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How to Make Him Fall in Love with You Faster

Do you ever get a gut feeling about someone the instant you meet them?

When that happens, you know it’s not because of what they said or did. It’s some kind of signal you read in their facial expression, vocal tone, or body language.

Surprisingly, researchers have found that we are quite accurate with these instantaneous assessments about other people.

The simple fact is, you know things about a person the second you meet them. And you react to these unspoken signals automatically.

If you’re good at reading people, you may not find it surprising to learn that men and women notice different kinds of signals when interacting with a potential mate.

To skip ahead to the video that explains the unusual pattern of signals men look for in a romantic relationship, just follow this link.

It explains the hidden signal that either repels a man or makes him feel irresistibly attracted to you.

Otherwise, keep reading to learn about a particular signal you’re broadcasting to men all the time (whether you know it or not).

It’s probably not what you would expect.

You see, there’s a specific kind of body language men simply can’t ignore.

It’s a signal that can spark romantic feelings. Or it can repel him, depending on what he’s reading from your nonverbal cues.

Would you like to know what it is?

Giving a bouquet of beautiful roses makes a clear statement: the receiver of the flowers is dear to the giver in some meaningful way. Different than giving just a bouquet of flowers, roses imply 'Hey, I really mean this!" The giver has made the effort to bestow what some see as the most beautiful and most splendid of flowers, one that for thousands of years has been the symbol of romance and a soother of the heart.

Roses have been bred in a variety of colors, each with its particular meaning. Now, there are no hard and fast rules – few recipients will fault one for sending a beautiful bouquet of the 'wrong' color! But knowing the meaning a certain hue can imply, and giving the appropriate roses, will make the gift all the more wonderful. Discovering the best way to express your love, affection, friendship, thankfulness, joy, or any other of a great multitude of gestures will make the receiver and the giver more fulfilled with act of giving. Let that someone special in your life know exactly how you feel about them, be they wife or husband, friend or lover, mom or dad, grandma or grandpa or your favorite hero of the day - there are no limitations when sending roses. So let's have a look at the wonderful array of colors and their meanings…

Lover's Red

Red roses show love, passion and respect. True red roses say "I love you" more than any other flower; deep red roses imply unconscious beauty, and that true love may be stronger than thorns. It happens that the perfect red rose is more difficult to grow than any other color – a reflection, perhaps, of the perfect love. Other particular colors of red have particular meanings as well: Amaranth red, long standing desire. Cardinal red, sublime desire. Carmine, deceitful desire. Fiery red, flames of passion.

Sweet Pink

Pink roses communicate happiness, appreciation, admiration, and friendship with grace and elegance. There is a sweetness about the gesture, like the way good friends appreciate one another, or that special feeling of a grandmother's care. Light pink is the more about the sharing of joy, whereas dark pink is more thankful.

Soft Lavender

Lavender roses, those with a soft purple hue, symbolize love at first sight and enchantment – perhaps with a need for discretion.

Pure White

White roses signify purity in many forms. Loyalty, purity, platonic love and spiritual love – a love of the soul. Bridal white means happy love. White roses can also signify secrecy reverence humility, innocence, or charm. Note that white roses can symbolize death in Asian cultures.

Friendly Yellow

Yellow roses in Victorian times meant jealousy, though today yellow shows "I care". The color is that of familiar love and domestic happiness – that of friendship, joy, gladness or freedom. The yellow rose is also sometimes given in sympathy.

Happy Coral and Orange

Coral roses, of a beautiful orange-pink color, imply a bright desire. Not quite as 'lusty' as the deep red, but more of like "We can (or do) spend happy times together".

The Crone's Black

Do black roses really exist? Well, there are very deep colors of red, and roses can be dyed. And their meaning depends on whom you ask: some say they are symbol of death, and can be given as an ominous symbol. Others say they represent the death of old habits or patterns, and symbolize rebirth…it seems one should know the receiver when giving this color!

Fantasy Blue

Similar black, no true blue roses are grown. They are a fantasy color, created through the dying of the flowers themselves, or the adding of a dye to the bark at the shrub's roots. And like the surreal color they are, blue represents wonder and dreamy possibilities.

Mixing rose colors is always a wonderful option – mixing the hues allows one to express feelings in a very personal way. A few "standard" mixes are: White and red to signify unity; red and yellow roses together say "Congratulations!"; yellow and orange in combination imply passionate thoughts.

