you were going through as well.

A conversation I had recently with a man is coming to mind, he was asking me if I believed that spirits can make us feel and amplify our bad emotions. I told him, that perhaps, some might. But that's a cheap way out, no? If we blame everything wrong with our lives on unseen outer forces we divorce ourselves from the freedom that is personal responsibility and accountability. While yes, outer forces both human and spirit can cause us distress, trauma, or setbacks. Undeniable situations aren't what I'm talking about, I'm talking about us holding ourselves back and then blaming something or even someone else.

Sometimes these unseen forces in our lives, these "bad spirits" are just traumas we haven't yet worked through. If we refuse to acknowledge our hurt, our weakness, then we'll make excuses and blame anything for why we feel how we feel. Sometimes we are our own poltergeist.

Instead of blaming what you cannot see (trauma, the subconscious drives behind your actions and behaviors, poor mental health, etc.) We should try to give it an offering. For you, you need to give your pain the recognition it deserves. To acknowledge your sounds or else they fester and worsen. The so called "curse" cast upon you can be broken through careful dismantling, but in order to even get to that point you must analyze the issue at hand.

This pained part of you isn't to be summoned and beaten and made to obey, but instead worked WITH. Everyone no matter what they say has darkness and light within them. Good and bad, positive and negative. No one can ever truly be cleansed of these attributes, however most of us have the choice to balance or amplify them.

You may feel you're trapped, haunted, cursed by something. But it's an illusion here. You have the ability to free yourself. Through gentle examination, recognition of your past but also the good within you, and the acceptance that you're a creature of dual nature: good and bad, dark and light.

Once you have reached more solid ground, you will start to see the truth of you, who you are beyond what I'm saying. You will be able to recognize your true value and when you can do that, you can accomplish so much.

Devote yourself to yourself for a time, and do not be afraid of the dark.

For some, if possible, I would recommend seeking out a professional to work through any serious issues or traumas as this sort of thing is not always meant to be done alone. However, I understand if that isn't possible right now, and I'll never push that on anybody.

You take care now.