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Genuinely have to roll my eye every single time a girl says "but how do i ask for money without sounding like a gold digger"

like the worst thing you can be perceived as as a woman is being a "gold digger"

meanwhile a man can easily be a "threat" a potential k*ller or r*apist

when you go on a date with a man you immediately increase your risk for violence

do you think men send their homeboys their locations before going on a date with a girl in case she's a nutjob? NO

women need to understand that if you chose to date men under patriarchy you are choosing to be pursued by your number 1 predator in nature

dating is a game, and the man you're playing against doesn't have your best interest in mind, whether you like that or not

knowing this it should come as no surprise why you need to strategize and lie while you date

nothing irks me more than women who overshare, and over-communicate

stop saying

"i'm celibate"

"i'm abstinent"

"just so you know I have a 3 month no intimacy rule"

"just so you know I only date providers"

stop foolishly thinking that you're protecting yourself by being "upfront"

all you're doing is just giving men an inside view of every thought in your mind, giving them an advantage over you and making yourself an easier target to manipulate

many women live life from this innocent, sheltered, and childish point of view

thinking life is an episode of the care bears

and that if you just tell the truth, are upfront about what you want and have the best intentions that everything will work out perfectly

you telling the truth will not magically be rewarded by men behaving well !!!

when you're playing poker or any card game do you go ahead and show your cards to everyone before each round because you want to make sure everyone knows what your options are and what you're capable of doing?

no you don't?

when you go to your job do you tell your manager, i'm just here for the paycheck and i don't really care about anything else?

no you don't, you play the game, put on a smile, say "okay sir i'll get to doing that", you listen to your coworkers talk about their meaningless lives and the useless achievements of their kids

you play the game because you recognize that there is a game to be played

but somehow you think dating is the place to lay it all out, be your "authentic self" and spill your heart

blabbing about traumas and boundaries and deal breakers as if men care

men only listen to use what you say against you

if men have no issue leading you on with promises of marital bliss, commitment & lavish life just to get you in the bedroom and dispose of you once they've fulfilled their lust

a woman can virtually fall in love with anyone to fill an emotional void, in the same way a man can sleep with anyone to fill a se*ual craving

if you truly understand what i'm about to explain you will become a free woman, and decades of social conditioning and romance brainwashing will lift from your mind

a woman's love is. NOT. special

and make no mistake that yes, a woman's love can transform a man's life, nourish him, lift him to new heights, and make his health, finances and confidence flourish

but WHO a woman falls in love with is never special

women have the ability to fall in love with pretty much anyone

think of it this way,

there are men behind bars for m*rder, r*pe and they still have wives and girlfriends writing to them every month and waiting for them to be released

i've seen women fall in love with all types of men, homeless men, bums, drunks, violent men, men with gross hygiene, misogynists, men who are literally gay and the list goes on

if a woman is desperate enough she will project love onto anyone

in the face of desperation nothing is too unappealing, disgusting or repulsive,

a starved man will gnaw on his fellow man's own flesh just to sustain himself

love (and beneath it the evolutionary instinct to procreate), is much like lust in the sense it can momentarily blind you and have you choosing whoever to fulfill it

in the same way a woman's body prepares itself to host a child and get pregnant every month, regardless if the "seed" is coming from a one night stand, abusive person, felon etc

a woman craving love and validation can seek to fulfill that need through anyone

have you ever broken up with an ex and looked back to think, he wasn't all that, was I blind?

the face card that you thought was lethal? now that you're broken up and the fog has cleared up you realize he was average looking at best

the jokes that used to make you laugh? you now realize they weren't even that funny

women can pretty much grow to love anyone, with the right amount of desperation, proximity and delusion, anyone can become THE one

love and the very chemicals it releases in the brain is capable of completely shapeshifting our perception of a person just to fulfill our momentary need for "connection" and love

reddit is full of women complaining that their husbands aren't romantic, doesn't buy them flowers, mocks their hobbies, makes them pay 50/50, but these same women will proceed to say their husband is a good guy deep down and stay with him

I wonder why's that?

it's almost as if love truly is meaningless and doesn't reflect some noble selection but just a need to be validated

understand that love is a force/energy that needs to be channeled into something, think of it this way

imagine a painter, who has so much creative energy, who needs to channel it towards creating art, he has paint and brushes but no canvas, he'll pretty much use anything to channel that energy that's making him restless, he'll paint on the wall, the floor, or even his body to get his "vison" out

in the same way, a woman in need of emotional validation will project that onto any willing (and sometimes unwilling) participant, think of huda from love island "falling" for jeremiah while simultaneously complaining that he does nothing romantic for her, so what did you exactly fall in love with? almost as if you've just decided he was the one who will receive your love and didn't care if you were getting anything back

some men use women like human fleshl*ghts just to get the arousal out of their system and in that same way some women will use men as emotional fleshl*ghts to fulfill their need to be loved and validated regardless if the actual relationship is advantageous or not

whenever I hear women say "but I loOove him" I just have to laugh

i've personally seen women in my life fall for the opposite of their type, short or tall, fat or muscular, rich or poor, women aren't nearly picky as they pretend to be and we have the ability to love "anything"

loving a man is meaningless, if you were to be confined with a man for 1 month with no other human interaction you'll probably fall in love, it means nothing, the true measurement of love should be what you're getting out of it, that's why I always say, you can grow in love but FIRST secure an advantageous partnership

is this person making your life easier?