Other Messages From Roses: A single rose denotes "I still love you", and a bouquet of roses in full bloom expresses the same sentiment in grand fasion; two roses of any color taped or wired together signify a commitment or forthcoming marriage; giving rose buds shows appreciation for youth and beauty.

For years businesses worked hard to beef up their security systems in order to protect employees and information. Today a shift in leadership among various types of businesses has resulted in the issue of trust management coming to the forefront. While some people think this is an absolutely crazy idea, it really seems to be working quite well in many types of industries.

There are plenty of elements that encompass the concepts of trust managemen. It doesn’t give employees or consumers free reign. Instead it offers a set of principles and policies that are in place to provide a framework structure. In most instances the trust management aspect pertains more to the ideas of decisions being made based on the best possible information that is offered.

The more information a person has about a specific principle the more likely they will feel comfortable trusting in it. Therefore it is important for these issues to be completed defined and outlined by the owner of the business. Many of them have common features including protecting the data for the business that could help their competitors.

In many instances the decision to believe this information depends on the amount of credibility that the business has. Those that have been in place for some period of time are generally more credible because the assumption is that they would have gone out of business if they weren’t providing an excellent service.

The policies that are in place relating to trust management still result in some individuals being limited from accessing particular information. For example some sites only have one person with the authority to access the screens for completing refunds when the consumers request them. The policies that are set for trust management really depend on the structure of the business, what your role is in the business, and what skills you have to perform the various tasks.

One of the main issues when it comes to online businesses is the security of documents that pertain to the business. Those that are offered access to such documentation are under the influence of trust management not to pass on that information to those that are outside of the business.

With trust management the business owner isn’t investing as much money in security issues. Yet they aren’t finding any more of their information being compromised than before. In fact studies show that in many instances it has dropped. This is because employees are happy about the level of trust that has been placed with them. They don’t want to jeopardize it. This is very similar to the importance of the trust you have in your personal relationships.

Does it seem that finding the man or woman of your dreams is getting more difficult as the years go by? Perhaps it’s because, as you get older, you are less open to alternative ideas and are limiting your options for meeting new people. But the truth is that finding a mate does not have to be so hard.

One of the most challenging parts of LDS dating is that the religious orientation of the people you meet on a daily basis is not stuck on their foreheads. And if you live outside Utah then chances are the majority of people you meet with not be in your LDS dating catchment area. Although it may feel like your options are limited, there are steps you can take to meet more LDS singles.

You could go to ward activities or otherwise socialize with LDS Singles. Not only will it be more comfortable and you’ll have more fun that way, but also the obvious LDS question mark will be removed. It is easier to approach someone when you already know you are at least in the right general neighborhood. On the same note, if you want to find someone that meets your other preferences – for example, if you are Hispanic, African American, Indian – then you may want to focus your activities on ethnic LDS groups.

Another way to meet LDS singles is by utilizing a LDS dating service. Although dating services were once only for mainstream couples, now there are dating services for every type of relationship, orientation, and ethnicity. This is a great way to meet people that are within certain criteria you set forth. That may sound bad, but everyone has guidelines they are looking to fill; a LDS dating service allows you to ask questions up front and filter out people that are not what you are looking for. This saves time which means you can spend more time dating and less time looking for a suitable date.

Depending on your location, there may really be a shortage of potential mates! If this is the case, you may want to try an online LDS dating service to meet people in other areas. You can also make a point to join LDS organizations in your area to meet singles that share your interests.

Online dating is getting very popular and if you would like to join this world, there are a few things that you should keep in mind. As with the other aspects of life, you will have more success if you follow the rules of the game and treat other people with respect. Some people may not realize these rules but in the end it will mean the difference between you getting the date and continuing to be single.

If you find an attractive picture online, it is ok to tell the person that you think they are nice looking. However looks are not everything. If that is all that you have to say online, then it is going to be better not to say anything at all. Read the person’s profile so that you can say something more than just a comment about their looks.

You can read the profit in all situations. Always look at a person’s “My perfect date” section to see what he or she is going to be interested in. most people are looking for others within a certain age range and distance from home. They might also have preferences about children, smoking, religion, looks, race, and sexual preferences. If you are 33 and someone online is looking for a date between 20 and 28, he or she is not looking for you so you need to pass them by.

