We’ve been sleeping together for a year and have always used condoms, I’ve been very cautious about avoiding sex if I have any bumps I’m not 100% sure aren’t herpes, and I started taking daily suppressants again (not perfect about taking them every single day).

He already had it orally before we started hooking up. I’ve read that that makes it much less likely that he’ll get it Down There? Anyone have any stats on this?

Anyway last week he told me he had noticed some spots above his penis and so I took a look and there were three that looked like they could be but weren’t like super obviously herpes. Definitely enough to scare me though. I told him to get them swabbed asap, he managed to get an appointment two days later and were still waiting on the test results.

The nurse who swabbed him said she was worried about getting a false negative because they weren’t wet enough- is this a thing? What does that mean if it comes back negative? The blood test will just show that it’s somewhere in his system right so it won’t specify which part of his body... so is it just a wait until he has a flare up again and hope he can get it checked faster?

Anyone been through giving it to someone they are not in a Relationship with? I really care about this guy and want to be as supportive as possible but not totally sure how to best do this in our situation.

I noticed today that I’m having another outbreak. Last time, I went to Planned Parenthood to get valtrex, which they prescribed, but then the Pharmacy never got the prescription they were supposed to send and every time I tried to call Planned Parenthood I got put on hold for a ridiculous amount of time. So I made do with Lysine.

Since then, I’ve started seeing a new PC. I figured I would call her and ask her to send a prescription so that I could actually fucking treat my outbreak this time. She wasn’t in and the woman who answered the phone fucking harassed me. I told her I needed Valtrex and she asked all these questions about dosages and a bunch of other stuff that I didn’t have answers to. I told her I didn’t know what had been prescribed to me in the past but that my Dr. and I had discussed it last time I was in and she had offered to prescribe it to me but I didn’t need it at the time so stupidly turned her down. The woman on the phone said, “Uh, ok, well I can write a message here and have someone call you back but if I were you I’d work on finding that information”. 

Meanwhile, I’m in tears because obviously it’s not fucking easy for me to call and talk to a stranger about my active herpes outbreak and the way she’s speaking to me is as if I’m a junkie trying to get pain meds. Like last I checked nobody’s trying to party on valtrex I’m just trying to get rid of the fucking blisters on my bikini line

and this one time it was a guy calling in andso the djs call the girl and ask her like what did u think of him etc and everything shes saying is rly positive and theyre like ok well then why havent u been answering his texts?

and this girl goes OFF about how this guy comes to pick her up and doesn’t have a gift. Immediately she’s like nah fuck this guy. But she’s like “well I’ll get in the car because maybe the gift is waiting there”. No gift. “Well maybe he’ll give it to me at the restaurant”. Nothing. She stragight up wasnt down with this guy because he didnt bring her a present on the first date??? like who even does that anymore?? what kind of guys you been going out with cause I’ve sure as hell never met one like that

and the djs are as perplexed as me and theyre like “ok well... did he pay for dinner?” “yeah.” “...and did all the driving?” “yeah.” “And that’s not enough of a gift? To take you to dinner?” and shes still talking like shes disgusted by the fact that he didnt bring her a present

and so now the guy chimes in and instead of him being like “you know what? I don’t need this" he starts apologizing profusely like “I’m so sorry, I should have known to bring you something, it just didn’t occur to me but I should have known a girl like you would have high expectations I gotta step up my game” yadda yadda, promises to bring her two presents if she’d go out with him again like she’s dudley fucking dursley 

me & the djs are just losing our shit at this point cause both of them are fucking wack jobs and then the girl says she STILL won’t go out with him because if he didn’t think to do it on the first date then he clearly wasn’t a gentleman and that’s that.

The guy I've been sleeping with for like six months called me today and told me he had a one night stand and she had just called him and said she found out she had gonorrhea and had gotten it from someone before him.

He and I are casual so I assumed he was probably sleeping with other people and honestly I'm just glad that he immediately called me about this- at least I know he's being honest with me.