Mana 'Olana

“Wanting me” doesn’t flatter me. Value me. Understand me. Appreciate me.

I needed this

Date a boy that will hold you during a mental breakdown and respect your boundaries.

friendly advice to not revolve your life around one person, one feeling, one place, one memory, one problem. the complexity of life and the diversity of the world is beautiful and you have the right to explore it. do not settle for less. you deserve better.

Biggest lesson I’ve learned this year is that you can’t force someone to properly communicate with you & work things out. You can’t force someone to see your love is worth holding onto, eventually they will come to the realization themselves. If they want to run, let them run.

sometimes u need a little alone time to re-build urself and remember who the fuck you are and that’s okay

life works out. i cannot stress this enough. life always works out. it always turns out in your favor even if it doesn’t go according to the original plan. you may be utterly confused and lost right now, it may feel like everything is falling apart and there is nothing you can do to salvage any of it. but believe me when i say that this is just a transition period. things are constantly changing and evolving around you even if you can’t actively see that. life is changing you to prepare you for what is to come. you are growing and as you grow you are being built into the person that you are going to be. because see, life always has this funny way of working out. 

Being grateful or appreciative for something does not mean you are obligated to be content/satisfied about it. You can be grateful but not content or satisfied. As you’re allowed to want more out of situations/relationships.

SEX IS NOT THE ONLY TIME YOU SHOULD FEEL LOVED, A REMINDER

men will PURPOSELY ask you things in a condescending tone and then act surprised when you get an attitude like “i wasn’t trying to start an argument” yes you were travis shut the fuck up

“Do you want to talk about it or be distracted from it” is honestly the best thing you can say to me when I say im sad/in pain etc.

this is really good advice to say to anyone who is upset

Alsooo may I add: “do you want advice or do you just want to vent?” Is also good to add because often unsoliticited advice can further hurt someone who really just wanted a listening ear.

If only others could actually understand this…