casual affair

whenever i see a post about someone wondering how an  asexual and a sexual can be in a healthy relationship there’s always someone being applauded for saying well asexuals can have sex too or just because someone’s asexual doesn’t mean they won’t have sex but i have never, not once, EVER seen someone say well hey, some sexuals don’t have sex. you can have a full relationship without sex. just throwing it out there

Everyone in the notes saying polyamory and open relationships are great fixes for this too are missing the point. Ace people can have sex—and, yes, some enjoy sex. Yes, open relationships can be loving and healthy for ace people too. But ultimately you’re saying asexuality needs to be fixed by access to sex somehow. To quote op ‘you can have a full relationship without sex’. Your suggestion to find sex outside of the relationship with an ace partner completely misses that point.

the nasty trick is that making friends is pretty easy but managing to keep in touch with everyone is next to impossible

one of the best things for me in adulthood was realising just how many other human beings are mentally ill, weird, stupid, embarassing. like truly truly we all say idiotic things and make mistakes and i dont have to punish myself and crawl into a hole and die over being imperfect. Read one comments section and you'll understand that there are more lunatics than you could ever imagine

ever since i was a little girl i knew i wanted to deny location sharing and turn off personalized ads and reject all non-essential cookies and not set up siri and face ID

your muscles being pleasantly sore after exercise is such a nice incentive I can see why they patched that in. the forced regular logins to avoid losing progress however are a predatory practice and deserve nothing but scorn.

I miss when you could go into the tags of a fandom and find really cool people making shit purely for the love of it, nowadays you join a fandom and it's essential for your sanity to make 2-3 mutuals who get you and then get the fuck outa there as fast as possible or you’ll develop a deep resentment for it

I have been nothing but elusive and difficult to you and this is how you treat me

don’t forget that it’s your life. it’s not school’s life, it’s not work’s life, it’s not your family or your partner’s life—it’s perpetually your life, for better or worse. what do you want from this life? forget happy, what motivates you to live? why are you here?

you’ll be a teenager in the early 2010s watching with fascinated horror the rise of gamergate and r/mensrights and be like “wow this is fucked up, good thing it’s just online” and then it will turn into the entirety of mainstream politics for the rest of your life

Ugh, it was in mine. It's off now.

AI is a freacking plague, I share this for any windows user.

[one single bloodcurdling agonized scream] ok time to lock in

"There's millions of Tumblr users" to you. To me there's only about 12 and we all reblog the same five posts from each other

a lot of stories are about the fantasy of someone going to find you when u disappear from a group function

its good to acknoweldge the hollowness of revenge but sometimes you really do just need a story about someone who gets hurt and then kills and kills and kills and kills their enemies. its cathartic, babey.

"there's nothing that can bring my loved one back, so there's no point in killing you" and "there's nothing that can bring my loved one back, so there's nothing that can save you" are two themes that can and should co-exist