waffleducttapedtoadoor said: i really need to learn how to shut people down but, like, in a nice-ish way? like people i dont feel the need to be outwardly rude to but who i also want to leave me the fuck alone
Yeah that’s exactly it! He wasn’t doing anything wrong, but the conversation was totally unnecessary and I really needed to get back to work. I’d like to develop the skills to shut someone down but in a way that won’t make them feel bad. My boss’s wife is actually really good at this, but when I try to emulate her, it just comes across weird. Maybe because I’m bad at hiding that I’m uncomfortable?
murielsweating said: It’s so hard! I try to look through/past them & give bored “mmm” noises as feedback, making it clear that I don’t care about what they’re saying, but that only works part of the time. People just want to talk even if you make it clear that you don’t.
I kept saying “okay, okay, thank you, I will pass this on,” but I think he was just looking for someone to talk to. He was telling me about how he had a lump removed from his hand at the VA, so my guess is he tells everyone this kind of stuff. But still! There’s a time and a place. And they’re not while I’m working!
thejunesky said: “Oh it’s easy- just be a towering 6'4” male, super simple"
One of his suggestions was to yell, “SIR!” and then say I have other stuff to do. Um, yeah, that’s not going to go over so well for a woman. And why would I yell at an old man? I told him I don’t want to go to whatever hell is out there for people who are mean to veterans.
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