Do not send an initial email if you did not read the profile. Ask general questions like “How are you?” and “ What can you tell me about yourself?” can be annoying. Be more specific and ask the other person questions that can be answered in an email back to you and your questions will show her your personal interests.

If you want to get your sex life out of hibernation then you will love these quick and easy tips to revitalise your love life.

Has your sex life been a bit neglected lately? Its not like you don't care but well, it's just finding the time and energy. It seems impossible some days because there's work and cleaning and working out and grocery shopping and cooking dinner, laundry, kids, family commitments, friends, ironing! When you do get horizontal you pass out within minutes. Or you're not in the mood. Or you just can't be bothered. Soon enough a month has passed and you can't remember the last time you had sex. And when was the last time you kissed your partner and I mean really kissed them, not just a polite peck?

Or maybe you've just fallen into a rut. You have sex in the same place at roughly the same time each week and do the same things. Routine is good for things like brushing your teeth but it shouldn't come into your sex life when variety and excitement are crucial elements in making it fulfilling.

If this sounds like you and you want to kickstart your sex life back into well, life, then read on.

1. Be spontaneous

The element of surprise can be very seductive. Take a shower together, surprise your partner with a long passionate kiss when they are expecting to just graze lips, buy some new lingerie and wear it.

2. Get healthy

Eating well and regular exercise put you in better touch with your body and that inner healthy glow not only makes you look more attractive but gives you heaps of energy and makes you feel more vibrant and alive.

3. Be affectionate

If you haven't had sex for awhile then it may be better to build up slowly to get back into the groove. Instead of trying to go from a standing start to racing speed, ease your way back into the physical by touching when you can and by being considerate with each other. Touch when you talk. Stop to kiss when you walk past each other in the hallway. Trail your finger along their shoulder as they sit reading a magazine. Snuggle on the couch in front of your favorite movie.

4. Be sensual

Give your partner a peppermint foot bath when they get home from a busy day. Massage their hands, scalp, back - wherever takes your fancy (if you don't know how to massage, don't think about it, just do what feels good). Or try a lighter touch by using a feather or silk scarve to trail along the length of your partner.

5. Be encouraging when your partner does something you like

Even if you've been together a long time your partner doesn't always know what you like and even if they do it doesn't hurt to tell them once in awhile. Say what you like and why you like it, if they have more information you never know what they may come up with to please you.

6. Read your partner an erotic bedtime story

The mind is crucial in any attempt to resuscitate your sex life. It needs to be turned on first and the body will follow. There is some great erotic fiction around or you could try Nancy Friday for stories about other people's sexual fantasies.

7. Have fun

When was the last time you laughed together? Put on your favourite track and dance. Or buy the music that was popular when you first got together and play that for a trip down memory lane over dinner. Take a midnight dip.

8. Write a sexy letter

If you can't tell your partner what you really want them to do to you, then writing it down is a great alternative. It lets you be as specific as you like without feeling like your face is going to turn tomato red and gives your partner time to process what you've said and get into the mood (if you need help putting your letter together try visiting www.loveyouletters.com <http://www.loveyouletters.com> for easy-to-us love templates).

9. Experiment

Learn a new technique together. Try a romantic weekend away. Or you could try a sex toy from one of the many on offer. If you always have sex lying down then try standing or sitting. If you're always on top then try switching things around.

10. Focus on the now

When you do get down to it, it is crucial that you focus on exactly what it is you are doing. To do this you must stop the chatter within your own head. Don't worry that you forgot to pick up the drycleaning, or how you need to call your mother about her birthday, or the fact that you're out of cereal. Leave all that stuff to later. Much later. Chances are it won't seem nearly so important once you're done.

Almost every love story begins like a fairy tale. Relationship beginnings are always incredible and they can often experience a renaissance following wedding, honeymoon, or even a special anniversary. Couples often find that the love and romance becomes more of a challenge to keep alive when their lives evolve with jobs, children, and other life commitments. Sometimes love and romance can get lost in the shuffle of life. But the passion can be rekindled and kept alive by finding your inner hopeless romantic.

When it comes to igniting the passion, the best place to begin is at the beginning. Try to recall the things that you did for your companion at the beginning of your relationship. But, if you were never very romantic, don’t worry; it’s not too late. It’s not hard to find the romantic inside you and once you find it the ideas will come and the love will flow.

