personally i do not prefer when stories engaging with complicated topics attempt to make themselves good educational resources on said complicated topics

and i understand that sometimes it's a very thin line between giving a realistic depiction of a serious topic and ending up in after-school special mode, but i also notice that no one is doing this when a character gets the flu (which kills many people every year) and PERSONALLY i don't love the patterns i'm vaguely sensing about which experiences can be depicted normally and which experiences must always be a learning opportunity

the princess did not have a good time from ages 4-24

Constantly accusing trans women of grooming is particularly heinous because you can use any genuine attempt to help and support others as 'evidence'

Sharing resources is grooming. Supporting each other is grooming. Warning others of transmisogynists is grooming. Making friends is grooming. Wanting a better future is grooming. Openly existing as a trans woman is grooming

"trying to draw other people close to you in any way is nefarious and suspicious, because you are nefarious and suspicious"

convincing someone to stop obsessing over and harassing you is grooming, we all remember that one right? where they started preordering being groomed into not harassing trans women?

back on my old trans-mom blog, I was accused of grooming on a near daily basis simply for my efforts of telling 16 year old trans kids to not kill themselves. I was accused of grooming for helping adults older than me step by step how to get hrt through their local doctors offices or planned parenthood. I was accused of grooming for helping an adult trans woman escape an abusive relationship. I was called a pedophile for being friends with someone who was also in her 20s.

Being a trans woman means you arent allowed access to womanhood or the supposed good/positive masculinity often claimed by trans masc folks. This idealized and positive masculinity is one that is supposedly above all negative traits of masculinity and the patriarchy in society that influences it. Trans fems are conversely allowed only access to the negative aspects of masculinity as inherited from patriarchy. We are referred to as being male socialized whenever we do something negative. We are overshadowed in discussions about womanhood and our claims to it are seen as dubious at worst and partial at best. Trans fems are allowed neither womanhood or the idealized manhood that trans mascs are. Instead we are seen as men in disguise waiting to enact our underlying patriarchal socialization. While trans mascs are seen as forging a new masculinity/manhood. One that is both divorced from the patriarchal expressions of masculinity in our society and one that is inherently linked to an experience of "womanhood" and its associated oppressions.