I don't know who my intended audience is here, so whoever needs to hear this, I am begging you to learn to participate in conversations that are about things you aren't interested in.
Part of socializing and having friends is being a good listener even when you don't actually give a shit about the subject.
Your are hurting other people's feelings when you bluntly respond with "Anyway..." and then change the topic.
It can not always be about your preferred topic.
You are being rude. Yes, even if you are neurodivergent. You can be both autistic and rude.
The constant bit for me is too much of throwing up the shield of "you know I'm X", or "you know they're X", and it doesn't really matter what X is. We control our behavior. All relationships at every level require communication and compromise.
None of us have the luxury of just doing Our Thing Our Way and making everyone else adapt. You *can*, but I can also just... Not partake. "It's not a crime to be an asshole, but it is counterproductive."
This post has also demonstrated to me why many of the neurodivergent/ ADHD/ self diagnosed psychological claims just rub me the wrong way, as someone that's been in therapy now- intermittently medicated at different levels- for... 27 years, the aim isn't "well I'm this way and if you don't like it, that's YOUR problem" or "I'm dysfunctional in this way, isn't it funny?" And while I understand there is a struggle, - the struggle is real and we can and should make space for it - you can, in fact, get better/ improve many parts of your circumstances [socially].
That's sort of the human condition. Understand yourself, and decide if you want to be that way, or different. No one is compelled to tolerate you in personal situations. The social contract is to RESPECT EACH OTHER'S EXISTENCE and TRUST YOU CAN COMMUNICATE. Shared spaces are shared. There must be a consensus for how how all treat that space, lest the community we were seeking leaves the space for a different one. We are all part of that. I have put my foot in my mouth. I've overstepped, I've been rude, and likely will be again, but never have I said "well that's my X, no introspection or self-change need be considered", which is the attitude that grinds me.
This oddly got away from me but probably in a good way for myself.
Anyway, thanks, OP.
