be gentle

Vintage apartment filled with green wallpaper | styling by Rydman & photos by Ostling

Ah well… another one for the collection.

In Obvious Child, the scenes with Jenny Slate and Gaby Hoffmann. When they hang out, Hoffmann brings her tea; they try on clothes and they’re throwing them at each other. There are similar scenes in Working Girl, but they don’t have the same intimacy. I feel like one of the things that male directors tend to miss is how intimate women are with each other in female friendships. Women are more likely to hug each other, share clothes or say ridiculous things to each other that they don’t say in mixed company. A lot of that gets lost when men try to translate female friendship on to the big screen.

and, yeah, i am defending straight women here. like… it’s not funny or just pitiable that every time they develop feelings for men and act on them they risk severe violence (physical or otherwise) from their oppressors. the idea that one of the most pure feelings in the world (love) is an inherent risk for women of all sexualities isn’t like… funny or a race to prove how your love is more work. loving men? is a huge fucking risk when it comes to things like domestic violence, being forced to take on domestic labor, and just about all the other shit that comes with being with men. loving women? is a huge fucking risk when it comes to homophobic violence and other forms of discrimination.