Often in new relationships, it’s the ‘little’ things that truly demonstrate love and romance. Try to remember romantic days like Valentine’s Day, anniversaries and even the date you met or your first date together. Try to send a small, meaningful gift or some flowers to celebrate your feelings for your companion. And this isn’t just advice for men! Women should do the same things for their men! Believe it or not, men love flowers and candy, too!

Writing your partner a long love letter describing how you feel for him or her is one of the most touching ways to generate romance. If writing isn’t your forte, make a list stating what you love the most about your partner. Letters and lists can name things they do to make you laugh, why you appreciate them, how they make you feel when you are with them, and how beautiful or handsome they are.

Call your partner during the day just to chat. If he or she isn’t doesn’t answer the phone, leave caring messages on their voice mail. You can even try talking dirty when you know that it is safe!

Gifts are often a surefire way to show someone that you love them. While classics like flowers, candy and fragrances almost always do the trick, other types of gifts can be just as effective. Treat your companion to a romantic dinner and movie. Bring home a bottle of champagne just because. Leave romantic and/or funny cards under the bed pillows or around the house for them to find.

Just LOVE me, like a fat kid loves cake!

Have you ever felt like that? When I first heard that, it hit me like a ton of bricks. To be in LOVE like that or to be loved like that would just rule forever. Is that not what we are all yearning for? Do we not seek out LOVE from the second we breathe as an infant? We search our parents eyes for that look of LOVE. We smile because we know it makes them smile with the LOVE that they feel for us.

To LOVE or not to LOVE? This is the question we all ponder through out life.

Why do we yearn to be someones everything? We want nothing more than to feel like the LOVE of one`s life. We spend our lives looking for that special person that will make our world seem like a dream. We want to feel safe and secure in our choice of partners. But how do we really know that this one is "the one" we will LOVE unconditionally forever? How do we know that this choice of LOVE will not break our heart? How do we know that this LOVE will LOVE us when the chips are down and we are not that perfect person that they fell in LOVE with?

Well I hate to sound like a wet blanket here on a cold night, but nothing is guaranteed. Life promises us nothing. We make our lives what they are, right at this moment. In matters of the heart we gamble, and as I have said before, to give LOVE is to risk losing LOVE. That is just another one of those bleary facts. Like rain storms and snowfalls, we have no control over anything that nature has given to us. We can only do our best with what we have. I have spoken before about gifts. Well, LOVE is a gift when it is given and when it is received. It does not happen because we say we want it to, or when we like a person and say "LOVE me". HA. I am sure that almost everyone out there will agree to that. I am also certain that the word "Stalker" comes from that notion.

LOVE can be a very scary risk. "Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it! It makes you so vulnerable. It opens you up, totally exposing your heart only to let someone get inside you and twist things up so tight, you can barely breathe. You build up defenses, you build an entire suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then that person, not seeming any different from any other person, wanders into your lonely life. You give them your heart. They didn't ask for it. They did something one day, like kiss you or smile your way, and then your life isn't your own any more. LOVE takes your heart hostage. LOVE swarms inside you. LOVE devours your entire being and leaves you crying in the darkness. With the simple phrase, "lets just be friends", it turns into a knife, cutting its way into your heart. The pain is like no other you have ever felt nor ever want to feel again. Not just in your imagination, not just in the mind. It's like losing a part of who you are, or rather who you were. That my friends is one reason we are so careful to not make the wrong LOVE choice. I know reading this totally makes one never want to do that. But we do, over and over again. Why?

Is it such a deep needed desire that we really have no control? Is cupids arrow that strong? YES on both counts.

LOVE is one of the most powerful sensations we will ever endure in our lives.

LOVE knows no limit to its power, no end to its trust, no loss of its hope.

LOVE can overpower anything.

LOVE stays up, when all else has falls down.

LOVE is felt when one grasps another's hand.

LOVE is as much of an object as an obsession. Everybody wants it and everybody seeks it, but few ever achieve it. Those who do, will cherish it, get lost in it, and among all, will never, ever forget it.

LOVE does not waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead it creates a perfect love.

LOVE is somewhat like an hourglass, the heart fills up on one side as the brain empties the other.

LOVE is admiring ones heart: as admiration is the love of ones mind.

LOVE is with you when you least deserve it, because that's when you really need it.

These are a few thoughts that I have that tell me what LOVE is and why LOVE is.

