Hard Mode

See this picture? This comes from a town in Canada where a 24 pack of water bottles is 104 dollars and formula milk for a baby is priced at 55 dollars a pack. What’s more, a pack of diapers is 95 dollars and one head of lettuce is 26 dollars. Inuit people are starving in a country known for it’s generosity.

If you don’t believe this is true, you can find more images like this here. This is the only grocery store these people have in their small towns, and many people are going hungry & elderly are dying faster.

You’ll send aid to foreign children that are starving, so why won’t you pay a little extra to feed the people in your own country who work hard & still can’t afford the prices for healthy food for their families?

Please have a heart and reblog this photo to raise awareness that even in our own countries people are starving, join the movement and show the government that we won’t sit by and watch people starve. 

lmao

Photo: AP / Mark Lennihan

On Thursday, Justice Devindra Rampersad, a high court judge in Trinidad and Tobago, ruled that a colonial-era law criminalizing gay sex is unconstitutional.

“The court declares that sections 13 and 16 of the [Sexual Offenses Act] are unconstitutional, illegal, null, void, invalid and of no effect to the extent that these laws criminalise any acts constituting consensual sexual conduct between adults,” Justice Rampersad wrote.

The ruling came after LGBTQ+ activist and Trinidad and Tobago citizen Jason Jones filed a lawsuit against the country’s attorney general. The lawsuit claimed that Sections 13 and 16 of the Sexual Offenses Act, which criminalize “buggery,” an outdated term for anal sex, and “serious indecency” respectively, infringed on his right to privacy and freedom of expression.

Jones expressed his excitement over the ruling on Twitter.

Okay, since it seems this question pops up a lot from cis mlm who are interested in having a sexual relationship with trans men, I decided to compile a list of tips for approaching safe, enjoyable, non-dysphoria inducing sex. Sorry about the length:

1. Ask about terminology:

This is such an important first step and why I listed it first: if you don’t know what to call a partner’s body part–ask them! Don’t assume they’re totally fine with one thing or the other. Getting it wrong can be awkward at best, incredibly dysphoria inducing at worst (and a relationship ender right off the bat). Some guys like to call a part of themselves their “clit”, while others prefer to call the same part “dick/cock” or just “junk”. The best way to phrase this question is to make it neutral, something like “what terms do you use for your body parts?” rather than something like “what do you call your vagina?” which implies that one term is already more valid/”real” than another. Of course, this is after you’ve already established that sexual stuff is going to ensue–don’t make this your first message to the guy on a hook up app.

2. Ask about boundaries:

Especially if you are dealing with a dysphoric person, but also just in general, knowing which parts are okay to touch, which parts are 100% off limits, and which parts may have certain conditions for interacting with them is a must. Again, communication is very important. Maybe your guy really likes using his front hole, but butt stuff is off-limits. You never know until you ask, and maybe you have boundaries as well you want to go over.

This goes the other way too! Don’t just automatically assume something will make your partner dysphoric–it may very well be something they actually enjoy.

3. Don’t make assumptions about our bodies or preferred positions.

I’ve already said it multiple times already, but open communication rather than making assumptions is really key. I’ve seen many cis guys who have assumed that all trans men want to strictly bottom, and even a few who thought the exact opposite. The reality is that trans men have as much variety in sex preferences as anyone else–some bottom, some top, some are verse, some don’t enjoy penetrative sex at all. And for those of you wondering how a trans man could top, or worrying that it might be less enjoyable for either party than a cis man topping–don’t knock it till you try it. There are plenty of toys, strap-ons and other sex technology wonders that you have yet to explore, not to mention that many trans men do have flesh and blood penises that they are more than happy to use. 

4. If you use toys, strap-ons, and prosthetics:

Don’t assume everything is a “toy”. For some trans men, their prosthetic is a natural part of their anatomy, and it can be upsetting and disorienting to refer to it as a toy.

If shopping for toys or prosthetics, make sure it’s something your partner actually wants (again don’t assume!) and make sure your partner actually likes what you pick. I know it can seem nice or sexy to surprise your partner with a gift, but toys and prosthetics can be extremely personal, so whoever is using the product should have a say what it’ll be like. If you still want to go for the surprise element, think about giving them a gift certificate or an I.O.U. for a sex shop instead. Then you can make it a fun outing together.

5. Don’t ask them about surgeries, hormones, or their life “before”: 

This should be a no-brainer, but unfortunately too many guys make this mistake immediately upon meeting a trans person. Maybe you’re going into a very committed, long-term relationship with the guy. Maybe just a one night grindr hook up. Doesn’t matter. If he wants to talk to you about it, he will. Otherwise it’s none of your business.