is he alleviating burdens?

is he buying back your time so you can free yourself up to more fulfilling endeavours?

is your health, confidence and self worth flourishing in his presence?

are your finances lookin better now that he's in your life?

men lead lives of ease,

this is an indisputable fact

physical, psychological and financial ease

they don't bleed every month, pms, give birth, get menopause, their hormone cycle is 24 hours allowing them to adapt to the capitalistic 9 to 5

they don't navigate life as prey, they don't experience psychological stress, they don't send their location to their homie when they go on a date in case the girl is a murderer or r*apist, they don't have to fear for their lives walking late at night

they also earn more money and get jobs more easily, even jobs they're not qualified for, they get promoted faster too

they lose weight easier because of their biology and the fact weight loss studies were based on male trials mostly, same for medical help, most surgeries, and studies about illnesses were done with men in mind (think of the fact we have more studies about vi*agra than we do about pcos and endometriosis)

you get it at this point,

men live lives that are easy because the world was mostly built by and for them and they are our apex predator and have no predator of their own (except other men)

this is why men seek difficulty

this is why they have no problem throwing their lives away at war, this is why they abandon their families for months on end to pursue life-risking hobbies,

climbing mountains, climbing rocks with no equipment, racing motorcycles, cave diving, hitchhiking

men seek risk and difficulty because that's what their lives fundamentally lack

they live a cushion-y life and don't get challenged from age 0 to old age

they get spared from even the most mundane burdens, like chores, taking the trash out, cooking a meal, cleaning up after themselves,

usually it's the mom or sister will do this

this is why they also seek difficulty in dating

they go for the girl who wants the luxurious lifestyle, the girl who's hard to get, the girl who frustrates them, challenges them, makes their nervous system go haywire

the low hanging fruit, the pick me insecure chicks with low standards, those are just a quick ego boost, to be disposed of and never to be kept around for long term

when you understand that men live life from a completely different perspective and point of view, you will understand why they behave the way they do

and in turn, it should help you move accordingly

when you understand men, you know that being difficult, aka having high standards, letting them chase, prove themselves and provide

is actually doing them a favor

because that's how they feel alive

babying men, making their lives even easier than they already are, trying to be a good girl, is not what they want or need

even if most men would never admit to it out loud because they have their own agendas to protect

but they don't want anything easy

with the rise of "gold digger" content and encouraging women to ask for financial compensation and allowances from men

there's been this sentiment i'm seeing, usually from pick me's but als o from men

the idea that "we're encouraging women to become "bums"

let me tell you something right now now

a woman can never be a bum

not ever dead in a grave she wouldn't be considered a bum

what women provide to society and humanity is fundamentally valuable beyond the materialistic means of measuring it

the reason people think women are being bums is because they're comparing women to men

they're measuring us up against men

a man's contributions are measured in the physical world: money, assets, education, cars, what they provide to the capitalistic machine

what women provide is not measured in the physical (alone) but in the spiritual,

women's contributions have preceded most of these systems, even before money was a means of trade women were providing value

even in tribal society women were providing value

in times of war or peace women were providing value

before education and schools were a means to signify "value" and "status" women were providing value

so fundamentally you can't measure men and women by the same things

a billionaire marrying a woman with 0 money or assets is still being out-performed by the woman, she is still bringing in MORE than he ever will

i've talked about this before but material things are easily multiplied, they can increase or decrease in value arbitrarily

think real estate, stocks, cash, degrees

these things go up and down in terms of value

a woman's womb however?

a woman's role in raising generations?

a woman's labor and time being sacrificed to facilitate men's inventions and scholarly endeavors ?

a woman's intuition being used to make decisions by men (historically all politicians and kings used oracles to help with decision making)

those things never decrease in value and will forever be necessary for the continuation of human kind

i have to laugh each time people try to discredit women because they don't have the money or degrees of a man

you think a guy giving you an allowance and making you a stay at home mom, and buying you a car and some designer items is equal to a woman helping a guy up-level his very essence through her presence, helping him earn more money, get more respect an be taken seriously by other men, giving him offspring, providing stability and peace of mind and literally extending his life span (scientifically proven)

no man could tell me anything about wanting money because when I step into a date with a man I know that i'm literally a walking elixir of life, I know that my presence in your life can literally make you live longer and earn more money, find meaning and get respect

there's nothing to negotiate

men's famous "what do you bring to the table" is just a projection of men's biggest insecurity

that they are a burden and they take more than they give,

in fact,

most men provide no added value in any woman's life and are general leeches

the reason women feel bad for wanting to be provided for is because patriarchy has been working for years at diminishing and minimizing women's role

they love to dismiss us by saying we just cook & clean and give birth like those things are insignificant

but the moment mom is on a trip the house is in shambles

the moment women boycott motherhood world leaders are scrambling to deal with the declining birth rates and the resulting shortage in the labor force

the moment women are not appointed in positions of power and consulted when big decisions are made countries and governments descend into fascism and violence

sure hon, we're just cooks and maids and walking wombs...