How Not To Be A Jerk

At my current job, in an ABA clinic, I was promoted to a management position. We had some people, who were less qualified, that thought they should've been promoted and made their feelings known. One girl in particular has walked around like she's better than everyone since she got there.

When she first started, she never shut up about her boyfriend's job. She also told everyone she already had the required certification when she didn't.

Now, this girl ALWAYS has an attitude and/or a snarky comment about everything. She tells people what to do (usually in a snotty tone). She has major RBF, so she just looks miserable most of the time. During group time, when staff are supposed to engage with their clients, she sits in the back on her phone. And in the evenings when everyone else is helping with closing chores, she doesn't do anything.

I know it's not just me because others in management and other staff have brought up her attitude several times.

Today, my client went to interact with another staff member. RBF girl's client happened to be standing nearby, so she immediately told my client, "leave [client's name] alone." I assured her that he was not bothering her client and was trying to interact with a nearby staff member. She went, "well my client was right there!" Her client was around a corner and my client wasn't even looking at them. I told her to worry about her own client (we're literally not supposed to be redirecting clients we're not with) and went "I am."

She takes time off CONSTANTLY (as does the rest of the department), sometimes leaving me by myself, but gets pissed when I take time off. I took two days off after getting in a freaking CAR ACCIDENT and she kept asking me when I'd be back, and that's just one example.

She has zero empathy for anyone at all. Talks about families "not investing in education" when they can't afford tuition at our school. Complains about how loud the special needs children in our building are. Kept bugging me about coming back after my wreck.

She doesn't take responsibility for anything. Any time something happens, even if nobody is blaming her, she's the first to blame someone else. And if someone does call her out on something she did, she'll make excuses.

Even my dang supervisor annoys me.

She gets upset when we don't communicate with her, but she doesn't communicate with us.

Says she's going to do things, then doesn't do them. Example: When we were short handed in the afternoons and had to do overtime, she said she'd cover one day a week and never did. She asked me to cover her day ONCE, said she'd bring me Starbucks or something in return, and I ended up doing her day every week...and never got the coffee.

Tells us things our main boss said that she never actually said.

Blames me for things that happen (or don't get done) when I'm not there.

Y'all, my co-worker really needs to pull her head out of her ass and realize that not everyone's situation is like hers.

Back in the fall, when we were temporarily rotating some overtime coverage, my boss came up with a plan to make the days we worked later seem less long. The choices were to either have whoever was staying late come in later, or have them take a break for an hour or so in the middle of the day. Now, she devised this plan after I had come to her feeling a little frustrated and burnt out. This co-worker immediately pushed back saying how we've tried that before and it didn't work, and that she wasn't gonna do it because us working those long days was fine.

Ok, so I've made other posts before about people messing with my little "survival kit" at work (i.e. a co-worker breaking the container and not telling me, and another co-worker straight up stealing my Motrin out of it). Today, I went into the closet for something and happen to notice that part of my little box was open. I had made sure it was closed last time I used it specifically so I would know if someone had gotten into it. When I looked in the open part, I noticed that the pack of gum that had been in there was missing (I may have taken it out and forgotten, but I'm pretty sure it was there), and the little travel size bottle of mouthwash had the seal broken (I haven't used it) and some was definitely gone.

1. My first year, we had an out of town training day and I was the only one from my specific team that went.

2. Last year, I was doing the daily paperwork for both classrooms until our 2nd assistant got hired. If I wasn't there, it didn't get done, and I got chewed out for it.

3. This year, the current assistant in the other room literally said to me (about that same daily paperwork), "I miss when you just did it for me."

4. Last year, all staff were required to be at graduation. From my team, I was the only one that showed up. And yes, my boss did call out the ones that didn't come.

5. A few weeks ago, we had a staff pumpkin decorating contest. We ALL had to do it. At first, one co-worker told me, "You just do one for all of us."

1. A couple years ago, a co-worker broke something of mine and didn't have the decency to tell me, just left it there for me to find.

2. Last year, a co-worker straight up told me she was going to take some of my Tylenol since she had a headache and knew where I kept it. Knowing I only had one dose left, I told her I was out. She went through my stuff and found it anyway.

3. We had a pumpkin decorating contest last week. I was taking a planned vacation day the day the pumpkins were due, so I brought it in a day early. I left it where my "team" would see it, and texted my boss where it was. My boss forgot (she had a million things on her plate, so I wasn't upset about that at all), but honestly any of my team could've taken it where it needed to go when I was absent, but they didn't. When I went to get it the day of the event, I found it right where I left it, which was in reach of children, and the glasses I had stuck on with gorilla glue had been broken off. And nobody had bothered to tell me or attempt to fix it.

4. On the day I was out, my "team" made a decision that involved us having to stay late every day this week and didn't bother to tell me.

5. My one co-worker (who took a shit ton of time off last year) complained to my sub about me being out (even though I planned it 2 months in advance.

6. My "supervisor" never communicates when she's going to be out, just disappears for a few days, and doesn't reply when we check on her. But gets upset if we don't communicate.

7. At the beginning of the year, we had to rotate some overtime and only 2 of the 5 of us were willing to do it.

8. My one co-worker has bitched about every little change or suggestion our boss has made. And bitched when she asked for some time off too late (we have to give advance notice and she didn't ask in the required time frame) and our boss denied it.

9. Whenever I get pulled to help somewhere else, my co-worker whines and bitches about it.

10. The little daily stuff we're all supposed to be responsible for doesn't get done if I'm not there. And sometimes I get blamed for it not being done, even if I wasn't there.

11. My co-worker told someone during a conference about something she had to correct me on. It wasn't anything major, or really something she had actually needed to correct, but I did not appreciate her making me look bad.

12. We had a whole ass meeting about a lot of this kind of shit last year, and it didn't really help much. Like, one co-worker called another co-worker out for being kinda snippy and rude when she talks to us, and our supervisors response was "well, we're both moms, and it's hard to switch out of mom mode sometimes, so we talk like we're talking to our kids." And when I called my co-worker out for stealing my Tylenol her response was, "well you said you didn't have any so I had to go find some."

Me: *has the kids draw pictures and writes a nice note for said volunteer, leaves them on the counter for my boss to take*

Boss: *never takes them*

Co-worker: *throws them out*

Boss: *a month later* Hey, we really need to make something for our volunteer. Her organization wants something for their volunteer appreciation event.

Me: I had all those pictures for her a while back, but they got thrown out.

Co-worker: Well you just left them there forever *starts a new project, takes 2 days off, doesn't tell me how to finish the project so I can do it.*