When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us.We must understand that until we admit that while our partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we alone are the only ones that can bring that same fulfillment to ourselves. No one is responsible for our happiness.

Some people fall into a pattern of needing that NEWNESS LOVE in their relationships. These people will go from one relationship to another forever, never getting off that roller coaster of failure. They never understand that LOVE has stages. LOVE at first is so full of mystery and excitement. Then we move into becoming comfortable with one another and blending our ways to continue to strengthen our LOVE for one another. We continue to grow with each other, adding newness to each other by growing in one world, but as two people. Our years together build our road to our destiny of spending our lives and enduring tribulations as one. If you want life to always be a bed of roses, then you best grow a few gardens, because the roses will only get there if you grow them or bring them to your life. In other words sweet people of LOVE, your LOVE and passion is only what you make it. If you ignore it or get too busy to feed it, it will die or fade away. It's like any other living breathing thing. LOVE needs to be treated with respect and treated like the special gift that it is.

Another thing we must be careful of is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image, otherwise LOVE is only the reflection of ourselves we find in them. LOVE like you mean it, it is the only true way to let your LOVE for one another grow stronger and continue to be all powerful and wonderful.

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Relationships ask us to contemplate "forever" as a way of life.

It is a world without end of our own creation.

Toni Sciarra Poynter

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The purpose of life is to discover your gift.

The work of life is to develop it.

The meaning of life is to give your gift away.

This is a common theme that is discussed by those who are in love, or by their friends. Why does one feel jealous? Is the relationship weak? If the relationship is strong, should one feel jealous at all? Or it is one's genes? I mean, if I am very sure that I love a girl and I am totally committed to her, and I believe that she is equally in love with me, why should I feel jealous? Or why should she feel jealous? But jealousy is a fact of life. Let us examine more of jealousy.

Let us take a simple example. Say, your child loves one of your neighbors and she is equally attentive to him/her. Would you feel jealous of that or proud about that? Would you try to take away your child from the neighbor? Would you confront the neighbor? You may do nothing like this, if I am not wrong in my analysis. But what if your child is replaced by your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend? Your reaction may be entirely different. If yes, why? What is the difference in both the situations?

The main difference is faith. You have total faith that your child may run around and play with many people around the day. But he/she will return to you at night, or if hungry, or if injured? Am I correct? You don’t have the same faith with your lover/spouse. And that is the main cause of jealousy. Somewhere in your mind, you are always wondering about your looks, your intelligence, your relationship skills and all other factors that may break your relationship and make your spouse/lover go into another relationship.

You really have to experience this emotion to understand its strong hold on a persons mind. Not only their mind, but their entire being.

I have been asking and asking questions regarding jealousy from people that experience it and people that have to deal with it through someone close to them.

I have written an article and I will let you read part of it before I continue with my thoughts.

"Jealousy as many women knows is a very hard emotion to control , it takes your stomach and twists it into knots until you scream for release. Problem is when we scream it is usually misunderstood and frowned upon.

Jealousy has a mind of its own and it is strong enough to make us believe and see things that are not even there or that have not happened yet.

Jealousy can cloud our what is most of the time clear thinking.

Jealousy can make us worry and put our minds into a prison that we cannot escape, it locks the doors and does not let us out till it wants to.

Jealousy can keep our minds from sleep because it knows that sleep makes us strong and will help us to fight it.

Jealousy knows no rational thinking , feels as though it has no reason or rhyme, which makes it very hard to get support from people around us, and even harder to try to explain why we react as we do when we are captivated by this horrible emotion.

Jealousy does have a weakness though and that is LOVE and TRUST and women helping women to figure ways to combat this nasty thing that grows inside of us.

Jealousy can be redirected and from our site and all the help of women out there joining together we will defeat this , one step at a time.

I will not stop till I unlock and set myself free from Jealousy."

Jealousy is very much connected or may be even caused by ones low self-esteem. It depends on the elements that each person experiences. People of every size and gender can be afflicted by this emotional nightmare. It truly is a mind set.

There are several types of jealousy: mistrust caused by a breach of trust. mistrust caused by ones own infidelities, and the real beast that is born inside us without any reason we can explain.

Each one is a hardship and pulls us down into the loneliest place.

Imagine having a fear, and your mouth is glued shut so you are unable to voice your pain and terror. This is a small example of how a person feels when their jealousy takes a hold of their mind. If they talk about it, they appear accusing and confrontational. Others feel they are being attacked for something they have no control of. It truly is a no win situation for anyone involved. But to keep it glued inside only gives birth to an ugly seed of pain ,agony and real loneliness.