6. Don’t bring up passing.

Really, the amount of guys that think they’re being helpful when they tell us how we “look so much more manly than other trans guys!” or how we’d “pass so much better if you just did x”. It’s obnoxious and upsetting. Trans people know a hell of a lot more about the intricacies of passing than whatever you think you do, and we don’t like back-handed compliments that come from comparing us to other trans people. You’re not winning any brownie points from these comments, they just make you seem ignorant and rude.

7. We are not an encyclopedia of trans knowledge.

If we’re on a dating website or app, we’re there for the same reason as you: to meet people for sex, romance, friendship, etc. We’re not there to answer questions that you have about trans people, especially when almost all of them are easy to answer on a cursory google search. We don’t want to be asked to help write your gender studies essay, or asked how we feel about [insert trans celebrity]. Really, just don’t do this. It’s an immediate block for most people.

8. Don’t tell us we’re brave.

Kinda on the same note as the last one, don’t tell us “we’re so brave” for existing or that you’re “proud” or even about the trans sibling cousin roommate friend neighbor teacher etc that you have. We don’t need cringe-y condescension when we’re trying to hook up. And c’mon, you should know this already from when straight people tell you this.

9. We’re not your experiment.

Don’t have sex with us just because you want to “experiment” with having sex with a trans person, and especially not because you see us as some kind of stepping stone to having sex with “real” men.

10. Don’t assume we all think the same.

Again, should be obvious, but it unfortunately isn’t. Just because you dated a trans man in the past that was comfortable with x, doesn’t mean your new partner feels the same way. We aren’t a hivemind. Trans people are individuals with varied experiences, pasts, preferences, and levels of dysphoria. Follow all the above steps again every time you engage with a new partner.

11. You won’t always know you’re having sex with a trans person. And that’s okay.

Yes, you read that right. This is something that actually happens. Some trans men are “stealth”, meaning that they live their lives with little to zero people aware that they are trans. This doesn’t mean they’re trying to “trick” you, and this doesn’t make them a bad person. Many trans people do this for a variety of reasons, such as safety and their own comfort–some guys just think of being trans as part of their medical history, and not worth mentioning. Regardless of reasons, it is an incredibly personal decision. Don’t be offended if a trans man chooses not to come out to you. He has his reasons, and you should respect that.

12. Have fun with it.

Seriously, this may seem like a terribly long list of responsibilities, but almost all of these are things you should be doing with any partner. And once you’ve got them down, they become surprisingly more natural than you’d think. Remember that you’re doing this because you want to share an enjoyable experience with another person. And yeah, you might occasionally slip up, but we know that, and it’s usually pretty obvious when you’re trying. So relax and have fun.

If any other trans mlm have something to add, feel free to contribute.

Portraying yourself as something that you’re not when you don’t think someone would have sex with otherwise is a form of rape. If my partner has a twin and they trick me into sex, it’s rape. If I mistake somebody for a movie star and they go along with it and we have sex under those pretenses, it is rape. Not jump out of the bushes rape, but a kind of rape where I thought I was opening my body up to somebody and they deliberately lied to me in order for me to not deny them my body. Rape and violence as words have become watered down so I won’t be upset if somebody thinks we need a different word for it. But it is ducking wrong and anybody who argues that it’s okay is not welcome near me.

There is no shame in being a rapist in the incel community

The poor girl will never know who raped her

“Still can’t decide whether it was good what happened but at least I’m not a virgin anymore”

Now you’re a rapist

Meanwhile, between 1970 and today there have been a grand total of 13 terrorist attacks by Muslim extremists within the US and 8 in Canada. 

So, even if you only count the terrorist attacks in which damage was done. You’re looking at 587 successful terrorist attacks from pro-lifers (not included death and anthrax threats) and 21 terrorist attacks from extreme Muslim fundamentalists. 

That is why supposedly is there. 

1 vs. 5 from the Lost Girls OVA - Annie’s “Wall Sina, Goodbye” Part 2 (Captured by @fuku-shuu)

When I was 10, a man told me he ought to stick his penis in my yawning mouth.

When I was 12, the vice principal said it was my fault the boys groped my boobs in the hall and perhaps I should wear looser clothing.

When I was 14, my mother told me that I should be more concerned about what guys liked when it came to the clothes I wear.

When I was 16, a man nearly twice my age coerced me into giving him oral sex while his friend was raping mine.

When I was 18, I was followed by a group cat- calling guys across campus after a night class. A punishment for daring to walk alone.

When I was 20, I had too much to drink and found myself losing my virginity against a bathroom sink. It took me years to realize that it was rape.

When I was 22, I had the straps of a dress ripped off for daring to tell a guy at a bar that I wouldn’t go home with him.

When I was 24, my grandmother told me that I should just marry the next guy and that I would learn to love him no matter how he treated me.

When I was 26, I thought all that mattered was how I could please a man and felt my soul slowly slip from me with every new bed I was in.