It feeds on our strength making us weak in our judgement of what is real and whats not. We are in a prison that separates us from a world of happiness.

Why I ask? Why are we in this prison when we did not ask to be? We broke no rules to be punished for. When we look at another person, we see only what we wish to be.

It blinds us of who we are and what we have to offer to the world. It captivates our minds to the point of no return in many cases has caused terrible results.

People think that one can just say "Go Away". We wish it was that easy. If jealousy could be defeated with a mere thought, we would be in a truly perfect world. Do you really think we enjoy this lonely place? I know that I would much rather be in a happy place anytime.

Jealousy does have one fear, that is "Love". Love conquers all and that is as real as the pain we feel inside when we are imprisoned by the fears of jealousy.

Also as funny as it sounds, to trust a person imprisoned by jealousy is as important as wanting that person to trust you. We need to know that you trust us and that you know that we are not in control of this thing that causes us to fear life.

To know you are on our side and want to help us defeat this loneliness will truly give us that extra bit of strength that we need and the will to combat our own fears.

We also need to focus on our minds and through help from our friends and others that feel our loneliness, use that strength to work against the negative thoughts that jealousy controls. We must tell ourselves that we are safe, we are loved, and we are needed. We must focus on the good around us and use our thought energy to force positive thoughts in place of negative ones. When we do defeat our negative mind, we should pat ourselves on our backs, because this is truly a conquest. Identify with the fact that you have won and the win will be greater the next time. It will happen, we just need to continue to search for ways to a higher self-esteem.

Together ladies we will conquer this loneliness. Strength is in numbers and that we have. To close my thoughts, I leave you with a quote sent to me by one of my sweetest friends and members of my website.

Stacy , you are beautiful and thank you again.

Ideally, a relationship should be built on trust, respect and honesty. Keeping important things to yourself and not sharing it with your partner might eventually ruin your relationship.

There is such a thing as being a compulsive liar. If you are in a relationship and you love your partner too much to let him or her go, then you might want to take a look at the signs and reasons behind being a compulsive liar:

This bad habit can stem from having a very low self-confidence.

There are several reasons why one would compulsively or deliberately lie.

One of which is having a low self-esteem. If you do not love yourself enough, then you can never love anyone else completely and selflessly.

Having a low self-esteem can later on lead to compulsive lying.

Take this as an example. A girl who had a humiliating childhood experience or comes from a broken family is very ashamed of her family background.

Before she finally reaches adulthood, she is at a very awkward stage where it takes very little to wound her fragile ego.

As a result, she makes up stories about his family background, and lies about herself.

Once she sees that her stories are weaving magic on other people and the stories make them like her, what is the result?

She will keep on weaving lies, and this habit she will take with her until she grows into a mature adult.

People with this complex never think that they are, nor will they ever be, as good as the people around them. In the above example, once the girl turns out into a woman and she is at a stage where she begins to have relationships, guess what will happen?

Instead of breaking the chain and finding ways to stop the habit, she will keep on lying to keep a man interested.

In the end, she will never have a stable relationship because the truth about her will come out eventually.

What if my girlfriend IS a compulsive liar?

If you are a man with a girlfriend who is a compulsive liar, there is a very high probability that you will get hurt in the process. Once you find out about the web of lies that she told, will you still find it in your heart to forgive her?

Unfortunately, having a relationship with a compulsive liar is quite harmful to other people's feelings.

Compulsive liars cannot help lying 'even to their loved ones' and if you have a girlfriend with this condition and she does not want to seek help, then you are at a crossroads.

As heart-wrenching as it is to let go of somebody you love with this kind of situation, you have no choice but to let go. Otherwise, you are just letting yourself in for more heartbreak.

Compulsive liar sign #1: I am afraid to face the truth.

A compulsive liar feels that it is but natural to lie, so she is actually afraid of facing up to facts. She is always in denial. She wants to believe the lies that she made up, so much so that she sometimes believe it to be true. In fact, she wants it to be the truth.

Usually, compulsive liars develop this habit at an early age and it is carried on to their adulthood.

Compulsive liar sign #2: My lies are better than your truth.

Compulsive liars usually experience jealousy and fear towards other people.

He or she will also feel that since they are so used to lying, they can easily see through the deceit of other people. Thus, they show an air of authority, and they think that other people will never see through their lies.

This develops into a vicious cycle that is even more destructive for the person with this complex, and will surely affect the people around him or her.

Compulsive liar sign #3: I lie for my own purposes.

This statement is actually a lie by itself because compulsive liars can lie for any reason at all, even if they would not gain anything from it.

The habit of lying has become deeply indebted in their system that they cannot escape from it.

The Cure

The cure for compulsive lying depends on the person herself. If you are in a relationship with someone who is a compulsive liar, ask yourself, is she worth saving? The answer is, of course! Any person who wants to be cured of the compulsion to lie is worth saving.

One of my clients, whose ex-girlfriend recently broke up with him, asked me the following question:

“I think I still love her, but is this love or just emotional dependency? Many times I ask myself if falling in love comes from the wounded self because (for me at least) it feels as if I can’t live without the other person. When I give love from the heart I don't expect anything back, but when I fall in love I think this is a different energy.”

Falling in love can come from two different inner states. When you fall in love from the wounded self – the ego self – you are in love with how the other person loves you. You are handing over to the other person the responsibility for your self-worth and wellbeing, and if he or she does a good job of attending to you in the way you want to be attended to, then you may say you are “in love.” However, it is not so much the person you love, but how he or she loves you. When it feels as if you can’t live without the other person, it is emotional dependency. The part of you that is “in love” is really a child or adolescent who is needy for love because you are not giving love to yourself or to others. There is an emptiness inside that you expect someone else to fill, because you are not taking responsibility for your own feelings of self-worth. You are attaching your worth to another’s love, which is why you can’t live without that person.

When you fall in love as a loving adult instead of as a wounded, needy child or adolescent, your need for the relationship is totally different. As a loving adult, you have learned how to fill yourself with love and define your own worth. Instead of needing someone to fill you and make you feel lovable and worthy, you already feel worthy and full of love. You experience this inner fullness because you have learned how to take full responsibility for your own feelings and needs, and you have learned to fill yourself with love from a Divine Source. This fullness overflows and you want to share this love with another person, another loving adult who is also filled with love. Your desire is to share love rather than to get love.

The kind of person you will pick will be totally different when a loving adult is choosing than when your wounded self is choosing. The people we pick have a similar level of woundedness and a similar level of emotional health. Obviously, the more you have done your inner work to connect with Divine Love and bring that love within to take loving care of yourself, the more you will be attracted to someone also does this.

When you pick from your wounded self, you will pick someone whom you believe wants the job of filling you up. The problem is that the other person may be attempting to fill you up in the hopes that you will also fill up him or her. Two people who each want to get love rather than share love will eventually find themselves very disappointed with each other. They will each blame the other for not loving them in the way they want to be loved. When relationships break up, it is often because one or both partners are not taking responsibility for their own feelings and self-worth and are blaming the other for their resulting unhappiness.

Cheating used to be very black and white. However these days a lot of men would like to think the internet has created a million shades of grey. It’s fairly easy to define a behavior that creates feelings of emotional or sexual betrayal.

Donna was engaged to be married in two weeks. She was sitting at her fiancés computer, looking to find addresses to send early thank you notes when it happened. Donna “accidentally opened” the email that changed everything in an instant. “Tina, thanks for sending me those pics last night. They were even sexier then the ones you sent before. I’m sure I’ll be thinking about you and those pictures tonight as I drift off to sleep with a smile on my face.. I’ll call you tomorrow after work on my drive home.”

Stunned, sickened and panicked, Donna confronted Todd over the phone while he was at work. He was home in fifteen minutes and in a marathon fight that last until midnight Todd denied having an affair. He said he’d met Tina online in a chat forum and had never even met her in person. He wasn’t even sure Tina was her real name. Todd explained the stress associated with the upcoming wedding was killing him and he was just mindlessly browsing the web when he stumbled into this chat with his new online “friend”. At first they talked about day to day stuff, even the wedding plans. But after a couple of weeks it turned flirtatious, and after a couple more, sexual. He urged Donna to read the emails so she would believe him. As painful as it was to read the sexually charged correspondence, Donna read far enough to believe they’d never met. However, although they decided not to call off the wedding, Donna moved into the spare room. Too humiliated to face it she told no one! Fifteen days later she walked down the isle, in white, all smiles. Fast forward nine months to today. Todd and Donna are in couples counseling. The outlook is shaky at best.

This leads us to the question that is facing more of today's couples than can possibly be estimated. Is an internet fling or flirting cheating?? My answer is simple, that answer is totally up to you. If you find out your mate has been heating up the internet with another woman and it bothers you, which I’m fairly sure it will, then yes, without a doubt, that’s cheating. The idea of “finding out” itself, indicates that there was hiding of the truth involved in the first place. If your man knew you wouldn’t dig it, so he hid it in the first place, then even he knew it was cheating – no matter what he says about how innocent it was. If you are one of the very small minority of women out there that would not be bothered by this behavior, who would shrug if off as “boys with a keyboard will be boys”, then you wouldn’t be asking this question in the first place.

Cheating used to be very black and white. However these days a lot of men would like to think the internet has created a million shades of grey. I beg to differ. I think cheating is still black and white. I think it’s fairly easy to define as a behavior that creates feelings of emotional or sexual betrayal. I think men know when they are cheating, almost always confirmed by their hiding the behavior in question. Now, I know, women do bad things too. However, statistically men are much more likely to engage in “internet affairs”. Not to mention many real world physical affairs start online and men who engage in questionable online behavior are vastly more likely to have a “real” affair.

This is a common situation. You know many men. Some of them are friends. Out of them one wants to be more than a friend with you. But he does not know how to tell you that? Are there any signs that will tell you that he is interested in you? Let us try to find out.

Friends always talk to each other freely. They laugh, make fun of each other and occasionally speak with each other in not a very civil way. If that man is interested in you, he will do none of this. Forget talking freely, he will find it difficult to speak to you. You will sometimes catch him looking at you intently, but as soon as you turn towards him, he will turn away. He would never make it obvious that he was watching you. If any time some body makes fun of you, you will find everybody joining the fun, but not this man. He would rather look at the fun maker with anger. If any time you knock yourself against any object, others may ignore that, but not your hero. He will surely come and ask you if he can help.

Being in love and being a friend are two different things. Friendship is devoid of romantic love. There is no place for passion in friendship. Friends share everything without any need of protection. Friends are not bothered if they show their wilder side to other friends. Rather they love that. Friends don't talk with each other in hushed tone and never feel shy of each other. Friends don't care about what they wear amongst friends. Friends are more like a group of like - minded people who enjoy each other's togetherness and behave more like siblings.

Romantic love stands at the other extreme. You will never catch a lover wearing something that can be commented upon negatively. A romantic lover does everything with a single objective - please his/her beloved. You will not find a romantic lover speaking the way friends do. Romantic lovers are not very open with each other and feel shy of each other’s presence. The flies in the stomach of a romantic lover when he/she looks at the beloved make all the difference.

Discover what sexy, exotic lingerie can do to spice up your love life and make your relationship with your partner more interesting and exciting.

It has become increasingly popular for couples to give lingerie as a gift, especially when you want to spice up your love life or turn the heat up a few notches. So, is giving lingerie an expression of love or lust? Or both? When a relationship has become more comfortable and you want to take it to a whole new level, giving not just lingerie but sexy lingerie can definitely make your relationship more interesting and exciting.

Sexy lingerie is provocative, attractive and extremely appealing to the senses, especially for men. Men get turned on very easily by anything that is visually stimulating. Lingerie if chosen and worn correctly can titillate the senses and drive your partner wild! So, sexy lingerie is a sure way to get your partner fired up and coming back for more.

There are many types of lingerie in the market today. Different types of lingerie can be worn for different occasions. I would personally favor exotic lingerie that are a little bit more unique in design, instead of the common usual stuff that you get at conventional lingerie stores. I would suggest that you try to choose something that is creatively designed and bold, so that you can make a great lasting impression on your partner. Let your intimate moments be so memorable that it will make every encounter special.

One of the most popular styles of exotic lingerie in the market today is the sexy thong. The sexy thong first hit the market in the 80’s and become mainstream in the 90s. In recent years, it has become one of the fasting growing categories in the lingerie industry.

A few years back, it was highly fashionable for women to wear loose, low cut jeans with a thong inside, together with clothes that showed the mid-rift. The thong and a little of the ladies’ upper buttocks would be purposely exposed by the drooping jeans or pants. This was an extremely sexy and fashionable way to dress just a few years ago.